In children's minds, parents always love themselves, and love should be patience and tolerance.

Even if adults think that the child has done something wrong, as long as it is not a principled mistake, they can discuss and solve the problem with the child. If you can make a child by yelling, it's too inhuman.

There is an old saying? The human heart is made of meat? It's easy to get hurt if you cut it casually.

More importantly, in children's minds, parents' words are very heavy, and once they are criticized, they will be produced? I made a mistake. I am not good enough? With this idea, children will become timid, afraid to take risks, and feel insecure, which will seriously affect normal interpersonal communication.

2, affect the child's brain development

In the human brain, there is a special area responsible for language ability, called Wernicke's area.

According to this study, if children are verbally abused by their parents, the connection between this area and the frontal lobe will be reduced. This is enough to affect the normal intellectual growth of children, and the ability to understand declines, which is not conducive to personal learning.

Many children were originally smart, but because of their parents' language attacks, their brains eventually developed slowly. If parents want their children to become excellent, they should remember to make good use of the language and not delay their children because of their own mistakes.

In the face of children's bad behavior, as long as parents can hold back their emotions at that time and don't rush to yell at their children, they won't hurt them.

The more children shout, the more unruly they are. Parents may wish to try the following five methods, which are much more effective than beating and cursing.

How do parents control their emotions? 1, ask yourself

The most difficult thing for people is to control their emotions, not only for children, but also for parents. As an adult, when you may be upset at work, ask yourself, will you choose for the first time? Yelling at others? Really? Considering face and work, parents will choose forbearance.

But when dealing with children, parents will pour out bad feelings like volcanic eruptions. The mental shock that adults can't bear is even more difficult for children to face.

So, before you lose your temper, ask yourself why you are angry. If only the child doesn't do what he wants, it's completely wrong to yell at the child.

Step 2 breathe

People need to release pressure when they are angry. The most direct and quick way is to take a deep breath.

As we all know, even the closest person, losing his temper will affect the relationship. Children are no exception. No matter how many toys you usually buy her, as long as you are scolded, you will forget the kindness of adults to her.

As an educated parent, you must remember to take a deep breath before an emotional outburst. After that, you will find that it's no big deal.

Step 3 calm down

After stabilizing the mood, use your head to analyze the reasons why things happen, and whether the child's mistakes need to rise to big events. In fact, many times, as long as children are patiently taught and given time to grow up, mistakes will be avoided.

Step 4 Identify your child's needs

There are no children who don't make mistakes, and there are no children who can't correct them. Sometimes they just need their mother to say it gently? Remember not to do it next time? Can you get it? Rebirth? Opportunity.

Step 5 be absorbed

As parents, we should have both the attitude of adults and the mentality of children. If you can play with your child, even if the child is unreasonable, you will be willing to listen to the teachings of adults.

The world of children is actually very simple. Whoever can play with her is a good friend. Parents can spend more time with their children and understand their psychology better, even though their children are noisy? Incredible? Parents are also very understanding.

? You can't eat fat in one bite? The same is true of educating children. Don't expect children to be as sensible as adults, be more patient in everything. Children will always grow up and get close to an excellent life.