I still remember when my nephew was in the interest class, my sister-in-law disagreed with her mother. Sister-in-law wants her child to learn guitar, and my mother wants him to learn Chinese calligraphy. My sister-in-law thought it would be cool to learn guitar, while my mother thought it would be more elegant to learn Chinese calligraphy, so they were deadlocked.
Because both of them have paid for their children, my brother doesn't want to see his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law hold a democratic vote because of this noise, including the independence vote of the eldest nephew (that is to say, in addition to the interest class they said, the nephew has the right to choose another one). In addition, I have to mention here that in fact, neither of them asked for the children's opinions, and they were completely helping their children to sign up for interest classes according to their own interests.
Finally, my nephew's interest class is taekwondo. (guitar interest class votes 1, sister-in-law votes; Calligraphy interest class voted 1, which was voted by my mother; Taekwondo interest class is 3 votes, my father, my brother, my nephew, the three of them voted) Afterwards, the two also shook hands. Sister-in-law joked: "I didn't expect the snipe and clam to compete, and the fisherman benefited." My mother smiled, too.
In fact, we will encounter many similar things in life. My mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different views on children's education. It's normal, sometimes only controversy can finally make the best choice, just like my eldest nephew signed up for an interest class.
When things happen, there is no need to fight to the death. Many things are not "black and white", and there are other options. Let go of the bad feelings in our hearts, let's sit together and talk it over, and we will listen to whoever analyzes more rationally. They are all close relatives of children, all for the good of children, and all for the children. Therefore, everyone has the right to speak, but remember, it can't be hegemonic speech, only you.
Also, I think the daughter-in-law can make way for your mother-in-law in front of some trivial matters. After all, her mother-in-law is an elder. In addition, she sees what you have done, she knows how good you are to her, and she will give you feedback bit by bit in her life.
At the same time, in front of children's education, parents should not only try their best to guide, but also listen to their children's voices properly. If you don't make any decision, you make the final decision, and you don't even tell your child that he has the minimum right to know.
I always think communication is very important in getting along with people. No matter life or work, if you lose communication, you will be in a dilemma. The same goes for children's education. It is the key to find a suitable growth path by combining the suggestions of others and children.