How do parents educate their children at home? First, teach children to stand on their own feet and let them enjoy happiness in a sense of accomplishment.
Dear parents, we all like our children and care about them, but the way of caring is definitely very different. In my opinion, parents should let go as much as possible. Children should do things by themselves, let her arrange their own affairs as a whole, and even give her a chance to arrange adult affairs. I can give her advice a few times before, and gradually let her do it herself. When the child is doing something by herself, we encourage her and praise her to make the child feel that she is very capable. In this way, children will not feel bored, but will work harder to do things well and experience the joy of success.
Dear parents, children's independent homework can not only cultivate their practical ability and overall arrangement ability, but also help them gain first-hand perceptual knowledge in understanding the world around them and feeling the things around them, laying an important foundation for their future study of physics and chemistry.
Second, teach children to honor the elderly, respect teachers, and let children experience happiness in praise.
I have seen many children who have no rules, contradict the elderly and parents casually, and are rude and disobedient to others. I think we should deal with these problems in this way: the family always gets together for dinner, and children are not allowed to eat in advance, especially if there are delicious things, and children are encouraged to give delicious things to their grandparents and parents and praise their children for being sensible; When going out to eat, the child must not be specialized, and she can't eat until the adults start. We also praise our children for being sensible. Children must talk to the elderly, parents and elders in a consultative tone. Once you find her tone is wrong or emotional, stop her immediately, especially if the child talks to you or your elders like this for the first time. If you don't stop her, she will get into the habit of yelling at you! Let the children know that yelling at others is not allowed! If your child still has the habit of talking back and yelling at you, don't worry. You must never yell at her or criticize her severely. Instead, sign a gentleman's agreement with her that the two sides will not scold each other, see who breaks the rules first, and formulate punishment measures for violations. Don't pretend that I am the father, you must listen to me. This gesture is to praise the child for being better and constantly praise his progress. Good boy likes to brag. When children are with us and meet colleagues, our children must say hello to their uncles and aunts, say goodbye when they leave, and introduce the guests to their children when they go home, so that they can continue to do their own things after greeting. I think the guests will praise the children for being really sensible, and they will be sensible when they are happy.
Third, teach children to love the collective.
Learn to do things for the collective, bring happiness to others in the collective life, and feel happy in helping each other. Let children know the importance of team life. Children like their small families, and also cultivate their love for the whole class, and ultimately cultivate their tolerance, generosity and collective interests. For example, the teacher in charge of the class suggested that the children bring the small toys at home and exchange them with them. When the child comes home and tells the adults what she thinks, we should strongly support her and praise the child for doing the right thing. After receiving support, she will be happy to share her happiness with the children, which will not only promote the communication between the children and the group.
It can also expose children to more new things. In collective life, doing the same thing will inevitably lead to friction between children because of different opinions. One of the obvious shortcomings of children is that once there are any mistakes, when you stop them, they always have a thousand reasons to make excuses and excuses for their mistakes and mistakes. That is, never look for reasons on yourself, always look for objective reasons. Such a child, if he feels that he is not wrong, will not correct himself, form a habit, and always find fault with others, and he will never make progress. For my own children, whenever I encounter the above situation, I must warn her, reflect on myself immediately, admit my mistakes and apologize to others. Even if it's not your own fault, tolerate each other. Remember, "Good people blame themselves, and bad people blame others." Therefore, when guiding children to help other children, we should learn to cooperate with others and not blame each other, so as to realize the power of unity and cooperation.
Fourth, cultivate children's minimum concept of right and wrong, and let children grow up in the joy of thinking.
There is a story: one day, a family of three went to a fast food restaurant for lunch. At this moment, a mother and daughter came in. Mother asked for two bowls of porridge, one for herself and one for the children. The child took a bite of his porridge and probably thought it was not delicious, so he didn't want it. At this time, the mother picked up the bowl and wanted to return it on the grounds that the porridge was not delicious. The waiter said that the porridge had been finished and could not be returned. The parent insisted that he didn't drink it and insisted on returning it. So the parent quarreled with the waiter and finally got into a fight. As your child, what do you think? I think the child's point of view is: parents are not doing right. First, parents lied, obviously drank it, and said they didn't drink it. How do you know that porridge is not delicious? Second, in front of the children, they actually touched the waiter, which damaged the image of parents in the eyes of children and had a bad influence on children. Clear thinking and thoughtful consideration. Another time, I heard a mother scold her daughter on the road. Why did she only get 70 points in Chinese? What is the answer? How did you learn it? My daughter just cried all the way, and my mother asked these three questions over and over again. My opinion is: first, this mother is really wordy, just asking questions once, why is it endless? Second, the mother's way of dealing with problems is wrong. She wants to help her daughter analyze why she didn't do well in the exam, whether she didn't, whether she was careless, or what other reasons. Although it is a matter for primary school students, it can certainly be reflected in our kindergarten. In fact, parents want to succeed, but after all, children are unhappy as children in their growth stage. How much influence will parents have on their children's psychology if they blame them again? Adults should often discuss right and wrong with children, which is very enlightening to children's thoughts. Arguing and discussing with children will make children feel the fun of thinking. Regarding the above two examples, I would also like to mention a few points to parents:
First, never show the bad habit of being greedy and cheap in front of children. Always remember: greedy and cheap, eat big losses! Second, educate children not to nag, not to nag! Always remember: children's rebellious psychology often begins with their parents Rory's nagging.
Fifth, communicate with children on an equal footing and feel their happiness in listening.
Listen to children telling stories and jokes to their parents, including in class, in story books, watching TV and being told by others. Tell your child not to worry when telling a story, to be orderly, to explain the ins and outs of the story clearly, and to let her comment on her own story. Parents must concentrate on listening to the story and affirm her performance after she finishes the story. Tell your children stories by yourself. Try to be happy and exaggerated. Children will learn from you. If there are any major measures at home, such as buying something big and holding activities, we might as well hold a family meeting, where everyone will give their opinions. Children should also participate in family management, and her views should also be taken seriously. As long as it is reasonable, it should also be adopted. This will make children feel that their parents attach great importance to themselves, such as buying a car and asking their parents for advice on what color to buy. In short, the views to be exchanged with children can be all-encompassing, such as discussing honesty, exercising, being far apart, being broad-minded and so on. As long as there is a topic, find a topic yourself if there is no topic. When communicating with children, pay attention to skills. In most cases, children will ask us many puzzles. Adults should not directly tell her their own views, but ask her what her own views are first, and then let her listen to our views and analyze them. Even if children are confused when they encounter new things, we can ask, what do you think this is and how to wait? The purpose is to make children develop the habit of learning to think independently.
Sixth, pay attention to the influence and edification of family environment on children.
After coming home from school at night, it is the longest day for children to spend with their parents. After dinner, parents had better read, write and read newspapers instead of watching TV. In this way, children will naturally sit at the table and look at pictures. When they get used to it, they will develop the habit of reading books, and indirectly organize children to spend more time in contact with TV, which will lead to eye damage. When the children are older, we should gradually train them not to be influenced by the things of adults when they study. Adults can also watch TV and share good TV programs. It is normal for couples to quarrel at home, but they must not quarrel in front of the children. The negative impact of parents' quarrel on children's psychology is considerable, and children will feel depressed and lose interest in everything.
Seven, let children participate in social activities.
Activities not only exercise children's interpersonal skills, but also understand the society. Take the children outside to play and get in touch with new things. I think as people in Taimu Mountain, we may not know what beautiful scenery and cultural relics there are. When we have a rest, we can take our children to learn about our beautiful hometown.
Give the child some color to see see!
After all, children are children, especially when she knows that there is only one baby at home, and sometimes she will show the wayward temper of big ladies and constantly chauffeured. Give her some color to see, just give her some color to see. Don't spoil her too much, of course, pay attention to discretion.