However, this precious mother also has a lot of helplessness. For example, one party is disciplining his son, and the other daughter is looking for trouble for herself. The way to solve the problem by herself is basically dependence? Huh? .
But can this kind of shouting really solve the problem?
Cure, roar, roar.
Roar? This is really a true portrayal of family education that I discovered a few days ago. When I took my children to the park last weekend, a family took their children, parents and grandma. I had a good time at first, but suddenly there was a loud noise. I told you not to buy drinks for children. If you have to buy it, you shouldn't take you out. ?
Because the park is close to home, I can often see this grandmother with her grandson when I take my children to play several times later, so I will be familiar with it for a long time. Later, in an accidental conversation, the grandmother said that she had long been used to her son.
Grandma also said that when her son was young, she often did the same, always following? Huh? As the primary way to solve the problem, even the neighbors have become accustomed to it. Grandma also said that it was not until now that she had a grandson that she finally realized how great her original education method was, and what she did then was not education at all, but emotion? Vent? .
American psychologists have done an experiment to educate children who make mistakes in yelling and whispering. The results show that the reprimanded children are extremely aggressive, while the other group of children are willing to correct their mistakes.
Education in a low voice? What are the benefits?
Psychologists also say that the volume of communication is directly related to the effect, which is also applicable to educating children.
1, low voice education to relieve emotions
Sometimes, maybe the child really didn't do anything, so he was yelled at by his parents, as if things were much more serious. If adults can educate in a low voice from the beginning, they will avoid emotional influence, parents will be emotionally stable, and naturally they will be respected by their children.
2. Strive for a win-win situation
Criticism is not the purpose, the purpose is to make children realize their mistakes and correct them, but some parents are confused and their children don't listen to what they say at all.
If parents can communicate with their children as quietly as possible, children's attention will be more focused and their parents will speak quietly, so children naturally have no reason to shout loudly, so that children will really listen to their parents' teachings.
3. Good personality
If parents always use yelling to solve problems, it will also lead children to form a thinking mode of using yelling to solve problems. After a long time, it is easy for children to form a grumpy personality when they grow up, and their attitude towards their parents is inevitably extreme. And low-key education can make children more kind, which are subtle effects.
Specific methods of low voice education
1, lower the tone.
This is very simple, just keep your voice down, especially for children under six.
2. Watch your words
The last article has been talking about the benefits of lowering the volume when educating children, but in addition to tone, parents should also pay attention to their words, such as? Language violence? Everyone has heard of this word.
The next time parents criticize their children's mistakes, they can start by expressing their love. For example, say this to your child: I love you, son, but I am really dissatisfied with your behavior just now? Although it sounds awkward, children will gradually realize their parents' good intentions compared with impulsiveness and nonsense.
3. Practice tests truth
At the same time of education, it is better to be supported by practice. For example, when visiting a supermarket and passing a wine rack, parents will tell their children not to move because they are worried that their children will touch the bottle. But once the child is in trouble, parents will say:? I told you not to move, okay? But in the eyes of children, apart from criticism, no lessons have been learned.
Speaking is an art, and education is also an art. It is really effective to communicate with children by yelling, but what is really effective is education in a low voice.