Family education is a complex project, and the key is whether parents have mastered the key points of educating their children to become talents. Here I will tell you the key to successful teaching, hoping to help your child's education:
1, replacing punishment with incentives
What is incentive? How to motivate children? Simply put, it is a fundamental and main method to give full play to the deepest things and potentials of children. Every child has great potential. What parents should do is to motivate their children, let them play their own values and give them opportunities to develop their potential.
People are like cars, and motivation is like gasoline in a car tank. Parents must mobilize their children's enthusiasm and let them tap their potential, which is like refueling their children's "fuel tank". Parents should have sincere encouragement when encouraging their children in order to impress their hearts. Never think of yourself as your child's parents, put on a cold face and act like your parents are above you, so that your child will not accept your encouragement and suggestions, and your encouragement will be invalid.
2. Equality and harmony with children.
Why emphasize equality? The reason is that China has a cultural tradition of thousands of years, and "the monarch is the minister and the father is the son" has penetrated into everyone's bone marrow. Many parents think it is "impossible" to be equal to their children, so many tragedies keep happening. In this way, there will be no harmonious and equal atmosphere between your family and children, and there will be no guidance and education. Your family's affection and affection for your children will be greatly alienated, and your children will not resist in person, but they don't like you in their hearts. The potential contradiction in your family exists silently. Therefore, family harmony and equality is the first element of family education.
3. Save some face for the children.
There is an old saying in China called "Teach your child before class, and teach your wife by your pillow". In other words, a child without a face can be educated anywhere, while a wife with a face can only be "educated" in a secret place next to a pillow. But this sentence has brought disaster to many families, and there is a great gap between parents and children. Parents must be careful not to make irresponsible remarks about their children in front of everyone. Do you know how children understand it? Children's understanding is that if you do this to everyone, it is a lot of special approval for children. Although the child does not resist face to face, but the child's mind does not accept it, your goal has not been achieved at all. On the contrary, children don't want to talk to you at all.