The most common mistake parents make in education is to keep paving the way for their children. When my friend Linlin recalled her life, she felt more like a kitten raised by her parents. Only when she is docile can she get the touch and love of her master. Once the hair is horizontal, it will be criticized, and when it is out of control, it will be served by people.

Linlin spent his childhood in jealousy. She especially expects her parents to say "it's good to have a daughter", but no matter what she does, she can't hear the dream. On the contrary, her parents have been immersed in Linlin's "understanding", and the slightest disobedience will turn into long-term nagging.

For a long time, Linlin became withdrawn and unwilling to talk. Facing his parents, he kept paving the way, and Linlin followed suit like an innocent man. Although he performs well in all aspects, his students always lack childlike innocence. When he grows up, Linlin is willing to make progress and bears hardships and stands hard work. The only regret is that he is obedient and lacks self and creativity. This monotonous pattern also doomed Linlin to be unable to make a splash in his life.

Some people say that "you can only create value for your children if you know how to use their parents". Personally, I think this sentence is very suitable for family education. Educating children can only create miracles if they are willing to give in and let them explore for themselves.

Then, how should parents make concessions in their children's growth and let them create miracles themselves?

1. Parents' "concession" begins with good communication.

In the new concept education of "concession" to watch children create miracles, the so-called "concession" means that it is forbidden to do everything and let children try it themselves to feel the subtle progress. In reality, a father's unique "concession" education has benefited people a lot. This is another story told by my friend Linlin.

The father in the story used to be a soldier, and he was also a hard-working figure who experienced great storms. The father who was a soldier did not militarize his son, but gave him the opportunity to develop with the attitude of "I need you". When his son went to kindergarten at the age of 4, his father ran to school with his son in his arms. Suddenly, he tripped over a stone and got down on one knee. When he tried to pick up his son again, he found that his legs were weak.

In the face of a father who can't hold his son for a long time, he didn't shout "go by himself" to his son. But to tell my son what happened when he was injured as a soldier. Due to the limited time, he briefly summarized it in a few words. After the son learned that his father could no longer control himself, he said with distress, "Dad, what's wrong with you?" Does it still hurt? " The father stroked his son's head and said, "It's good to have a son, and I know I care about my father." Since then,

2. Good parent-child communication: Do you believe in children now?

In the face of unexpected situations, I believe that many parents often encounter situations where they can no longer hold their children. Some parents don't want to continue to hold their children, and some parents impatiently yell "Hurry up and go by yourself, it will be late soon". Where are the children? It must be that parents don't hug themselves because they are at a loss. When parents don't tell their children the truth and children don't know the truth, children may be at a loss at first, but after a long time, they will be estranged from their parents and even compete.

Good parent-child communication is very important, and communication is not just talk. When you encounter something, you should not only talk about current events, but also tell your children the necessary truth. So why are some parents unwilling to tell their children the truth? In fact, in the final analysis, we don't trust our children. For example, we suddenly fell down and couldn't hold the baby any longer. Perhaps many parents think that "children are too young to speak, not sensible and not considerate", but how can we know that children are not sensible and not considerate?

Therefore, good parent-child communication should be "Do you believe in children now?" !

3. What children can do, don't work too hard to give opportunities.

Children's Excellence comes from experience and action. In the Excellence of children and the miracle of creation, we must distinguish what is great love and what is small love. The father mentioned above once came home in sweaty clothes on a midsummer night, and his son, who was ready to write with a pen, quickly handed his father a cup of warm water. After receiving warm water, the father gulped it down and said happily, "It's really safe to have a son, but it would be better to have a basin of hot water to wash your face."

In the future, every time the father comes home with a tired body, the sensible son will hand over tea and prepare hot water to wash his face. Many people may think that this father is too selfish to enjoy the care of his son. In fact, his father's attitude of "I need you" is "great love". The so-called big love is to give his children the courage to take off and help them clear the roadblocks to ensure a smooth take-off, which is "little love".

Everything, including our first babbling and learning to walk like a tumbler, is actually practiced bit by bit, step by step. The last and most crucial step is to be willing to give in. Never help your child finish what he can do, and don't worry about "not doing" what he can't do, so you will find that your child is stronger than we thought.