Ceng Zi's method of educating children.
"Everything is wrong. The foreign reserves said "Left" once recorded a Ceng Zi? Kill the pig and teach the son? This touching story has been sung by the world.
One day, Ceng Zi's wife finished her housework and planned to go shopping in the street. My youngest son, three or four years old, should follow. The mother was afraid of trouble and wouldn't let her go, and her son kept pestering her endlessly. There was nothing I could do. I had a brainwave and coaxed him to say, be obedient and go home to play. When I come back, I will kill our big pig and stew for you. Okay？
As soon as the youngest son heard that he wanted to eat stew, he stopped crying and asked seriously. Is it true?/You don't say. /You don't say.
Mother pretended to be serious and nodded. The youngest son immediately smiled through tears and went to play again.
Ceng Zi is godson. Ceng Zi saw the mother-child conversation just now. Ceng Zi knows, wife, what is this? Coax? Son, you don't really want to kill that big fat pig. At that time, I tried to stop it, but it was too late, and the words had already been said. Water under the bridge? Ah. What should we do?
Ceng Zi's wife came back from the street happily. As soon as she entered the house, she was stunned by what she saw: Ceng Zi tied the big fat pig at home firmly with a rope, with a discerning butcher knife beside her. The big pig struggled and roared, which was quite scary. How come? Does he really want to kill pigs? The wife quickly stepped forward to stop and said:
? You're crazy! I say this because I let my son bother me. That's a joke. Why? Coax? He, how can you be serious?
Ceng Zi seriously and seriously said to his wife:
? I know you are joking with your son, but you are not really going to kill the pig. However, have you ever thought that children are not sensible enough and will only learn and do according to their parents' way? Today, you didn't keep your word, and you didn't do what you promised. In fact, it is equivalent to teaching children to lie and deceive people. If a mother cheats on her son, his son will find his mother's words unreliable. If you educate him later, it will be hard for him to trust you. How can we educate children like this?
Hearing this, the wife felt that her husband's words were reasonable. She admires her husband, keeps her word, matches her words with her deeds, and cultivates her children's honest quality with a sincere attitude. She deeply blamed herself, stopped blocking her husband, and finally avoided the bad influence on the child's mind. Although the price paid is not small, it is worth it.
This story has been circulating in China for thousands of years, enduring and thought-provoking.
Ceng Zi? Kill pigs? It is a way to teach children to kill two birds with one stone.
Children are not only intellectually ignorant, but also morally ignorant. They can't tell right from wrong, good from evil, beautiful from ugliness, and they are easily influenced by the outside world, especially their parents. Parents are the first adults that children come into contact with. They live together day and night, inseparable. They are also the most prestigious and trustworthy people in their minds. Children believe everything their parents say; What parents do, they learn, and they never go out of shape.
The younger the child, the more he worships his parents. In their view, parents' words and deeds are the most standard ideological and behavioral norms. In the eyes of children, father is the best father and mother is the best mother. How to treat people and things should follow the example of parents.
Parents, if they don't strictly regulate themselves at all times, any bad words and deeds, even a little negligence, may inadvertently have a bad influence on their children. And once the bad influence happens, because children always? Prejudice? Get it first? Cognition? It's hard to erase it from the child's young mind and exclude others who are different from it on this basis? Cognition? . Therefore, the ancients in China paid special attention to exposing children to positive images, and never deceived children with deceptive words.
When his son was young, Ceng Zi paid special attention to the influence of his parents' words and deeds on his children, and tried to do this? Be careful what you say and what you do? , reflecting his strong sense of education. In his opinion, in the education of children? No small matter? . When getting along with children and dealing with children's problems, all words and deeds of parents must absolutely obey their education.
Who are the parents in front of the children? Belong to? Everything about children should be conducive to their physical and mental development. Children should not be hurt at all, and their pure and beautiful hearts should not be polluted and poisoned.
Ceng Zi? Kill the pig and teach the son? Is it because of Ceng Zi's measures to kill pigs that this story can be passed down from generation to generation? Kill two birds with one stone? I have educated my children and my wife with practical actions.
? Children's cultivation of integrity, sacred work. ? Be careful.
Some people may think: Why do you take children so seriously? Children may soon forget their parents' promises. This is a manifestation of lack of educational awareness.
Under normal circumstances, out of trust in parents, children will not easily forget their parents' promises. Many times, do children pay the price for winning their parents' promises? Price? Yes For example, in the story, Ceng Zi's youngest son wants to go shopping with his mother, but in order to win his mother? Kill the pig and give him meat to eat? Did he make a promise, give up the demands on the street and control his own desires? Sacrifice? Yes If parents don't keep their promises, children will think that lying and cheating are allowed, and they are likely to learn to lie and cheat like their parents.
Parents must understand that once you break your promise, you have to use it ten times? Honesty? What is lost is hard to recover? Prestige It is necessary to make great efforts to re-establish prestige and gain the trust of children. If you want your children to be honest, you must be honest first. People who break their promises can't raise honest children. Parents must be careful in front of their children.
17th century, British educator Locke said at the beginning of his book "Random Talk on Education":
? The impression we get when we are young, even if it is extremely small and almost imperceptible, has a huge and lasting impact; Just like the source of a river, water is very soft, and a little manpower can guide it in other directions, thus fundamentally changing the direction of the river. With the guidance of such roots, rivers will have different directions and finally flow to very distant places. ?
Locke's metaphor is very apt, profound and thought-provoking ? A little difference, thousands of miles away? A slight deviation in the direction of childhood education will have serious consequences.
China ancients said:? Children's cultivation of integrity, sacred work. ? It is in this sense. Early childhood enlightenment education must be cautious and not taken lightly.