(1) Correct self-concept. Correct self-concept is an important condition for mental health. Only when a person knows himself correctly can he behave appropriately, adapt to study and work, develop himself diligently and educate himself actively. If his self-concept is incorrect, he may think highly of himself, think himself great and do things beyond his power. He may also feel ashamed and refuse to express himself truly, thus forming a heavy psychological burden and unable to calm down.
(2) Moderate ambition. It is necessary to understand the requirements of society for individuals, which are allowed by the environment and which are not allowed, and their changing trends. We should be good at comprehensively analyzing the advantages and disadvantages of individuals and the advantages and disadvantages of the environment, tap the favorable factors of the environment, give full play to the advantages of individuals, on the one hand, fight against fate, transform the objective, on the other hand, adjust the subjective, determine the appropriate level of ambition, and avoid doing things that cause setbacks;
(3) Harmonious interpersonal relationship. When getting along with people, their positive attitude (such as respect, trust, friendship, etc. ) is always more than negative attitude (such as hatred, doubt, fear, etc. ), and they have a sense of unity and security to their collective, and they are always willing to sacrifice their personal desires for collective happiness;
The harmony between individual and society. When their own needs and desires conflict with the requirements of society and the happiness of others, they should give up and modify their own action plans in order to seek harmony with society;
(5) Pour out the accumulated depression in your heart. Long-term suppression of ideological and emotional contradictions in the heart will affect brain function and cause psychological obstacles. Only by pouring out your emotional problems can you feel comfortable and play a certain stabilizing role.
Three stages of adolescent sexual psychological development
Adolescence is the intermediate stage of children's transition to adults. During this period, children have undergone drastic changes in physiology and psychology, especially with the development of sexual organs and the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics, boys and girls have also undergone great changes in psychology, reflecting obvious sexual psychological characteristics.
Teenagers generally go through the following three stages of development in sexual psychology.
1. Temporary alienation from the opposite sex
In the short period of youth development, middle school students tend to avoid students of the opposite sex, which is most obvious for girls. This is mainly related to physiological factors. Because of the appearance of the second sex, middle school students feel at a loss and shy about their own drastic changes, instinctively alienate the opposite sex, and even hate the opposite sex.
This period will last about 1 year. After the onset of puberty, because the differences between boys and girls in shape and function are more and more obvious, the childhood of unrestrained slapstick and laughter ended in mutual contact, and there was a brief alienation.
They seldom associate with each other in their studies and activities. Because of the different personalities of men and women, boys will feel that girls are delicate, timid and open-minded at this stage; Girls, on the other hand, hate boys' rudeness, naughty and ignorance. This phenomenon generally appears in the upper grades of primary school to the first and second grades of junior high school.
2. Respect for the elderly
In the middle stage of youth development, middle school students often have spiritual resonance, worship and love some people who are particularly outstanding in literature, sports, knowledge and appearance in the surrounding environment (mostly elderly people of the same sex or the opposite sex), and try their best to imitate the words and deeds of these elderly people, even fascinated.
3. Longing for the opposite sex
With the continuous development of body and mind, teenagers are full of curiosity, anxiety and even fear about the development of secondary sexual characteristics, and are eager to know about sexual knowledge. In the late adolescence, with the maturity of sexual development, middle school students tend to be interested in the opposite sex of the same age, hoping to get in touch with him or her, or trying to attract his or her attention on various occasions. However, because middle school students are emotionally unstable and have strong self-awareness, they are prone to conflicts in the process of contact, or they quarrel or even break up because of trivial matters, so their communication partners will change, showing that Zhang San is good today, Zhang San is bad tomorrow, and Li Si is good.
Temporary alienation from the opposite sex lasts for a short time. After this short period of time, boys and girls soon have a close need and have a psychological attraction to each other. I like playing games, doing homework and participating in various social activities together. If the development of teenagers' sexual consciousness in this period is not correctly guided, there may be bad tendencies such as puppy love. Even ignore homework and group activities. Naturally, normal sexual intercourse between men and women should be accepted and encouraged. Liking the opposite sex does not mean falling in love. Teenagers should grasp it correctly.