First, before attending the funeral, explain the funeral ceremony to the children and talk about what might be done at the funeral.
For example, "the funeral is to let everyone see grandma off and tell her that we all love her." "At the funeral, we will see grandma lying there, unable to move, but we can send her a flower and talk to her." "We may be sad, or we may cry. These are normal, because we all love grandma very much. "
Second, answer your child's questions seriously.
During the death of a loved one, the caregiver should promptly answer any relevant questions raised by the child and ensure that the child understands the answers. You can ask him, "Do you have any other questions?" Sometimes the child may ask the same question again and again, and the caregiver should listen and answer patiently, because it is necessary to answer the question again and again to help him understand what happened.
Third, learn to express your emotions correctly and demonstrate the reasonable expression of sadness to children.
If the caregiver is sad and tears, you can tell the child: "I am very sad, because I miss XX, and I will be fine in a while"; If the caregiver can't help crying, it's best to avoid the child so as not to make the child feel scared.
The positive significance of attending the funeral
Funeral is the most vivid demonstration course. At the funeral, everyone's behavior, including how people release their emotions, how to say goodbye to the deceased, and how to express their sadness, is true. As a parent, you should tell your child that someone may lose control at the funeral scene, but please rest assured that the child will be safe.
Of course, letting children attend funerals is also the need for them to learn and explore how to face their own life and death. Funeral can help them have a proper understanding of this, face the departure of their loved ones honestly, and take a positive step when facing a more difficult life.