Parents often say, "Why is this child so ignorant?" "Why don't you have a long memory? Always make such low-level mistakes! " Parents may say these words to stimulate their children and make them progress a little. However, it never occurred to me that it is this kind of self-reflective discourse that hinders children's self-reflection and leads to children's failure to make progress. Therefore, children's poor self-reflection ability is related to their parents' educational methods. Parents' inadequate education and incorrect education methods will hinder children's self-reflection. The most common thing is that children do good things, do the right things, do promising things, and don't know how to praise and encourage, so that children lack confidence after being affirmed; The child did something wrong, shielding and protecting, which led to the child not knowing the mistake and not correcting it. Children grow up through experience, so they have a natural ability to reflect on themselves. For example, if you have achieved good results, you will evaluate and position your recent performance in your mind and carry forward your strengths and continue to work hard; If his grades are not satisfactory, he will feel depressed. At this time, if parents can correctly guide their children to find the reason, he will actively change and improve himself. In order to enable children to look at their behavior objectively, carry forward the experience of correct behavior and draw lessons from wrong behavior, parents should look at their children's right and wrong calmly and objectively, and praise and criticism should be moderate.