They always like to educate people because the older generation always thinks they are elders. They have experienced many things themselves and their views on things are correct. These young people can't do things, and their elders like to teach others to do things with their own experience, but these experiences can't be used anymore.
Elders like to teach others lessons because they have a sense of superiority in age.
Elders like to teach others lessons because they think everything others say is right. An elder can preach and criticize others at will according to his age and seniority, because even if he says something, others dare not refute it, because he is an elder and he is old. So, he gradually developed such a bad habit. He feels quite good himself, but in the eyes of others, he can only endure it and respect his elders. He just listens to himself and won't take it seriously.
That's right. Older people think they have been through a lot,
So what I said about some things is also correct. Young people are forced to do things according to their own views. But young people have their own methods and plans, so conflicts often arise because of disagreement. Finally, young people often contradict experienced elders and often complain that young people are disobedient, so young people are rare.
Some experiences given by elders are not so useful now.
Many elders just like to give young people all kinds of advice, saying that they should get married at the age of 20. If they don't get married, nobody will want them. The sooner they get married, the better. People will get angry and lose their temper if they don't listen to themselves. Finally, they will quarrel. Many of their experiences are out of date and simply not suitable for today's society. We should listen to their opinions properly.
The elders like to preach to others for the good of these young people, but many experiences are no longer applicable to this society, and they will still tell them. As the younger generation, they just need to listen. Listen to your parents' reasoning since childhood, and listen to your teacher's reasoning after school. Society seems to be reasonable everywhere. When we were young, people never rejected rationality, because we didn't form stable values ourselves, and that was the time when rationality was needed.
But when we grow up and have our own ideas, the truth about others often goes in one ear and out the other.
Especially teenagers, especially rebellious. They not only oppose the indoctrination of all truth, but also fight back and blame each other. The conflict with parents illustrates this point well.
When we are adults, with the maturity of dialectical logical thinking, the refutation of truth begins to have a dialectical shadow, that is, to absorb its useful views and abandon its backward views, so as to reach the degree of selectively listening to others' preaching.
Generally speaking, we don't have too much aversion to others' persuasion and teaching, but we also need to divide the situation, such as the age and identity of the other party, our own mood, our situation and so on.
If the other person is the same age, then we generally don't listen to the other person's reason, because everyone doesn't want the same age to educate us from the height of their elders. If the elders educate us, then we can only listen.
The identity of the other party also affects our willingness to accept persuasion. If the other person is someone we despise, we will not accept his point of view.
If the other person happens to be the best in our field, we can absorb some helpful knowledge even if the other person is arrogant.
But there are always some people in life who don't look at other people's faces and always look like a condescending mentor. What is the psychology of this kind of person who especially likes to reason with others and be a life mentor?
They like to preach to others, and the most important reason is family.
Their parents always preach, and they preach whether their children succeed or fail. If children refute, they will say, "If you have it, change it, if you don't, encourage it."
In such an environment, it is difficult for children to form a didactic character.
As adults, they get along with others in the image of guidance and preaching. In fact, they don't have any bad ideas, just because of their personalities. They can't get along with each other in other ways, and they will feel uncomfortable if they are asked to praise others.
Therefore, parents with this habit, while educating their children, must pay attention to being friends with their children, play with them, explore together, and teach them how to get along with friends. After all, adults don't like being educated by others, even friends.
Some people are relatively silent, and external stimuli are not a simple thing for them, but contain profound meanings. No matter what they see or hear, they like thinking, but don't like sharing and feeling. They want to know the principle behind things.
When communicating with others, this kind of people always inadvertently reveal this feature, giving people a feeling of "teaching themselves to do things".
In fact, they don't want to influence and control others, but that's their character. Knowledge and exploration are the main theme of their lives, even when they are in contact with others.
In interpersonal communication, not all information is directed at others, such as "talking to yourself".
When people are talking, they will occasionally enter a state that looks uncomfortable, that is, they have not finished their words. The integrity of speech is very important to them, and they pay more attention to the logic of speech, so they have a missionary demeanor in their speech and behavior.
But in fact, they are not educating others, but want to tell their own stories and opinions. It doesn't matter even if the audience ignores them. Their purpose is just to organize their own language and speak it.
They may be born with a strong language talent, be good at speaking or have a unique interest, and occasionally talk endlessly, completely ignoring other people's feelings, so it may be the best way to ignore such people directly.
Comfort others is a interpersonal skill, but not everyone will comfort others, only gentle and selfless people will comfort others.
When others are sad, different people will react differently. Some people feel the same way and comfort each other with other people's complaints. Others tend to put facts and reason, hoping that the other party can get out of the haze.
These two kinds of people are actually kind to each other, but it may be better to preach to men.
Preaching when a woman is sad will only lead to worse results, because women are usually more sensitive and will make them feel that you are not on her side.
In a word, people who like to preach are not all bad-minded, but they talk too much about the church and cause others' dissatisfaction. In order to maintain the stability of interpersonal relationship, people who have this habit had better correct it to avoid rejection.