"It's never too late to eat or learn." The first half of the sentence is for everyone, but the second half is not easy to do. When a man was seventy or eighty years old, his face was frozen like a pear and he got dementia. What else can I teach him? Only Han Nongsun (if he is allowed to do such a thing), or simply sit on a wooden chair in the park and bask in the sun. At this time, children should teach students in accordance with their aptitude and teach their parents not to give up on themselves. They want to "become monks every day" and "life begins at the age of 70". As the western proverb says, "no dog is never too old to learn." Can people be inferior to dogs? And you can easily give many examples, such as:
1. Grandma Moses was still painting when he was one hundred years old.
Second, when Russell was 94 years old, he was still running for world peace.
Bernard Shaw is 92 years old and still making up a play.
Schwaetzer was still practicing medicine in Africa at the age of 89.
Goethe was 83 when he finished his Faust.
Beat about the bush, teach him to meet Si Qi, and strive for the top. He shouldn't indulge in old age and eat all day. Idling around, eating and dying, is worthless. Young people are worthless, but there is still hope that one day they will repent and turn over a new leaf. Older people are worthless, what hope is there? Second life!
The child grew up and even gave birth to a son. In the eyes of his parents, he is still a child. Therefore, it is filial piety for Lao Laizi to entertain his relatives with colorful clothes and make his servants cry. He was seventy years old at that time, and his parents should be over ninety. This kind of filial piety is now impossible. Nowadays, children will fly away as soon as their wings are hard. From then on, men and women got married, and the young couple formed an independent unit. Is five generations living under one roof an illusion or a nightmare? Modern children should remind their parents how to get rid of their old age, plan ahead as early as possible, and tell their parents how to save money for their old age and how to exercise to avoid many diseases. Most importantly, they should be psychologically prepared and need to help themselves. Feeding your own life has nothing to do with children. As the saying goes, "one person can raise ten sons, but ten sons can't raise a father." That's because the son himself has to support his son, and he is too busy to care about himself. Ten sons shirked each other, leaving dad alone.
There are many reasons for the generation gap. However, how to communicate in this ditch has to be subtle, and children are afraid of their parents. The previous generation had many strange habits. For example, parents often didn't know how their children spent money. Young people often whisper in their hearts, what do you need so much money for? You can't carry a penny in the coffin! A money looks like a bucket, strung on the ribs, but reluctant to take it off. Seeing that money is accumulating, the living standard has not improved. It's no use muttering. In fact, we should gradually advocate a new way of life. Seeing that one of his chairs is missing a foot and supported by a brick, you might as well buy him a swivel chair or something and see if he can sit. Seeing that his clothes are dirty, you might as well buy him a loose coat and see if he can wear it. Of course, it will cost several articles, but this is a case teaching method and teaching AIDS are inevitable. The ultimate goal is to let parents know how to live a modern life and let him know that consumption is not necessarily a waste.
People who start from frugality cherish materials. There is not a grain of rice left in the bowl, let alone falling to the ground. You can't lose a piece of paper or a rope, so that every family has a room full of junk. Tao Kan's bamboo story has always been a beautiful story. It should be noted that Tao Kan has at least a place to store those bamboo chips. In the cramped situation of three rooms and two halls, how can we accommodate that pile of things? Therefore, children should take the responsibility of cleaning up the old garbage at home from time to time. We should teach our parents not to feel sorry for each other. The old ones will not go, and the new ones will not come.
We China people generally have no habit of making wills. Although our children have their heads chopped off after their death, or sawed a nanmu table in half, or made a fool of themselves after years of litigation, we just refused to make arrangements earlier. The reason is to deny death. When people are alive, death is called "speaking out" or "taboo", which means that when it can be taboo, it will not be taboo until it is tilted. It is certainly impossible to force parents to make a will. It is also difficult to persuade parents to make a will. How to make parents make a will early? We should follow the script. When parents are in a happy mood, we should speak tactfully, be good at words and not hurt our feelings. It seems too late for parents to dictate their last words when they are ill and ready to change.
There are many methods of education, and example is better than words. Parents who are not mentally retarded will probably know how to imitate. In public places, if young people know not to speak loudly, their parents probably won't speak loudly. If young people know how to line up, their parents will not be in a hurry. If young people don't lead dogs on the sidewalk, parents may be embarrassed to spit everywhere. All kinds of silent teaching have a great influence. Parents educate their children, and children educate their parents. Some things are necessary.
Some parents are wrong in their behavior, even vicious enough to be brought up. A son also has the responsibility of education. Confucius said, "Parents, a few admonitions; If you don't do it at will, you won't violate it, and you won't complain about it. " In other words, if the parents are wrong, they should be gently advised and must be ignored; He won't listen, he can't give up, and he can't resent it. Of course, corporal punishment is not allowed. It is not enough to respect parents' weakness.