Mental health problems have become a big problem that puzzles human beings, such as irritability, heavy work pressure, children playing truant, emotional crisis, etc., which will all cause depression, insomnia, anxiety or other diseases. It can be said that how to calm one's impetuous mentality, how to relax oneself and pay attention to mental health has become one of the important new topics in 2 1 century.
First, the motivation of learning mental health counseling
Today's social life is constantly changing. Facing the rapidly changing environment, we will deeply feel that the knowledge, ability and experience accumulated over the years have been challenged as never before. In real life, the foundation and conditions on which we live will change dramatically overnight. Contradictions and conflicts in study, work and life often plague people's healthy minds and seriously affect their academic and career success. To tell the truth, before the training of psychological counselors, my understanding of this was one-sided and trivial. But since watching the first video, the concept of psychology has gradually become clear, which has also deepened my strong interest in this subject.
Second, the necessary qualities of mental health counselors
1. A tolerant heart
The purpose of psychological counselor training is to help more students in need. Therefore, it is absolutely necessary to do our best to achieve a better state. Through study, I learned to put myself in the other's shoes and learned a lot of psychotherapy methods. However, the most influential and inspiring thing for me is to learn to put yourself in the other's shoes, so that individuals can look at things more calmly and objectively, see the truth of things clearly and learn to be tolerant.
be ready to help others
Only helpful people can give students warmth, create a safe and harmonious atmosphere, accept all kinds of positive and negative emotions of students, and thus enter the inner world of students. "Helping others" is easy to say, but not everyone can always do it. Those who only care about themselves, are selfish, or are withdrawn, taciturn and lack enthusiasm are also difficult to be qualified as psychological counselors.
3. Strong sense of responsibility
Psychological counselors should not only listen patiently to students' stories, concentrate on them, and make them feel concerned, but also talk with students sincerely and frankly to gain their trust and make them willing to expose their inner pain and secrets. Careless work, half-heartedness, impatience and irresponsibility are unacceptable for psychological counseling.
4. Relative mental health
Psychological counselors guide students through their own behavior, so his health level is at least higher than his students. Although psychological counselors themselves are ordinary people, including secular desires, wanting to be loved, wanting to be accepted, wanting to be recognized, wanting to be affirmed, longing for security and so on. Just like others, he must be able to satisfy these desires outside the consulting relationship, so as to ensure that the tasks of psychological counselors as social roles can be effectively completed without causing role tension. In the same social environment, a psychological counselor will encounter all kinds of life problems and psychological conflicts with most of his students, but he can maintain a relative psychological balance and solve his psychological conflicts outside the consulting relationship, so as not to interfere with the consulting work because of personal problems. A qualified psychological counselor should be a happy person who loves life and has good adaptability. To gain the trust of students, counselors themselves must be willing to keep growing and make unremitting efforts in life.
These qualities are formed on the basis of innate qualities and under the long-term influence of the environment, and they are relatively stable psychological characteristics, which can not be obtained only by learning theoretical knowledge. Therefore, people engaged in psychological counseling must first test their own quality if they want to be competent for this job.
Third, a relatively perfect knowledge institution.
Do a good job in psychological counseling should have the necessary theoretical knowledge. Psychological counseling is not only relying on good wishes, enthusiasm and common sense to comfort and persuade those students who are in trouble or encourage psychological patients to fight against diseases. Sometimes, cheap comfort will cause students' incomprehension, disgust and conflict. Psychological counseling should help students with scientific knowledge and skills, make them understand the real reasons that bother them, correct or give up their unsuitable behaviors, and make their psychology mature.
Only by combining theoretical knowledge with practical ability can we understand how students' difficulties are formed, what are the root causes of contradictions and conflicts, what is the real significance of their psychological symptoms, and what defensive measures are used to deal with inner conflicts, so as to help students analyze problems, guide them out of difficulties and promote their personality growth.
Fourth, skilled counseling skills.
The theoretical knowledge and skills of psychological counseling can be learned. In addition to learning from books, it is more important to learn from students and sum up experience in practical work.
In the process of psychological counseling, there are certain counseling skills: acceptance, listening, empathy and so on. It's easy to say, but it's really difficult to fully accept those students with psychological problems. When students with psychological problems need help, they should first accept each other, that is, take the initiative to pay attention to each other unconditionally, listen carefully to each other's troubles, empathize with each other, feel each other's feelings, understand each other's situation, let each other's emotions be vented, then discuss together and finally solve the problem. Therefore, as teachers, we should change our mentality, pay unconditional attention, listen with empathy, treat each student sincerely and promote the healthy growth of their personality.
Five, superficial experience
1. Understand the difference between moral problems and psychological problems.
Before, I always thought that what students did wrong in the learning process was a moral mistake, so I always taught students not to do this or that. I think students should come to school to study, finish their homework, listen carefully in class and get along with other students. It is also necessary, but students should not do homework, fight or be tired of learning. It's the students' fault. Teachers should criticize and educate them to do well. However, after psychological counseling, we will analyze these problem students. Some of them have certain psychological problems, not just moral problems. Therefore, according to the students' situation, we should make a concrete analysis and take corresponding measures to solve the problems among students.
2. Self-psychological adjustment and health care
Through learning, I have a further understanding of teachers' own psychological adjustment and health care methods, know myself and dialectically treat my own advantages and disadvantages; Learn mental health knowledge and mental health knowledge, master psychological adjustment methods, learn to relieve psychological pressure, improve bad personality and improve psychological endurance; Adjust emotions and maintain psychological balance; Be good at choosing your own happy angle to think and deal with problems and establish good interpersonal relationships; Willing to contribute to work, and arrange time reasonably to relax; Cultivate a variety of hobbies and cultivate sentiment. Only in this way can we devote ourselves to teaching activities with positive and healthy enthusiasm.
3. Understand the importance of improving their own quality
Teachers' own quality directly determines the educational behavior. Only when teachers master scientific knowledge about the psychological development of children and adolescents, carry out education according to scientific laws and methods, and deal with students' psychological and behavioral problems and accidents in daily life can they really implement mental health education and really promote students' mental health development.
Through the training of psychological counselors, I deeply realized that mental health consultation, education and teaching are equally important to the development of a school, and it can even be said that mental health has a far-reaching impact on students' future development than education and teaching; Psychological counseling is a process in which teachers and students grow together. Only when students and teachers grow up healthily psychologically and physically can the relationship between teachers and students really develop harmoniously.
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