There are 3 1.09 children who don't like their parents talking to themselves in a commanding and urging tone; There are 18.05 children who are dissatisfied with their parents' denial, degradation and insult; 5. 16 children accused their parents of threatening to beat themselves. It should be said that threatening and beating and scolding children is a manifestation of parents' incompetence in educating their children. Even the stupidest parents should not threaten and abuse their children. Judging from the current family, most parents pin their hopes on their children. It takes a lot of efforts to realize this hope of "expecting children to succeed" or "expecting daughters to succeed", and the family is the children's first "school" and the parents are the children's first "teachers". The success of family education will inevitably become the key to the healthy growth of the "only generation". It has been said that the fate of a country is in the hands of parents rather than those in power-the future of society must be borne by the new generation, and parents shoulder the heavy responsibility of shaping the future. Therefore, it can be said that the parents of the contemporary "only generation" in China have great responsibilities. From the current children's point of view: because they are only children, they are "little sun" and "little emperor" at home. Some families ignore their children's mental health education, or fail to adopt correct educational methods and pay attention to the cultivation of good behavior habits, which leads to their self-centered and self-centered psychology. Over time, form bad behavior habits. According to the survey data of relevant parties in China, the qualified rate of children's psychological quality in China is only 19%, that in the United States is 4 1%, and that in Japan is over 60%. Some people say, "China's children are world-famous for their intelligence and wisdom, and they are also famous for their differences in psychological quality. "Therefore, we must attach great importance to family education and use correct family education methods to ensure the healthy growth of children until they become talents. First of all, education should start with understanding children, strengthen emotional communication with children and establish good family relations. Understanding is to understand the child's personality, interests, hobbies, what he is thinking, what he usually does and what kind of people he associates with. Understanding means not to ignore the role of children in the family. Children have something to express their opinions in the family, and don't say "what do children know". We should listen to their opinions in major family affairs and build a democratic family, that is, the rights and status of every member of the family are respected. Respecting children's rights and status at home is not blindly doting on children and putting them in the position of "little emperor". Obedience to children is not respect, but doting. Secondly, teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. In the family, children grow up under the influence and education of their parents and know the world around them. Parents' attitudes towards life, career and life have an important influence on their children. Therefore, parents should constantly improve their own quality. On the basis of the above knowledge and understanding of children, while attaching importance to setting an example, we should pay attention to the educational method of "opening a lock with one key", which can receive good results. Below, the performance of several common types of children and the main educational methods are listed: the first category: children with excess energy. These children are mainly fond of playing and fighting, and difficult to discipline, but they are smart, active, quick-witted and receptive. The main methods of education: first, we should establish good interpersonal relationships with children and let them know that they are not "disobedient children", so that they can easily receive psychological education and guidance. Secondly, we should let go and discipline appropriately. If the discipline is too strict, it will be counterproductive if it is not in line with their personality. Give him some freedom, some time and space for activities. Thirdly, patient teaching: patient education and persuasion, through reasoning, let children understand that some of their "opinions" are not so good and do not conform to social morality and norms, so as to give up their "opinions" on their own initiative, overcome their own problems and gradually move towards the road of growth. The second category: children who are not attentive in class. Such children are mainly active, fun and talkative in class, and even absent-minded when studying at home. Regarding the education of such children, some parents said, "That's a school matter, and I shouldn't be in charge, and I can't sit next to the children." In fact, to cultivate children to concentrate on listening, we should start from daily life, because living habits and study habits are closely related. The main methods of education: first, parents should train their children to listen and do it at once; Secondly, in life, parents can consciously train their children's obedient ability, such as arranging three or four things, what to do first, what to do later, and what to do finally. Parents can observe whether their children are like this; Thirdly, parents should consciously cultivate their children's attention and talk to them. Children must look at your face and listen. Fourth, parents can also tell their children some tips for attending classes; Fifth, parents should try their best to let their children retell the contents of the class, or talk about the most impressive problems in the class. The third category: children who pursue money and material enjoyment. This kind of children are mainly characterized by "wearing famous brands and eating fine products", paying attention to food and clothing, and some have to go to school by motorcycle and tricycle. The main methods of education: first, parents should set an example, be hard and simple, and tell their childhood life experiences and stories; Secondly, parents should tell their children about their family income and expenditure plans and seek their opinions appropriately; Thirdly, effectively educate children to spend money in a planned way and educate children with typical examples. The fourth category is children who have no attitude towards the education of their elders. Such children turn a deaf ear to the education of their parents and teachers. The main educational methods: first, let children understand the painstaking efforts of their parents and understand that any educational methods of parents and teachers are for the healthy growth of children; Secondly, education should be carried out in a harmonious atmosphere to eliminate their "hostility" and make them willing to listen; Third, give the child the right to speak and let him tell the reason, even if it is incorrect or untrue; Fourth, be more tolerant. After education, we will do something wrong, give us a chance to correct it and wait patiently. Fifth, the tone of educating children should be firm, and parents of both sides should speak in the same way. Some parents are joking, some are careless, some are understated, and some are boastful, which is not conducive to education. The fifth category, children with serious inertia. This kind of children are mainly manifested in passive learning, incomplete or plagiarized homework, which leads to blank test papers or cheating in exams and lax life. The main methods of education: first of all, we should start training from the usual housework, and don't let children open their mouths to ask for food and reach for clothes; The second is to help children make plans and strengthen supervision and inspection; Third, parents should lead by example and lead by example in everything; Fourth, we should cultivate the habit of hard work from the small things that children can do, persevere and insist on training. In short, parents should only adhere to the educational principle of "moving with emotion, reasoning with reason, guiding with action and perseverance" in family education. Educating children to be human is to attach great importance to children's ideological and moral education. As parents, we can't value intellectual education over moral education. Because what is more important than knowledge is ability, and what is more important than ability is morality. Family education focuses on educating children to be human beings, mainly to improve their ideological and moral level, cultivate their habits of observing social morality, and enhance their legal awareness and sense of social responsibility. Second, there are many ways to educate children to "learn knowledge", but the most important one is to cultivate children's good study habits. Don't force children to "memorize" knowledge, but focus on understanding and learning to use knowledge flexibly. Third, educating children to "learn to work" should guide children to participate in housework, support children to participate in social welfare work, and cultivate children's self-care ability and work habits. Children who study and work from an early age will benefit for life. Diligence is the foundation of all virtues, and laziness is the root of all evils. Therefore, it is a compulsory basic course for family education to arrange children to participate in labor from an early age. Educating children to "learn to stand on their own feet" children will encounter many bumps when they grow up. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's independent ability, the ability to face setbacks bravely, and the ability to improvise, so that children can learn to hone their wings and fly in the vast world. 5. Educate children to develop in an all-round way. Today's society is a competitive one. People without knowledge, special skills and abilities, in this competitive era, parents should not only educate their children to learn cultural and scientific knowledge well, but also actively participate in other activities to cultivate their abilities in all aspects, so that they can develop in an all-round way and become useful people in society. The education and cultivation of children is a very complicated knowledge, and our parents will certainly try their best to cooperate with the school education and create a good environment for the healthy growth of children. 4. Cultivate children's love for learning. It is not enough for parents to tell their children that it is important to go to school. They must also explain to their children that learning cannot stop with long grades or diplomas. Learning is a way of life. You don't have to spend a lot of money to improve your children's interest in learning, but let them see that you are reading. You can take them to museums or exhibitions. These rich extracurricular activities will make children have a strong desire for knowledge. Mr. Maybad, who was awarded the title of "Einstein-style youth" by the US Department of Education, strongly advocated that parents must participate in activities organized by their children's schools. Doing so will let them know that you really care about what they are doing. You don't have to have special skills, and you don't have to spend a lot of spare time helping children. Most teachers welcome parents to accompany their children on an outing, call other parents and print their children's term special reports. Often ask the teacher what help he needs. 5. Communicate openly. It is very important to find time to communicate with teachers, ask and observe what children are learning at the same time, and get these exact information. Parents can call the teacher to find out what their children have learned in class and what homework they have left. 6. Help children to be organized, help children to establish a study plan, mark all homework on the calendar, and let children do well in advance. Most importantly, parents should spend some time with their children. Research shows that it is important for the whole family to eat together. Generally speaking, children who eat with the whole family are more educated. The more vivid and clear the conversation at dinner, the more helpful it is for children to learn vocabulary. The larger the vocabulary, the stronger their reading ability. Seven, the process and the result are equally important. Parents need to create a carefree learning environment for their children and don't put too much pressure on them. Many times parents only value scores. If the child is a top student but can't tell you what he has done to get such good grades, then parents should fully understand his learning process at this time. When children need help, parents give them some inspiration and let them find the answer by themselves. Don't tell them the answer directly, but ask him, "where do you think I can find the answer?" In the dictionary or online? " Poor exam results are a sign that we should talk to our children. What caused him to fall behind? Does he need counseling? Or did he get bad grades because he didn't do his homework? These parents should understand clearly. Have high expectations for children. One way to encourage children to think about the future is to set family goals. Parents write a task book, the content of which is what their family should achieve this year, including what progress their children should make. Teachers also have their own tasks, don't let any students fall behind, try their best to help students with poor grades get good grades, and help students with excellent grades to a higher level. Have high expectations for children, and let children know this, which can encourage children to have confidence in themselves and make continuous progress. 1, let children like education. As a parent, what do you think is the most important thing to educate your children? "The most important thing in educating children is to make them like education itself and make them feel that education is a very happy thing, not a painful thing. Only in this way can they receive education happily. Therefore, I hope that children will go to school with a smile every morning and come back with a smile in the afternoon. " It is not easy to make children like education. How long do parents spend with their children every day? I must have breakfast with the children every day. After school in the afternoon, I will have afternoon tea with the children and listen to some interesting things in school. It can be said that as long as children want to be with their parents, their parents will be with them. Therefore, the time for parents to arrange work is basically from 9 am to 3 pm, because that is exactly the time for children to go to school. 2. Sex education and surfing the Internet. For most parents in China, there may be two puzzling problems in their children's education: one is how to educate their children about sex, and the other is how to control their children's surfing the Internet. "Sex education is very simple, that is, the whole family, including children, watch videos introducing human knowledge together and learn human knowledge with children. That's it. It's simple. The problem of surfing the internet is also very easy to deal with. The child's computer and the parent's computer are connected together, so the child's computer is supervised by the parent's computer, and the parents are very clear about the content of the child's Internet access. " 3. There is no generation gap with children. There is no generation gap except the choice of playing computer games. . 4. About scores, hobbies and expectations. Parents still pay more attention to their children's test scores, because "this also reflects their mastery of knowledge. If the child's test scores are not satisfactory, parents should find the reasons with their children and contact the school if necessary to find out the reasons for the unsatisfactory results. " We should basically not interfere with the cultivation of children's hobbies. Since it is a hobby, as long as there is no harm, as long as they like it. What are the children's own expectations for the future, but no matter what they do in the future, it is very important to educate their children to have good behavior now. Nine, what every parent should do. The job is to encourage children to listen to them, so that they can know what they are thinking and leave them time. Finally, as parents, we should always ensure that our children are on the right track!