The rules for children should be simple, clear and specific, so that children are willing to abide by them. Parents can "learn-discover" through their children when educating their children to form good rules. However, if parents' signals are not clear, what parents want to teach their children will easily fail. Rules not only restrict children's growth, but also make them feel safe.

The rules should be easy to understand and easy for children to follow. Children's understanding ability is not so profound and their self-control ability is not strong. Establishing very complicated and difficult rules will not only make her obey, but will confuse her. It is necessary to make the truth clear, instead of simply and rudely ordering the children, and it is even more difficult to put on a bad face-"You listen to me! I have the final say! " Don't think that children are too young to understand anything. Maybe she can't fully understand what you said for a while, but your calm tone and respectful attitude will make her trust your judgment and obey your requirements.

All the rules must be observed, such as no littering at home and no littering outside. Not today, tomorrow, one at home, one outside. This will only make children confused and at a loss. All the rules are not only for children, but also for parents to strictly abide by and set an example. For example, in order to make children eat regularly, parents should behave themselves at the dinner table, not be picky about food and not waste it. In order to make children polite, parents themselves should use civilized language to everyone, including their own children and all other children.

Don't use the standards of adults to regulate and restrain children. From the child's point of view, I realized that it was fun for her to throw water on you or something. So instead of being upset, you gently tell her, "I know it's fun, but I don't like you like this." Wet clothes make me uncomfortable. Please don't throw water at me again. " It is a long-term process for parents to cultivate their children's habit of forming rules, which cannot be achieved overnight. The above rules should be suitable for children of all ages, but vary from person to person. Like all parents, we always make mistakes in managing our children and often don't know what to do. But maybe gradually establishing orderly rules is beneficial to both children and us.