However, when people see that Duoduo and his sister are not only considerate, but also proficient in all kinds of talents, many parents want to learn from Huang Lei's educational methods. Of course, many people think that this is the way for the rich to educate their children, which is not suitable for ordinary families. In fact, I want to say that the educational concept is applicable to any family. The concept is not material, and there is no need to pay money, as long as the parents psychologically approve it.
Looking at Huang Lei's educational cheats is nothing more than doing these aspects:
First, husband and wife love and respect each other. Huang Lei shared his secret of family harmony before: "The wife is the leader, and the position must be correct; Husband is responsible for decompressing his wife. " Whenever Sun Li is in a bad mood, Huang Lei's favorite words to her are: "Don't be angry, let's play for a while." Then she coaxed Sun Li to go to the movies and take a walk with herself, and such a friction was nipped in the bud.
Huang Lei said frankly that Sun Li's management is the most important thing in the family, mainly responsible for assisting and selling cute.
Second, the concept of husband and wife education should be unified. If you want to "lead children" with leadership, both husband and wife should have a unified direction, so that they can have prestige for their children. If two people educate their children in different ways, the children will think that your leadership is not strong enough to convince and guide her.
Third, the promise to children should be fulfilled in time. Some parents say some promises easily, but they walk away, so that children will think you are a broken parent and will naturally refuse to listen to you and communicate with you in the future. As parents, don't make promises to your children easily, but you must keep your promises. This will not only leave a good impression of keeping your promise in the children's hearts, but also establish the prestige of your leadership. At the same time, your good image will also influence him subtly, so that he can form a good habit of keeping promises.
In fact, all families should be able to do the above three aspects easily, but strictly speaking, it seems that not many families can completely do it, which is a common fault of parents in China.
There are still many parents who can't help but be autocratic even though they know that they want their children to have the right to choose, just like there is a very strong saying, "I gave birth to you, so you have to listen to me." "When children say to you," I want to play on the slide, I want to eat ice cream, and I want to catch fish in the river with my friends ",most parents often say," It's time to eat, the slide will be delayed, children can't eat ice cream, and it's too dangerous to have diarrhea. "Parents give reasons for refusal, but children sometimes just don't listen and go their own way.
At this time, parents will come up with their killer weapon: "I gave birth to you, you have to listen to me!" " I said I can't go. I can't go. "
Regardless of whether the child's request is reasonable or not, parents are always used to making decisions in the name of "everything is for your own good" in a simple and rude way. And this kind of behavior is a knife, cutting away the democratic consciousness in the child's heart and making him feel that power can overcome everything.
This full-time job is not only reflected in playing, but also in studying. Many parents disagree with their children's interests. If their children want to learn painting, music and dance, parents are likely to say, "I didn't learn culture well." What's the use of learning that thing? " "This sentence not only hit the child's self-confidence but also hurt the child's communicative psychology. He is versatile. He can draw, play the piano and cook. Huang Lei once said, "It is better to support the poor and the rich with love. "If the daughter is interested, parents will naturally support it.