If parents want to give their children a good family education, they should make a plan from their children's needs to the ultimate goal of education.
First, enjoy life.
Enjoying life is the ultimate goal of education. To establish a correct concept for children, the best reward for parents is not to get high marks, but to live a good life. Learning is only a part of life, not the whole of life.
Second, read classics.
Reading classics is the key to learning Chinese well and an important way to understand life. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's reading spirit, and let them develop good reading habits, so that they can get it in the exam not just by going up a storey still higher. It can also cultivate children's literary talent, which is a kind of cultural influence, so that children can unconsciously integrate into the reader's world.
Third, moisten things silently.
Every child has to go through a rebellious period, which is understandable, but in the face of children's rebellious period, parents should not vent their emotions and dissatisfaction at will. We should understand the child according to his mood and the root of his mood, and respect his opinion, instead of forcibly apportioning.
Fourth, training independence.
After all, it is impossible to cultivate children's sense of independence from an early age and live under the protection of their parents all their lives and respect their choices. This is the most important thing parents should do. What they need to do is not to let the children touch the red line. As long as their choices are reasonable, parents should not judge their children indiscriminately. The choice of children is also worthy of respect. Only in this way can we cultivate children's independent choice, cultivate their independent consciousness, respect their parents all the way, let children grow up gradually, learn not to escape when encountering things, learn to think, and grow into a person with strong opinions.
Fifth, about carelessness.
Many children have this problem since childhood. Let the children know that carelessness is a sign of poor ability, and that the performance of not being practical and promising is not an excuse for children's poor exam results. Careful and calm are necessary abilities. It is understandable to lose points occasionally in your study, but if you exceed two points, it is lack of ability. For the emergence of this topic, parents should accept the child, communicate and make him realize the importance of this matter.
Sixth, cultivate children's ability.
Within the control of parents, children should be given enough space and choices. For example, if they still want to do something by themselves, let them do it by themselves. If you teach him blindly, get to know him and educate him in a way that he hates, it may be counterproductive. For example, if a child does this, he may end up with only 30 points. If his parents help him, he may get 90 points, but on the other hand, these 90 points will always belong to his parents. Even if the child scored 30 points, it was the result of his own efforts. If there is a next time, he may do better than his parents thought. Giving children opportunities and encouraging them is an indispensable way for parents to educate their children.
Seventh, common sense children, support self-confidence and care for self-esteem.
Parents in China often have such a misunderstanding when educating their children. They don't pay attention to discovering the advantages of children, but they overemphasize their shortcomings. This requires parents to analyze their children's mistakes realistically, not to turn over old scores, to face problems positively, not to impose negative emotions on their children excessively, to establish their self-confidence and care for their self-esteem.
Only by doing the above can we have a good family education as much as possible. Children can grow up healthily and happily.