Speaking of which, do you know when the prime time for family education is every day? In fact, it takes only three hours for the children to come home from school at night. Don't think of it as just three hours. Many education experts call it the "golden time" of family education. This time is very short and precious for children and parents. If parents use it effectively, it will get twice the result with half the effort! Next, let's break down the evening time from 18:00 to 2 1:00 for your analysis.
After school, parents should chat with their children to understand their day's life. The dining table is actually the most natural place to chat. But many parents are not good at chatting with their children. The conversation with their children is always: "Have you finished your homework?" "How many points did you get?" "How are you doing at school?" ... this kind of problem begins with reprimand and ends with reprimand, and rarely talks about the child's heart. Over time, children are reluctant to chat with their parents.
Smart parents should chat with their children like this: "Is there anything good happening at school?" "What good performance did you have today?" "Did you buy anything good today?" "Is there anything I can do for my parents?" ...
The seemingly simple question actually contains rich meanings:
The first question is actually to investigate the child's values and understand what he thinks is good and what is bad;
The second problem is actually to motivate children and increase their self-confidence;
The third question, let the children specifically confirm what they have learned;
The fourth question has two meanings, one is "I care about you very much" and the other is "Learning is your own business".
It is these four simple questions that contain a lot of love and care, and in fact they have proved to be very effective.
Asking what actually reflects adults' attitude towards life, determines children's outlook on life, and will guide children to develop in a positive or negative direction.
Open the child's chatterbox, parents can also ask: "which child do you like best", "which classmate in your class is the most naughty" and so on, so as to unload the child's defensive psychology. When children complain about their homework, parents should not criticize immediately, but should first express their understanding and then offer comfort and help.
Accompanying children with homework should be a fixed item for most families. Many families make a fuss about their children's homework, which is not peaceful. It is necessary for children to form good habits when doing their homework. Once the habit is not formed, children and parents will be very depressed.
Generally speaking, there are three steps for us to do homework with our children:
The first step is to ask the child about today's plans.
For example: "How much homework is there in each subject today?" "Which is more difficult? How are you going to solve this difficulty? "
"Which subject to do first, if the state is good, it will be difficult first. If the state is average, it is simple to find the feeling first. " Understand the child's progress in general, and observe it secretly when the child is studying, so as to be aware of it.
The second step is to help children master the method.
Some children are afraid to recite ancient poems. In fact, parents should help their children overcome what they are not good at. For example, teach him how to recite ancient poems efficiently, first teach children the rhyming place of this poem, and then find out the key words to help children understand what this poem is about. Finally, by reading the antithesis of words and understanding the characteristics of poems, reciting poems will be much faster.
The third step is to focus on analysis.
Every time a child comes out with a test result, discuss with the child why he made a mistake, whether he was careless or didn't understand the concept ... Tell the child that if he usually does more homework, the probability of getting a high score will be much higher. This can link the test scores with the quality of homework, thus improving the quality of children's homework at ordinary times.
According to these three steps, parents can accompany their children to do their homework, so that they can really accompany their children effectively. Accompanying children with homework is not a complicated matter, but parents really need to do it with their heart to get twice the result with half the effort, otherwise it will put pressure on children and be detrimental to their study.
When the children finished their homework, the family sat together and read books under the soft light. What a warm and happy picture.
Reading is certainly a matter of many benefits. Every parent wants his children to form the habit of reading. But how can they help children form the habit of reading? Reading with parents every night is undoubtedly a good way.
Parents accompany their children to study, which is conducive to creating a family reading atmosphere. When children grow up in this atmosphere, parents can set an example and naturally form a good habit of reading.
For children of different ages, parents' guidance in reading should also have different emphases:
For younger children, parents can take their children to read the same book and talk while reading. Parents and children together, this childhood will undoubtedly become their best memories. For older children, parents can let him read by himself, let him read by himself first, and then communicate with the children to see what the children have read, learned and thought of from the books. Parents only need to spare this hour every day, which can not only help their children to establish good habits, but also create an emotional good time.
If every family can make good use of these three hours to communicate with their children and turn the three hours with their children every day into classroom time for family education, then no child can't teach well! Parents must remember this. As parents, you should be clear about your responsibilities. Don't think that education is a school matter. Parents are the first teachers of the children. Family education is sometimes more important than school education. Don't use "no time" as an excuse.
Parents should never miss the best opportunity for their children's education because of their temporary laziness. Everything says it all. A day without supervision and laziness will lead to differences in children's grades, personality or other changes. If you want your child to be excellent and not lose to other children, you must act! Add "Rebuilding Homesickness Art" in the official account of V-letter WeChat to get the latest information on family education and art courses, share more dry goods of family education knowledge every day, and there are more benefits waiting for you to get ~ ~