The dignitaries in the Eastern Jin Dynasty were very envious of Gu Jie:
"Xie Anjia's children and grandchildren are all charming and talented, just like Yushu in Lan Zhi grew up in the court, from generation to generation, never ending."
Once, a friend couldn't help it, so he asked Xie An:
"I haven't seen you teach children. How did they become Yushu in Lan Zhi? "
Xie An once said a classic sentence: "The best family education is that parents should be the best themselves."
Real education is not sacrificing all time and energy to accompany children, but trying to live and manage your own life.
Being a better self is the best education for children.
Some people say that children are the epitome of family education, and you can observe the educational level and quality of a family through children.
Many parents often lament that their children are not as good as others, but they often fail to lead by example.
Teacher Yu put forward some views and opinions on family education and children's growth, and selected 15 sentences here. I hope you can find the most harmonious and appropriate way to get along with children.
First, forming a good habit is something that can benefit children for life.
A good habit that a child has developed since childhood can be continued consciously or unconsciously;
Bad habits will appear repeatedly in the body consciously or unconsciously.
Even no matter how many times you correct it, the critical moment will still show up.
Second, cultivating children's love for the world begins with cultivating children's aesthetic ability for the world.
If a person can get infiltration and nourishment from Tang and Song poetry and the most beautiful prose in ancient China, then his life will become rich and his spirit will be self-sufficient and rich.
A good parent should learn to guide children to form a survey and understanding of beauty, what is good, what is bad, what should be resisted, what should be accepted, and what should be done when encountering setbacks and difficulties?
A person's spiritual world is sound, and his life will not be fragile.
Third, truly excellent parents know how to cultivate the beauty of children's humanity.
The real beauty of human nature is selflessness and being friendly to others.
And many times, family education often ignores the importance of this aspect. For example, many families will spoil their children, and the family will turn around their children, give them whatever they want, and cry if they don't give them.
After a long time, children will develop self-centeredness, and it is difficult to have that kind of empathy and friendliness.
This lack of mentality has led many children to grow into "giant babies".
Fourth, a good education is to let children learn to presuppose in advance.
Many times, there are often some vicious incidents when some young people encounter some setbacks in society.
It is often because they grew up too smoothly and did not experience setbacks and hard adversity training, which led them to completely collapse when they finally encountered some difficulties and setbacks.
Therefore, parents must develop a preset mentality when educating their children.
Let them know that all difficulties and hardships are for your growth.
It is necessary for children to learn an artistic specialty when they grow up.
This specialty is not to win prizes for competitions, but a real hobby.
Once a hobby becomes a habit, children have positive encouragement and feedback in the process of developing and adhering to a good habit. Every time you encourage and appreciate him, it is a kind of recognition.
In short, it is very necessary for them to give him a sense of accomplishment.
6. Children's physical and mental health is inseparable from persistent exercise.
Many parents always think that children's exercise is dispensable, and even consider it a very utilitarian thing. If they can win the prize in the competition, they will take part, or they will just play basketball and run.
I am over 50 years old this year, and I will still take my children skiing. They like diving, so I will go diving with them.
I value growing up with them more than winning the prize in the competition.
7. If you can, you must travel around the world with your children.
In this walking world, you can go with money or without money.
You don't have to fly or cruise to see the world. We can take our children to see places of interest and buy books for them, so that when they grow up, they can learn about the world, what happened in our country and what cultures and stories there are. This can be done without spending money.
8. It doesn't matter if you don't do well in the exam. The most important thing is to be confident in the last place.
Many people may think this is too abnormal. In fact, good family education should be concerned about children's rising space, rather than staring at immediate achievements. How parents and teachers guide their children is actually better than beating and scolding them.
In the process of children's growth, grades are certainly not the most important. How to improve children in a certain period of time is the key to regain their confidence.
Nine, people are always confused. I am still confused at the age of 56.
My daughter is still asking, Dad, what shall I do for the rest of my life?
I said it doesn't matter. When you really have nothing to do, look at the starry sea, take a trip to Africa with a bag, and teach in poor areas for about a year. These are all things you can do.
Ten, in fact, every child is a good boy, the key is whether you can cultivate it well.
Many parents spoil their children and have no rules since childhood. There are many ways for children's personality to explode, and parents' temper is often out of control. In the end, not only are they 18 tired to death, but the key is that 18 years old will kill you.
The process of indulging children, giving them whatever they want and letting them grow up is the process of falling all the way.
A self-disciplined person is a person who is willing to do good for others.
I found that in this world, parents who are willing to pay for others can often set a good example for their children.
Those who haggle over every ounce, are selfish and short-sighted, can hardly have a good life, and their children often find it difficult to get good guidance and education.
It doesn't matter how much wealth parents pass on to their children. You must pass on your character to your children.
Whether you are efficient or not doesn't matter. If you are kind and caring, you will be protected in this world. If you are protected, you won't be afraid of being hurt too much. This is what I think is the most important.
Sometimes, the biggest help to children is not necessarily money, but things that can benefit children for life, such as good personality, kind heart and beautiful mind.
Thirteen, the attitude towards children will always be your child's attitude towards you in the future.
Why should parents be calm when something goes wrong?
Because you can make your child feel at ease about anything he encounters, he can expect that no matter how bad things I encounter, parents will still treat them with her predictable attitude, which has nothing to do with your severity.
This is only related to your attitude towards children. Only in this way can you let your children be themselves in front of you, instead of being afraid of your power and authority. Only in this way will he treat you more peacefully in the future.
Fourteen, parents who can really control their children are calm on the surface, but they still keep their children in awe.
The real sense of awe is to let children understand that there are limits and boundaries in communication with their parents. Such restrictions will let them know when to say what and when to do what.
Instead of no big or small, no rules, parents also need to establish a sense of boundaries, such as not prying into their children's privacy and not interfering in their affairs management.
Fifteen, if children want to form a good habit, it is better to let parents form their own good habits first.
If the child starts at the age of two or three, you will bring all kinds of picture books and always take the child to read for half an hour every day. When he is six or seven years old or seven or eight years old, the child's reading habits will be developed for life.
Many times parents are used to letting their children do all kinds of things, but they are always duplicitous. If they can't cultivate a good habit, hold their mobile phones and let their children read books every day. How many children can do it?
I believe that as long as you listen to a sentence, it will resonate and bring about changes, which will bring you or your children and students a turning point in fate.
We expect your change to come true.