In the face of setbacks, if we can properly change the angle and way of thinking and re-evaluate and examine setbacks from other aspects, it will also help to get rid of setbacks. Modern society has entered the information age, and the increasingly fierce social competition has no room for delicate greenhouse flowers. Children should be allowed to suffer setbacks from childhood, hone their will and improve their psychological endurance to setbacks.
Life setbacks are everywhere, and children have to experience countless setbacks in the process of growing up. For example: the limitation of material desire, the conflict with peers, poor exam results and so on. If we make good use of these daily life situations, hinder or interfere with the realization of some goals of children through natural methods, and let them experience setbacks, they will get rid of dependence, enhance their tolerance for difficulties and improve their ability to live independently.
In today's society, the competition is fierce. If there is a setback, it will put you in a backward position. What do we do? In the process of growing up, it is impossible to reach the other side of the ideal smoothly. In life, there are often countless blows from the outside world, but the final decision is in your hands.
Life is a tortuous and stony road. Because of twists and turns, it can make people feel helpless; Because it is stony, it can make people fall down when encountering setbacks. In fact, if you want to take this road of life well, you must be like a child who learns to walk for the first time. You are not afraid of falling and pain. If you fall, you will get up and move on. If a person falls down on this road of life and hasn't got up yet, he is already afraid of the pain of the next fall, and it is difficult for him to succeed in doing great things.
It is very simple common sense that towering trees cannot be cultivated in greenhouses; The process of growth needs the forging of setbacks, which is the truth proved by countless facts.
There is such a great man who has experienced numerous setbacks in his life: at the age of 22, he failed to run for county Council; At the age of 23, his lover died; At the age of 24, the spirit almost collapsed; At the age of 26, he failed to run for the state legislature again; At the age of 30, he still failed to run for parliament ... It was these numerous setbacks that tempered his will, which enabled him to break through one difficulty after another in his life journey and make brilliant achievements in his career. He is President Lincoln of the United States.
Andersen, this is a familiar name. In his life, he wrote many fairy tales that the world loved. However, when his first fairy tale came out, some people knew that he was born in poverty and said that his works were "incoherent and did not understand methods and rhetoric." But Andersen was not discouraged. He rose from frustration and devoted himself to writing, and finally wrote many well-known fairy tales.
Edison failed many times when he invented the electric light bulb. When he used 1000 materials as filament, his assistant said to him, "You failed 1000 times, and your success became slim. Give up! " But Edison said, "So far, my harvest is not bad. At least I found that there are more than 1000 materials that cannot be used as filaments. " After more than 6,000 experiments, he finally succeeded.
The ancients said: "Life is a hundred years, and setbacks are often nine times out of ten." I don't know how many storms a person has experienced in his life, and his growth has experienced countless difficulties and obstacles. In life, people often only see the brilliance of those outstanding people, but seldom pay attention to the bitterness and suffering hidden behind them.
Frustration can temper people's will. As the saying goes, "Difficulties and hardships make you successful." Only by facing up to setbacks, becoming more and more brave, bravely turning stumbling blocks on the way forward into stepping stones, and never giving up until we reach our goal, can we have a bright future and enjoy real life.
Suddenly I feel that setbacks are lovely, because the coming of setbacks is more like the coming of opportunities. Mencius said: "If Heaven wants to achieve great things, it must first suffer from its mind, train its bones and muscles, weaken its physique and mess up its actions, so patience only benefits from its incompetence."
Ostrovsky said: "A person's life may burn or decay. I can't rot I am willing to burn! "
Why can't we say "try again" to ourselves with courage and confidence? Try again and you may reach the other side of success!
In today's society, the competition is fierce. If there is a setback, it will put you in a backward position. What do we do? In the process of growing up, it is impossible to reach the other side of the ideal smoothly. In life, there are often countless blows from the outside world, but the final decision is in your hands. If a person falls down on this road of life and hasn't got up yet, he is already afraid of the pain of the next fall, and it is difficult for him to succeed in doing great things. As long as we have firm faith and perseverance, we can move towards the goal, realize the value of life and enjoy the joy of success. It is very simple common sense that towering trees cannot be cultivated in greenhouses; The process of growth needs the forging of setbacks, which is the truth proved by countless facts.
Zhang Haidi, who had a high amputation, said to me, "Even if setbacks make you fall down a hundred times, you should stand up a hundred times. Only setbacks can make you strong. " Beethoven, who was deaf in both ears, said, "Holding your destiny by the throat in the face of setbacks will make you confident." Xu Teli said: "Growth without any setbacks is a myth. Setbacks are inevitable in the process of growth. " Helen Keller, Sun Bin and Hong Zhanhui took Zhang Haidi and Beethoven. Don't run away from setbacks. Only setbacks can make us strong, self-confident, struggle, experience and grow. The ancients said: "A hundred years of life, adversity is often eight or nine." I don't know how many storms a person has experienced in his life, and his growth has experienced countless difficulties and obstacles. Mencius said: "If Heaven wants to achieve great things, it must first suffer from its mind, train its bones and muscles, weaken its physique and mess up its actions, so patience only benefits from its incompetence." Ostrovsky said: "A person's life may burn or decay. I can't rot I am willing to burn! "
Meaning first, concept first.
Frustration refers to the obstacles on the road to success and the gap between ideal and reality.
Growth is death and rebirth after death. I attribute it to the end of one stage goal and the beginning of the next stage goal, which is endless and growing gradually.
However, whether subjective or objective, we will always encounter setbacks in the process of realizing one stage after another, which I believe all of you here have encountered! When we overcome, or try to overcome, we can't overcome setbacks, but we will always learn something in the process. Quantitative change leads to qualitative change, which will always reach the next goal or the next goal or the next goal, thus entering a virtuous circle and eventually growing perfectly.
First of all, setbacks provide us with rich life experiences. In the process of the growth of the modern only child, parents always try to eliminate all interference and let him grow up smoothly without any hardships. Where does adaptability come from, and how can he not afford to lose when he encounters setbacks in the future? Only by frustrating this teacher can we experience more and learn more. Only on the long road of human growth will we take fewer detours and grow up perfectly!
Second, setbacks can improve our ability to deal with problems. We have lofty ideals, but due to the limitations of our ivory tower, it is inevitable that our eyes are lower than our eyes. A survey of universities in Beijing 16 shows that 64.4% of the students are afraid to go out into the society. 78.4% of the students expressed their willingness to accept the hardships and setbacks before entering the society. Faced with this reality, we have no reason not to affirm setbacks. Let's fight the sky like an eagle and accept the tempering of setbacks?
Third, it is conducive to cultivating our courage to take responsibility. At the special stage of entering the society, we praise the sunshine and rain, but avoid talking about the baptism of wind and frost, which is irresponsible. How can you learn to swim without going into the water? How can you learn to bear without experiencing setbacks? Isn't the existence of setbacks a necessary condition for our real growth?
Carnegie said, "Frustration and failure are the most precious stepping stones to success." This valuable stepping stone enriches our experience, improves our ability and teaches us the meaning of responsibility. What reason do we have not to be grateful for life and setbacks?
In the course of the debate, other debaters always showed their fearless spirit of facing difficulties and meeting challenges with full enthusiasm and passionate emotions, which is admirable. However, life is more than passion. We should face up to the reality with a clear head and control our excitement with calmness and reason, otherwise it will be like a castle in the air, ethereal and untouchable, or like a scourge, causing endless harm. The other debater misinterpreted our meaning again and again, claiming that growth is for ideals. I want to point out the serious mistake made by another debater. The growth we are discussing here is based on objective reality, while the ideal emphasized by the other debater is not objective and one-sided.