Education is an art. Both teachers and parents should really think more about children's education and explore educational methods suitable for children's personality characteristics to implement education. Today's children are very thoughtful, and their education should really pay attention to art, otherwise it will be counterproductive.
? One of my actions once gave me a taste of the difficulty of parental education. Now that I think about it, I still don't pay attention to methods and set up educational obstacles for myself.
My son was always obedient before high school, so I still trusted him. But after high school, my son has always attached great importance to his hairstyle. His hair is already very long, and he has been advised to cut it many times, but he always refuses under various excuses. And wash your hair every morning no matter how late it is, without interruption. It is already very cold in winter. I sometimes wear cashmere coats and warm pants, but my son only wears a thin spring school uniform and doesn't even have underwear, let alone warm pants. Every night when he comes back from self-study, his son always tells interesting things that happened in school and rarely discusses learning. Especially during the holiday at the end of last month, my computer broke down and my son instructed me to fix it. I play table tennis clumsily on the computer. My son saw it, skillfully told me how to play high scores, and told me that it would be more interesting if I was in the billiards hall.
? These changes in my son surprised my mother, who has been the head teacher for a long time. I am surprised that my child suddenly seems to know everything, much better than my mother. But I'm still worried, which gives me more guesses: Does the child have a favorite child of the opposite sex? Does the child date someone who doesn't want to learn? Do children use their spare time to go to Internet cafes and billiards halls? ..... Countless guesses, and it is determined that the son may really have a crooked mind. So these days, I pay special attention to it and beat about the bush, for fear that these dabbling outside of study will involve more learning energy.
? After more than a month, my son never took a nap at the small dining table again, saying that he had gone to school to study. I'm glad my son has the idea of studying, but I'm still worried. Afraid of going out to play at noon, he called his aunt many times at the small table. Although the aunt at the small table said that the child had entered school on time, her heart was still not practical enough.
One day after work, I called the class teacher and asked the teacher to ask the monitor. Does the son go to school for self-study on time every day? I didn't expect my son to come back from self-study at night and look unhappy. As soon as he entered the door, he asked, "Have you found a teacher? Why does the teacher ask me if I went to school every day? What does the teacher mean? Why don't you ask me? Why don't you ask me? Why don't you trust me? " A face of anger, even a little indignant. My son has never talked to me like this. I was suddenly speechless. I wanted to lie and tell him some truth. But judging from his appearance, I know that my practice has made him lose face, and my educational methods have backfired. I obviously feel that he hates not only me, but also the class teacher in his words.
As a mother, I know very well that all the great principles are useless at this time. Now he has to bear the responsibility himself, and he can't hate the class teacher. After thinking for a moment, I also told him angrily that I asked, but I didn't trust the teacher to ask the monitor, so I told him calmly why I asked the teacher. At this time, although he was still angry, his mood eased. He turned his finger at me from the teacher and said angrily that I didn't trust him. Tell me he doesn't want to listen to me anymore.
? As a mother, I know his character. Although I can't figure it out at the moment, I will be fine in a few days. But as an educator, I know that I must not let him have a problem with the teacher. That will really affect his study mood.
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? Later, it took a long time to repair the relationship with my son, and it took my son a while to change his view of the class teacher.
? My educational experience has made me meditate for a long time, and I am deeply touched: it is not easy to educate children, and education should pay attention to methods. Education is an art. As a parent, we should give our children more trust and sincerity, and at the same time tolerate the imperfections of teachers, understand and support their work; As a teacher, we should not be too straightforward in our work. Pay more attention to methods and art, there are many good educational methods.