1, communication
If children are rebellious, it is not recommended that parents directly reprimand or force their children to complete certain things, but should improve communication methods, such as patiently communicating with children to avoid pressure and emotion on them. A childlike heart. Be able to clear your mind and solve problems.
Step 2: Listen.
Nine-year-old children can express their ideas clearly, but if parents are not good at listening at this time, it may cause children to resist, so children may not want to express their ideas in the future. A vicious circle.
3. Trust and tolerance
There are some misunderstandings in life. Parents should believe as much as possible that their children's nature is kind and upright, and think from their children's point of view. If the child does it right, there should be enough encouragement. In addition, nine-year-old children have poor ability to control their emotions, so parents need to be more tolerant to prevent their children from having rebellious psychology.
Step 4 make rules
Nine-year-old children gradually establish their own concept of judging right and wrong, and their self-awareness begins to strengthen. Parents can start making rules on the basis of equality with their children and let them know the benefits of obeying the rules. Help regulate your behavior.
Step 5 lead by example
Parents' behavior will affect children subtly, so try to avoid quarreling and losing your temper in front of children. When confronted with unsolvable problems, parents should keep calm and set an example for their children.
Skills and methods of communicating with children;
1, look straight at the child and squat down to see.
Parents should not condescend and always accuse their children of being wrong or broken. At present, in children's programs at home and abroad, many hosts sit on the floor and look directly at the children when they speak, making them feel that we are equal. Therefore, parents should do the same. They should form a habit of remembering that parents and children are equal in personality.
2. Discuss with children and respect each other.
Whenever something happens, parents should discuss with their children: "Do you think we can do it? Can we go here today? " Children will also become people who respect others and form the habit of discussing things.
3. Let children learn to choose.
Choice is a kind of viability. When children have something to do, such as from primary school to middle school, many mothers will say, "I have made great efforts and invested a lot of money to get you into this key school. You must go." In this way, the child will be particularly painful.
In addition, some social activities organized by the school, including extracurricular remedial classes, should let the children decide whether to go or not. It is also the trust of parents to let children learn to choose.
4. Write a letter to your child and express it skillfully.
After entering adolescence, some children will be ashamed to express their feelings, so they can express their feelings skillfully by writing letters.
5. save face for your children
Think from the child's point of view and don't expose shortcomings in public, which is also an aspect of maintaining children's mental health.
6. Let the children go out to know the society.
Nowadays, there are so many social practice activities, so children should be exposed to society and exercise themselves extensively, which is very beneficial to their growth.
7. apologize to your child and say you're sorry.
When solving family conflicts, saying sorry will not only reduce parents' prestige, but will enhance children's trust in you. Therefore, when we do something wrong, we should bravely say "sorry" to our children.
8, learn from children, capable people are teachers.
Today's children do have many advantages, such as easier access to information than their parents. Therefore, parents may wish to learn from their children in their areas of expertise and often ask some questions. In fact, this also provides parents with the opportunity to consult their children and will enhance their self-confidence.