Mother-in-law convinces people by reasoning when she talks about paying, and does not treat her daughter-in-law as a family. But when she asked her daughter-in-law to pay, she convinced people with affection, saying that the family would not talk about it. She held the role of her elder and hoped that her daughter-in-law would pay regardless of the return. In a word, my mother-in-law just doesn't want to suffer a little loss, but she hopes that her daughter-in-law can pay and bow to her.
There are good and bad mothers-in-law. Good mothers-in-law are all the same, and bad mothers-in-law have their own disadvantages. Yang Juan met a selfish mother-in-law, who likes to make trouble and made a mess of her married life.
Yang Juan and her husband Du Lin have been married for three years, and they have always been very loving. Their marriage was originally very happy, and it would be more perfect without her mother-in-law.
Yang Juan has a bad relationship with her mother-in-law. When she first got married, she wanted to get along well with her mother-in-law, but several things happened later, which made her completely lose her expectation for her mother-in-law. When she is confined in Yang Juan, she hopes her mother-in-law can help take care of her. Unexpectedly, her mother-in-law simply rejected her and said to her, "I am your mother-in-law, not your mother." If you need someone to take care of you, go to your own mother. I have no obligation to take care of you. "
Yang Juan was stabbed by her mother-in-law's words. Before that, she always regarded her mother-in-law as a relative. I didn't expect her to be an outsider. It was at this time that Yang Juan understood her mother-in-law's heart. She no longer has any expectations for her mother-in-law. After her mother-in-law refused, she took a month off to take care of herself.
It seems that this matter has passed and the days have passed quickly. Yang Juan is out of the month, and the children are slowly growing up. Her mother-in-law still often finds fault with Yang Juan in her life. Yang Juan doesn't want to argue with her mother-in-law or talk to her. She should do whatever her mother-in-law says and does.
After dinner that day, Yang Juan accidentally broke a plate while washing dishes. Her mother-in-law heard the sound and rushed into the kitchen, pointing to Yang Juan's nose and scolding her: "How do you work? How did my Arlene marry a woman like you? That is a woman from a small family. Her parents have no rules, even her daughter has no rules. A look is that there is no tutor, and even the basic work can't be done well ... "
Seeing her mother-in-law talking more and more, and even scolding her parents, Yang Juan couldn't stand it any longer, and retorted, "You can scold me, but you are not qualified to scold my parents. No matter how unruly I am, I am better than you! " Seeing that Yang Juan had contradicted herself, her mother-in-law got angry, slapped Yang Juan severely and said to her, "How dare you talk back without rules?". I will educate you for your mother today! "
Mother-in-law's hand is very strong, and half of Yang Juan's face swelled up instantly. This scene happened to be seen by Yang Juan's mother who came to visit her daughter. When she saw her daughter being beaten, her mother suddenly became anxious, rushed to protect Yang Juan and said to her mother-in-law, "What are you? It's your turn to educate my daughter. My daughter has been pampered by our old couple since she was a child. We don't want to do anything to her, but you do. I'm telling you, you apologize to Juan! Otherwise, I won't finish with you today! "
Mother-in-law refused to give up, and neither did Yang Juan's mother. The two men had a heated argument. Later, Yang Juan's mother took Yang Juan back to her family in a rage. When Du Lin came home, she saw that her mother-in-law was the only one at home, and she suddenly wanted to know. He knew the whole story very well and blamed his mother-in-law: "How could you do this to Yang Juan? Yang Juan has never wronged you, nor has he done anything wrong to you. She is your daughter-in-law, not your enemy. Can't you treat her well? Do you have to divorce me to make you happy? "
My mother-in-law feels very wronged. Her daughter-in-law blames her, her own mother blames her, and even her son is on her side. Is this what she did wrong?
I believe that every girl will want to please her mother-in-law and get along well with her mother-in-law before getting married. Who would have thought that her marriage was full of contradictions and quarrels? But many times, the ideal is full and the reality is very skinny. It will be her blessing if she meets an easy-going mother-in-law after marriage. If you meet a mother-in-law who only makes trouble and doesn't accept her daughter-in-law, even the best temper will be worn away.
Just like Yang Juan, she once wanted to get along well with her mother-in-law and hoped that her mother-in-law would accept herself. She forbeares her mother-in-law everywhere, but she is bullied to a greater extent than her mother-in-law understands. Therefore, women should not tolerate everywhere in marriage, which will only make others think that you are weak and can be bullied. No matter when, you should be hard-driving, mainly soft, and let others respect you.
As a mother-in-law, you should also understand that your daughter-in-law is as human as her son, and she is also a treasure in the hands of her parents, who care for her grown-up children. Daughter-in-law gave up her life as a little princess at home and married you, not to be a nanny. If you can't get happiness when you get married, who wants to get married?
A good mother-in-law must first accept her daughter-in-law, respect her daughter-in-law and treat her as family. If she can't do this, she should try to stay away from the life of her son and daughter-in-law, and don't let her behavior become the biggest promoter of destroying her son's marriage.