However, Mi Tao, a poor girl, didn't. She began to refuse the "summer camp" opportunity that her mother finally gave her. Although Xia Huanhuan, a good friend and classmate, can broaden his horizons as never before, cartoon dolls, dresses and big houses are within reach. Most importantly, everyone in Xia's family is very kind to her, and her good friend Xia Huanhuan is willing to share everything with her without reservation.
Mi Tao's mother is very willing to rub this traffic for a long time. After all, the other party is not reluctant and is very willing to join Mi Tao. Since husband and wife can't afford a richer material life for their children, there is no reason not to accept this gift. Including my own child, Mi Tao, we should all cherish this gift.
People will respect a barefoot child like you. You are so good at rebirth. I really doubt it. If Xia Jia always welcomes her, does she want her daughter to stick to Xia Jia like a dog skin plaster, go to junior high school, go to college and get a dowry? Mi Tao's mother thinks it's right, too. Although in front of Xia Junshan, Mi Tao's mother didn't say anything, and said that Mi Tao could walk more than ten miles alone since he was a child. The poor children are not so delicate, but when she comes home, facing her taciturn daughter, Mi Tao's mother begins to struggle and collapse.
She expressed disappointment at her daughter's lying. She didn't like her daughter being too introverted and always walking next to the wall. Most importantly, she blamed Mi Tao, and the opportunity she worked so hard for was rejected by her unappreciative. She forced her daughter to be sensible, let her learn from the children in the city, and watched her daughter fail. She looked bitter and desperate: mom and dad brought you here to go to school, just hoping that you could learn from them like children in the city. How nice it is to see people happy and generous every day! Look at yourself. You want to walk under the wall every day.
Mi Tao's father was also angry: "Don't be so ungrateful. How much are my parents willing to pay you, but you have to live up to expectations! " You must live up to expectations! "
Because Mi Tao didn't speak and refused to answer his parents' forced interrogation, Mi Tao's father angrily pushed the child: "Do you say you still recognize this father?"
I really want to take Mi Tao away through the screen and say no for her. But unlike those who have been poor together, poverty is not only material poverty, but also fatal poverty in thought, which makes a principal's daughter become a walking puppet.
The couple's education method is really short-board. In their eyes, the daughter is an ugly duckling in the country. Although her grades are good, compared with Xia Huanhuan, the little swan in the city, she really doesn't want anything. Therefore, they really want to make Mi Tao like Huanhuan, but they can't catch up with the summer camp and various super-long classes in high-rise buildings, so they simply send them to other people's homes for one-on-one training.
They kept shouting, how much did my parents spend for you? How much did they actually spend? See how much money Li Nan Xia Junshan spent on Xia Huanhuan's hobby. It's an underground place. This will in their mouth is not to bite the bullet and decide to put some blood for their daughter after various calculations. And all kinds of exhortations are not easy to show in front of children.
To put it bluntly, Mi Tao's parents are not qualified to compete with Xia Huanhuan at all. In fact, their wrong lifestyle has caused Mi Tao to "hate" the world around him more and more.
Poor parents' dog licking mentality is in Shanghai, where money is flowing and Aishana is everywhere. In the eyes of Mi Tao's mother, even if her daughter is a schoolmaster, the city is eclipsed by her slight cold background. When they come to this city from the depths of the mountains to work hard, there is always a humble psychology. This humble long-term attack is the solidification of their eternal class. In the eyes of Mi Tao's mother, employers like Xia Junshan Li Nan are always superior to her.
Xia Junshan Li Nan's family was polite to her, never looked down on her, and sincerely respected her. There is absolutely no need for her to appreciate this attitude, but it is still too humble in her bones, and people have written it on her face. Mi Tao's mother smiled a little humbly and instantly became a long-term worker of the landlord's family. Mi Tao, who has also become the daughter of a long-term worker, is sure to be the foil of the employer's daughter unconditionally, just like her.
People can't be humble even if they stay in the mud all their lives. Never think that the courtesy and modesty of the rich are gifts for the poor, an education that everyone should have, and a high degree of civilization that a city should have. This is not a reward for the poor, but the most basic way for people to get along. You don't need to regard the civilization of the rich as so advanced, just look at it as ordinary, no different from yours. Parents regard themselves too low and humble, and feel that it is not easy to do anything. Everything they pay for their children is a debt owed by their children. Therefore, children are required to be more sensible and motivated, and children will never have the right to say no.
Like Mi Tao, she once went to school in the mountains and was forced to be separated from her parents. One day, she was suddenly taken to the city by them, thinking that she had become a child with shoes. But one day she deeply felt that wearing these shoes was worse than walking barefoot. However, she can't express her uncomfortable right. Once she does, her hard-working parents will not like her children's inner humiliation and lack of charm. Peach was shaking, so she had to cut off her toes and put on those shoes.
There is a kind of poor parents who always think only about their own difficulties and love each other with suffering as a weapon, but they are forced to do so.
At first, Mi Tao's mother offered to take care of Li Nan's mother and was willing to do more troublesome things. When communicating with her husband, she said that this treatment is very cost-effective, which is equivalent to taking several classes for free in Xiajia. In fact, does Mi Tao's mother do this only because Mi Tao needs to make up the Olympic math? Another important factor is that she is optimistic about the rich environment of Li Nan's family in Xia Junshan. In this environment, Mi Tao can broaden her horizons, and she doesn't want to be too cost-effective. It is a win-win situation for both companies, and it is a timely help to solve the urgent need.
So when facing her husband, she plays a very good job, but when facing her employer's family, she should thank others for their gifts. When facing her daughter, she should try her best to educate her to cherish opportunities and turn her daughter's good friend relationship into a foil. Mi Tao's mother's life is really fragmented. In a word, I don't like this poor mother who is exquisite in all aspects. I want too much, but I calculate everywhere, hoping to replace it with the least resources. How can there be such a cheap deal in the world? You know, any success requires a hundredfold effort. Don't think your parents are great just because you have made a little effort.
In fact, in real life, is it necessary for her to do this? It's really unnecessary. Instead, let Peach go back to the mountains and chase Shan Ye with her childhood friends. Because of the dog licking mentality, she is rare in the flow and calculation of Xia's family, but it makes her daughter more reticent. Is there any reason why Mi Tao is not silent?
Because the parents of rich classmates are good, her mother should be more sensible. Although Li Nan's family doesn't think they are poor and don't love rich people, in fact, we can see that the ugly duckling from the countryside has properly become the background board of the city cygnet. But Mi Tao's mother doesn't know the gap in her child's heart.
As we all know, the national goddess Zhao was born in an ordinary peasant family. In an interview, the host asked her, did you feel wronged because you didn't have a doll since you were a child? Zhao blurted out directly: I didn't find it difficult. All my friends around me are the same. There were no dolls in rural families at that time. There is a saying that you are not poor but unequal.
Always have to face the huge life difference between yourself and your friends. You should allow your children to take a vacation, and you should allow them to take a half-day leave from the summer camp, right? The child has mental anxiety, and this mother who licks the dog mentality is still carrying out her crying education and does not allow the child to be ignorant. This is obviously the pressure of parents not knowing their children.
Maintain a sense of boundaries and protect children's vanity. The most incredible thing about seeing Xiao Shede is why Mi Tao's mother has to work part-time at her daughter's classmate's house for a long time. In Nan Li's words, a dedicated and meticulous mother like Mi Tao is a treasure in a million. Why doesn't she know enough to avoid suspicion, so why doesn't she face her daughter? As for the sentence of Mi Tao's father, I dislike my daughter for not giving them a long face. Then where did these parents give their daughters a long face? What's more, she has to go to her daughter's head teacher and math teacher's home to work for free. This little gesture actually makes the other party very uncomfortable.
Where can we talk about money, really don't climb feelings. If you force your feelings into it, it will become a heavy bitterness when it comes to children. Originally, she was generous enough to make money, but later she owed others a debt, which made Mi Tao heavily in debt.
All relationships in this world need a sense of boundary, such as husband and wife, mother-in-law, and of course classmates, especially classmates. Especially for the Mi Tao family, it is more necessary to establish a sense of boundary between children and classmates, do something more bloody in front of children, and hold up the table for children.
In this vast world, it really depends on luck to teach children. When encountering the simple humanity of Li Nan's family, lining is as important as face. Or maybe Mi Tao's mother wanted to seize a lifeline too much to help her daughter integrate into the big city, so she chose to work part-time at her daughter's classmate's house.
But she is too impatient, and the child's spiritual construction is not so strong. In fact, even if the adult world flaunts that everyone in this world is equal, we should also see that this world is full of prejudice. Before the world is not so perfect, parents should think more about their children's self-esteem.
If you are like Mi Tao's mother, you have to allow your children to vent their emotions, and then you have the ability to channel and control the situation. If you don't have this ability, you'd better not challenge this troublesome mode. Especially when classmates get along, they need some mystery. It's best not to show each other naked. Smart parents have always understood that some circles have to keep their distance. In the real world, there should be no unwise parents like Mi Tao who choose to work part-time at their daughter's classmate's house.
A friend of my mother's wants to place an order with several classmates' parents because her in-laws grow crops, peaches, apples, millet, walnuts and some mountain products in the mountains. However, she hesitated. If no one joins her, she will feel embarrassed. If someone buys it, the children in the class will listen to their parents and go to class the next day to talk about her daughter. She was worried that the child would not be able to carry it, so she came back to complain about her.
There are many ways to sell, so why covet having no parents? I told her that since you have such concerns, you should give up the idea of selling mountain products. In fact, sometimes we have to understand children's vanity. People who are considered "humble" in the secular world earn less if they can earn less.
After all, my mother's friend has taken on millions of mortgages in order to qualify for this primary school. There is no need to get her into trouble so unwisely because her daughter is greedy and cheap, causing unnecessary butterfly effect.
In the whole drama, what we should appreciate most is that Mi Tao, a poor girl, knows how to refuse. Although she lied in front of others, it was only a white lie. It is her polite refusal to her friends, and frankly, it is her discomfort and suffocation. She didn't have her attitude until she had seen the world.
Sometimes, we really don't have to fully accept the kindness of others. We are as humble as Mi Tao's mother, and we feel the gifts of others all the time, so that our children can begin to feel your incompetence, and she will never lift her head.
There is a saying that habit becomes nature. In the long run, you will forget what an excellent person you are. If you are used to accepting help with a weak attitude, you will forget that it should be your own business to give an umbrella to your child.
I hope every parent will not brew bitter wine and force their children to drink it.