First, this is an opportunity to give children life education and etiquette education, so that children can have a correct understanding of life from an early age, such as realizing that life is only once, realizing the fragility of life, and learning to cherish and treat life well.
Second, help children treat death correctly and normally, and realize that death is a common natural phenomenon. However, there are many unscientific and unreasonable elements in the traditional ideas of China people, which makes many people taboo and superstitious about death. Taking children to the funeral is conducive to dispelling the mystery of death and all kinds of superstitions.
Third, satisfy and strengthen family ties. Funeral is a kind of family education and etiquette education. If the deceased, as an elder, is of great help to the growth of children and has many excellent qualities, then letting children attend the funeral will cultivate good feelings such as gratitude and missing. In short, bringing children to funerals is beneficial to their growth in many ways.
Is it inappropriate for children under six to attend a funeral?
Some people say that children under the age of 6 should not attend funerals on the grounds that crying scenes will cast a shadow on children. Foreign kindergartens, such as kindergartens in the United States, already have death education, and even classes collectively take their children to real funerals. Whether there is a shadow depends on the guidance of adults. A mother did this:
Before the funeral, she told her 4-year-old child in advance, "Grandpa died, and we are all very sad. We may cry in the future. Crying is that we can't bear to part with grandpa, and it is also to express our thoughts about grandpa. Are you reluctant to part with your grandfather? " The child nodded and cried sincerely and deeply at the funeral. In fact, attending the funeral is the most direct death education for children. It can not only make children realize that life is only once, but also realize the fragility of life. It can also help them learn to cherish life, be kind to life and cherish the present.
However, younger children have relatively weak psychological endurance. In his immature mind, he still doesn't know what death is, so it is difficult to attend the funeral and play the role of life education.
In addition, for children who are too young, going to the funeral home to bid farewell to their relatives, where all the rooms are farewell to the dead, the ears are full of sadness and joy, and there are cries everywhere, which will definitely have a negative impact on their psychology. For example, after attending a funeral, some children will be afraid of being alone at home, afraid to walk at night, and may have nightmares at night. Therefore, it is best for children who are too young and immature not to attend the funeral of their relatives.
In short, we should decide whether to take our children to the funeral of their loved ones according to the actual situation. Everything starts from reality, depending on whether it is beneficial to children's growth or beneficial to children. If it is the former, take care of the children. If it is the latter, don't take the children. With or without children depends on many factors, such as children's age, psychological status, relationship with relatives and so on. In a word, this problem should be analyzed on a case-by-case basis, and there is no need to impose uniformity on all enterprises.
It is human nature to be born and die. At some point in life, adults will encounter the death of their loved ones. Sometimes, children have to face such tragic events. Properly handling the death of loved ones is of positive significance to children's emotions and emotions throughout their lives.