1, for children, in addition to encouraging more communication, you have to really understand your child thoroughly in order to find the right way to deal with him. In other words, what method is most effective for him, then he must stick to it. Maybe you will say that nothing a child does has any effect. Then I think you came to this conclusion because of your lack of persistence. There are good and bad methods. You should stick to them for at least 2 or 3 months. Because children have different reactions to the methods you take in different situations. It's the first time to use this method, but it won't work next time; On the contrary, just because some methods don't work once doesn't mean they won't work next time. Therefore, we must persist for a long time to see the effect. If it really doesn't work, find another way.
2, to talk about the methods of praise and criticism. Praise should be in place, not general praise, not blind, and not insincere. He has obviously made no progress. Why did you say he did? And when praising, don't praise blindly, but occasionally add your own suggestions, such as: Son, your handwriting today is very good and has made progress, but my mother thinks it would be better if it were anyway ~ (first, we should affirm his efforts, and then point out his shortcomings). Try to control your tone when criticizing, don't scold, just use a firm and serious tone, such as. But I know it's no use being angry. You must do your own thing. Mom can't help you. Tell your feelings about his poor performance first, and then take punishment or education measures according to the situation. Otherwise, some children will not be able to do it as soon as they hear their parents scold, and they are under great psychological pressure.
3, homework can not keep up, can not completely blame the children. Sometimes he may be in a hurry himself, but most of the time he can't learn well and remember well. Since you have the habit of tutoring him, you should be familiar with his lessons. I suggest you take another way of counseling. Method 1: When he does his homework, you ask him to finish what he knows first. There should be time here, you can do your own thing, leave him alone and let him do it quietly (this is to let him know that learning is his own business, not yours, and that when you are not around, he can concentrate on his study more, and don't always think, "Will my mother scold me if I make a mistake?" )。 Then leave what you can't do until the end, and then you can go to psychological counseling. Before counseling, you should first look through what he has done before (at first you should help him check, and then you should give him the check slowly) and praise him for his good work, and then start counseling. In the process of counseling, if you can find the answer from the book, let him turn over the book himself. If not, don't tell him the answer directly, but try to let him find the answer himself (this is to cultivate his thinking ability. When children know how to think when they encounter difficulties, they can master learning methods.
Method 2: Try to integrate learning into life. For example, in addition to formal dictation, you can usually give him a surprise test. Sometimes you can directly ask: Son, test you, how to write the X word? ; Sometimes you can ask: son, mom forgot how to write X, would you? If he remembers it, he will write it immediately, which will give him another chance to practice. If he can't, you can let him read the book and write it for you when he finishes learning. Another example is math problems. You can take the above methods to surprise him in daily life by those questions he made in the exam. Sometimes you can test him by playing games. As a second-grade pupil, he must be happy to accept his mother playing games with him.
In addition, I suggest that you don't put too much pressure on your child and don't compare with other children (especially your child's poor grades at this stage). You should put the other children aside and don't always say who is who and how many points. In contrast, if the gap is too big, he will have no motivation to learn. You should let your children compare themselves. Every time you look at your report card, you should only look at your own children, not at other children's (this will eliminate your comparison mentality). 70 points this time, 80 points next time, that's progress, so you have to say: yo, kid, progress, not bad! Mom is happy for you ~; If the score is still 70, say: Son, the score has not changed this time. You stood still, didn't you? Try harder next time, okay? ; If it's 60, say, "Son, there's a step backwards this time. Is there any reason? " ? Let's find out the reason and try again next time. If you keep going backwards, you will grow smaller and smaller, just like little BB.
On the other hand, pay attention to his nutrition and work and rest. Lack of zinc and calcium will affect his memory, and the sleep time must be guaranteed not to exceed 10: 30, otherwise the learning efficiency will decrease, resulting in half the effort in learning.
The above methods are just some suggestions. You should prescribe the right medicine for your child's own situation. I hope I can help you ~