I think it is very important to set strict standards for children from an early age, standardize their behavior, truly distinguish right from wrong and understand the truth. This will enable children to develop strict requirements, make continuous progress, be optimistic and confident, standardize their behavior and distinguish between right and wrong. Specific practices are as follows: 1. Let the children know that the school regulations are reasonable, and even if there are defects, they are constantly improving. Therefore, as students, we should strictly implement the school rules and be a model for observing discipline. The main task of students is to study. It is a dereliction of duty not to finish homework, so parents can force them not to watch TV or surf the Internet when they can't finish homework. There is no room for discussion. In fact, children will get used to it after a long time. 3. Educate children to be grateful, so that children can be grateful to society, teachers, parents and classmates from an early age. For example, after my child graduated from primary school, I invited the primary school teacher to dinner, but I didn't invite him to primary school for six years, and the teacher didn't understand. I told the teacher that the purpose of inviting the teacher is not to thank the teacher, because it is the teacher's bounden duty to teach the children well. And my purpose is to cultivate children to have a grateful heart. 4. When we set standards and regulate children's behavior, we must work with children and let them participate, which will increase their awareness of consciously observing.

Two: the relationship between parents and children

Children are the crystallization of love, and I believe that parents all over the world will love their children as much as their babies; Children are the ideal carrier of parents in a certain sense, and parents control their children as if they control their own limbs; Children are emotional postmen, and parents interweave all the joys and pains of children's growth; Children are the hope of parents, and parents look forward to their children's future just like waiting for a warm dawn on a cold night. The relationship between parents and children is so inseparable that families without children and children without parental care are so lonely and fragile.

Parents can be happy for their children or miserable for them. Children may be degraded or sublimated by their parents all their lives. So, what kind of relationship should parents and children establish? I think, first of all, we should maintain and improve the innate relationship and cultivate and develop the acquired relationship. Congenital relationship is mainly blood relationship, which can also be said to be the relationship between elders and younger generations or being led; The acquired relationship is mainly the relationship between teachers and students, and the relationship between friends and lovers. 1. Leadership relationship: Leadership relationship comes from blood relationship, so we should know how to maintain and develop this relationship. Ignoring the family will cast a thick layer of dust on the blood relationship between parents and children, and the biggest victim is of course the fragile and innocent children. The impact of this kind of injury on children's personality and future is obvious. Many problem children come from irresponsible families. Children's intelligence and body are normal, and some are even extraordinary. Why do children with normal intelligence and body make those abnormal mistakes? Parents as guardians have an unshirkable responsibility. While we feel sorry for the children's depravity, we also want to tell their parents that you can be busy making money and wait helplessly, but you must not forget your duties as guardians of children. This blood relationship was established in previous lives, given by God and required by law. Because to a certain extent, you are the leader of children, and you have the obligation to grasp the direction of children's progress. 2. The same teacher-student relationship: Parents are the best teachers for their children, which I think every parent should understand. In my opinion, parents are also a cosmetic mirror behind the stage of children's life, showing the beauty and ugliness of children, the advantages and disadvantages of children, and parents are crucial to the success or failure of children's roles. Parents teach their children to say the first word, take the first step and be the first teacher to teach their children about the outside world. This teacher-student relationship is instinctive, spontaneous, pure and selfless. Strict father's loving mother, this is the simplest and simplest view of parent-child relationship expressed by our ancestors. When a child does not know how to respect his elders and care for young children, people will say that the child lacks family education; When a child has bad conduct and weak will, people will say that the child lacks family education; When a child lacks independence and adaptability, people will also say that the child lacks family education. Therefore, as parents of children, our duty is not only to teach children to say a few words and walk a few steps. The growth of children not only needs to master the skilled application skills of the five senses and limbs, but also needs to have advanced rationality, wisdom and emotion different from other animals. Parents are the best teachers for children, and such teachers are more effective. Hating iron and not turning into steel is the soul portrayal of parents in poor countries, but we should not advocate the way of pulling out seedlings to encourage children, which will do more harm to children. We should change our hatred that iron will not turn into steel by making iron. Parents, as teachers of children, should educate their children in a timely, appropriate and accurate way. I think if we master these, the teacher-student relationship between parents and children will be guaranteed. Friend-like relationship Since parents are children's teachers, they should also be children's good friends. The relationship between friends is equal, friendly and respectful. This is the most basic condition for dealing with all other relations. Children have their own life and spiritual space. In some social activities, they also need to make their own decisions, express their views and show their talents. At this time, they are eager for equality and respect, and they are eager for understanding and help like friends. Parents have become their closest and friendliest friends. Many children feel lonely and inferior. What they lack is this friendship and understanding, and a spiritual sustenance. This kind of emotion is established in a subtle way and is sincere and lasting. With this kind of friendship, the happiness and pain in children's hearts will not be homeless, and so many children will not go astray because they have lost their way home in society. The harbor of children's hearts needs this kind of friend relationship between parents and children to maintain. People often say that love is sweet, which dilutes the bitterness of life and makes people see the hope ahead. More importantly, this sweetness enhances people's motivation to move forward. As the heart and soul of parents, children can certainly be the beneficiaries of this relationship. Parents' hearts are filled with the happiness of children's growth, and children's hearts are filled with their parents' warm care, their belonging and care, and they are in the same boat through thick and thin, just because they love each other.

The relationship between parents and children should be interdependent and mutually reinforcing, and should not exist independently. Maintaining and perfecting these relationships will safeguard the dignity of parents and the rights and educational obligations of children. When you feel that your relationship with your child is a leader, a kind teacher, a friend and a lover, you will become the most qualified parent.

Three: Be the real guardian of children's growth.

I think educating children requires care, skill and willingness to pay. In fact, as long as you put your heart into it, there is nothing difficult. Let your children develop good study habits in grade 1-3, master good study methods in grade 4-6, follow the right path in junior high school for three years, and do psychological care and life guarantee in senior high school. Specific experience: 1. Grasp the direction. Our children are in junior high school for three years, which is the third rebellious period in their lives and the most powerful one. Because this time is a critical period for the development of their teenagers, parents must pay more attention to their children, communicate with their children calmly, be calm, be of one mind, understand and guide. 2. When helping children grow up in junior high school, we should deliberately cultivate their ability to complete various tasks independently and change what they usually do for you and what they do for you; Gradually transition to teach you to do, watch you do, and rest assured that you do. Discover children's specialties, improve interest points, increase knowledge, pay attention to praise and improve interest. 3. Sacrifice ourselves. If we want to educate our children, we must first set an example for them. The power of example is infinite, so we should keep learning, pay attention to the update of our own knowledge, learn from others' experience with an open mind, play less mahjong and drink less, communicate more with children, and parents should read books when children do their homework. Such a good atmosphere will promote their growth.

Four. Some experiences in guiding children's study.

1. Interest is the best teacher, efficiency is the most important process, and grades are the final result. For example, by watching the TV series Romance of the Three Kingdoms with children, guide children to watch the original Romance of the Three Kingdoms; Guiding children to read books with the essence of China traditional culture, such as Historical Records and Zhuangzi, naturally promotes the study of classical Chinese and the thirst for historical knowledge; By watching TV dramas that show the efforts of revolutionary martyrs, children's strong will and personality charm can be gradually cultivated. 2. Extensive reading and knowledge improvement are interactive. In particular, English, Chinese and history are a long-term accumulation and improvement process. Let children read more books to increase the width and depth of knowledge and achieve accumulation and improvement. 3. Solve the problems in the process of children's growth calmly. Going on the rampage and even hitting the child can't solve the problem. Inner trembling is more effective than physical torture. After an exam, it's not just about how many points your child scored. It is important to recall the process and ideas of doing the problem with the children and find out the reasons for the mistakes. 4. Give full play to children's specialties. Our children are all good children and will be good students, but we should pay attention to discovering children's specialties at ordinary times. Children have their own characteristics and are rational; Emotional; Some have good memories; Some have strong understanding ability; Some have strong hands-on ability; Even the arts and sciences are different. As long as we pay attention to give full play to our own advantages and focus on solving our own weaknesses, I believe that children will definitely raise the sails of learning and master more knowledge.