1. Black face is definitely not a tool to suppress children. Many times, the darker the parents, the more rebellious the children are. For tianyi's example, a bad face is absolutely ineffective for him. Tianyi's problem is that there are too many people who love him at home and put him in the highest position in the family, so even if he has a bad face, he knows that there are many backers behind him and there is nothing to hide.
Parents must believe their children can grow up well. A child is like a sapling. As long as it is given enough sunshine and nutrients (parents' love, understanding and companionship), the sapling can grow upright and thrive on its own, and will not grow crooked for no reason. Many times, it is not the problem of the small tree itself, but the problem of the grower. The child's behavior is biased or not as good as parents expect. Many times, it is not the children who have problems. Parents should never rashly label their children, thinking that their children "have problems" and "need to be corrected". Parents should first look at whether their requirements are reasonable. Parents should understand more: children are emotional, parents are rational, and children are just children after all. Do not encourage them. It is difficult to judge and ask children in an adult way. Children have their own characteristics in each growth stage, and good parents will change the way they get along with their children to accompany them according to the characteristics of each different stage of their growth.
3. If you can get along with your child with respect, understanding, appreciation, support, praise and encouragement from the beginning, and let your child feel enough love, confidence and security, there is no need to worry that your child will become a child like Tianyi. When children become like this, and then try to suppress them with a bad face, that is to add insult to injury and add fuel to the fire. What we need to do is to reflect on why children become like this. The child was born with a blank sheet of paper. There is no Xiong Haizi in the world, and Xiong Haizi was brought out by parents who didn't know how to raise their children correctly.