At present, through the investigation of some students, it is found that students now have such psychological problems: 1, mental stress caused by great study pressure. 2, paranoia, hostility and distrust of others. 3. I always feel that others are unfriendly to me and my interpersonal relationship is tense. 4. I have no confidence in my study, and I am very depressed and depressed. 5. Anxiety and irritability. 6. Poor ability to adapt to the new environment. Not used to the teacher's teaching methods, or don't like school activities. 7. The mood is high and low and extremely unstable. 8. When others are stronger than themselves, their psychology will be extremely unbalanced. Serious students will feel inferior, be alert and rebel. This has a very bad influence on the all-round development of children.
First, analyze the causes of these unhealthy psychology.
1. Inferiority
Students are criticized by teachers, complained by classmates, reprimanded by parents because they fall behind or make mistakes in their academic performance, and are often in an "embattled" environment and atmosphere. In class, at home, I always feel that I can't lift my head, and I'm always inferior to others. They always like to compare their weaknesses with the strengths of other students. They are unbalanced and have a negative attitude, and they can't let go of their study and work, which leads to low learning efficiency. Their behavior and academic achievements are not recognized and valued, and their enthusiasm and interest in learning are dampened, resulting in a vicious circle. In order to find psychological satisfaction and achieve temporary psychological balance, they try to express themselves on the other hand. We often see that students with inferiority complex have no interest in learning and are inefficient. They are often absent-minded in class, unable to enter the state, listless and boring in class. But they show unusual enthusiasm for idols, singers and stars, and often pay attention to and talk about them. In the communication with classmates, it is often manifested in the pursuit of hairstyle, clothing and other aspects, so as to reflect the value and existence of self and seek temporary psychological balance.
2. Alert psychology:
Because of repeated failures and setbacks, students sometimes do good deeds and make progress in their academic performance. Without due affirmation and praise, they feel that the teacher doesn't care about themselves and thinks that they are redundant in the class. Once mistakes occur, they are easily criticized and reprimanded. They feel that praise and reward are not their own, and only being criticized and punished is their only patent. No matter how hard you try and make progress, it's all in vain. Therefore, teachers are often in a state of doubt and resentment. Over time, there was a gap between them. They don't listen from the heart, and they don't want to listen to the teacher's correct education. They hide all day, deliberately avoiding the teacher, or ignoring the teacher's words, or agreeing in person, but it's still the same afterwards.
3. Rebellious psychology:
Parents or teachers rely on authority to subdue students, or rely on corporal punishment or corporal punishment in disguised form, which will cause students to form abnormal psychology such as fear, panic and defense, and induce students' rebellious psychology against authority and preaching. They have doubts about the education of their parents or teachers, resist correct discipline, are indifferent to the class, are emotionally alienated from their parents or teachers, and even have confrontation and hostility. They just don't do what their parents or teachers ask them to do, and even if they are forced to do it, they can't do it well, but they actively do what their parents or teachers ask them not to do.
Second, several methods and countermeasures to correct students' psychological barriers
1. Analyze the reasons and prescribe the right medicine.
The living conditions and environment of students are complex, and the reasons for the formation of problem students are often not single. Therefore, teachers must make a scientific, accurate and comprehensive analysis, grasp the symptoms of bad psychology, be targeted and prescribe the right medicine in order to achieve good transformation and correction results. For example, the reasons for students' inferiority are physical, intellectual, family and educational. When correcting, teachers should first analyze and find out the reasons, distinguish types, grasp different characteristics and laws, adopt different methods to adjust and correct, reduce blindness, improve pertinence and achieve the expected educational effect.
When correcting the inferiority complex of problem students, teachers should deeply understand and care for them, meet the psychological needs of poor students to the maximum extent when conditions permit, give them appropriate tests, enhance their self-confidence, improve their psychological endurance, cultivate their spirit of hard work and stand the test for a long time. Establish the self-confidence of poor students with the power of example, create a relaxed and harmonious class atmosphere, and give full play to the role of collective education, so that students' anxiety, trouble, loneliness and other emotions can be diluted or suppressed. At the same time, we should get in touch with students' parents, cooperate closely, unite and help each other, let students live in hope, change self-blame into self-confidence, self-inferiority into self-esteem, and change self-denial into self-affirmation, so as to encourage them to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, be positive and face life bravely.
2. Love first and treat each other with sincerity.
The key to education is love. Without the love of teachers, there would be no education, and there would be no transformation of poor students. Love is a great force for change. Love can turn hard water into ice and hard stone into jade. Only when teachers love writing, treat students sincerely, master the psychological contradiction that poor students have strong self-esteem but are not respected, treat poor students with considerate attitude, establish a democratic and equal relationship between teachers and students, respect each other, communicate with each other, be emotional, rational, guide actions, and persevere, can the gap between problem students and teachers be completely bridged, and the psychological obstacles of problem students can be completely corrected and eliminated.
3. Find the bright spot and motivate students.
The psychological and ideological imperfection of problem students is not only a negative factor, but also a positive factor, that is, a bright spot. If teachers can catch and find the bright spots on the poor students through the fog of negative factors and ignite the sparks in their hearts, a single spark can start a prairie fire, which will surely dispel the fog of negative factors and glow with their dazzling brilliance like gold. For problem students, we should implement the principle of more praise and less criticism, more praise and less criticism. Teachers should be good at discovering their little progress and success, giving affirmation and encouragement in time, so that students can feel the joy of progress and success from the heart, and then be full of hope and confidence, raise the sail of study and life, and rebellious psychology will be transformed and corrected.
4. Cultivate motivation and stimulate interest.
Because the problem students' intelligence level of perception, memory, thinking, imagination and language is lower than that of their classmates, they are often in a backward position in their studies. Although they work hard, they still can't catch up with their classmates, so they feel sorry for themselves and give up on themselves, resulting in weariness and fear of learning, lack of motivation to make progress, and even completely lose their confidence and motivation to learn. Gorky said: "Nothing in life is more important and strange than people's interests." Learning motivation is an important psychological factor that restricts learning enthusiasm and is the source of learning enthusiasm. In order to correct students' weariness of learning, teachers should actively cultivate and mobilize their learning motivation. First of all, we should strengthen the education of learning purpose, stimulate students to have strong learning needs and interests, gradually form correct learning motivation, and have a strong desire for knowledge.
The growth of students is divided into several important stages, the sixth grade of primary school is an important stage, the second grade of junior high school is an important stage, and the first grade of senior high school is an important stage. In these three stages, their psychology presents obvious characteristics, which is also a stage that parents can't grasp in the education process.
From the formation of students' psychological characteristics, we can understand the true meaning of being a man and master the skills of serving the people and society on the basis of psychological development. It can be said that good psychological quality is the key for students to grow into cross-century talents.
1. Psychological characteristics of sixth-grade pupils
1. Emotional characteristics of primary six students
(1). Emotions are getting richer and richer, moral sense is developing greatly, and emotional stability and control are also enhanced.
(2) The practicality and persistence of emotion are poor, and it depends on the supervision of adults.
(3) Great trust and dependence on teachers.
The sixth-grade students' emotional content is getting richer and richer, their social moral sense has been greatly developed, and their emotional stability and control ability have been enhanced. The impulsiveness and suggestibility of actions have been greatly reduced, and the self-regulation ability of behaviors has been significantly improved, but their decisiveness and persistence are still relatively poor, and they still rely on the supervision of parents or teachers.
2. Personality characteristics of sixth grade students.
Under the influence of regular school education and environment, students' personality has been comprehensively and systematically developed. Students' self-awareness has improved in independence, criticism and the content and level of self-evaluation; Excellent personality characteristics such as organization, discipline, diligence and perseverance have gradually developed healthily. His personality characteristics can be summarized as follows.
(1), discover and explore your new self.
(2) The independence and criticism of thinking are enhanced.
(3) I began to realize my gender role.
(4) Dependent on independence and resistant to adults.
Students become more independent in the sixth grade of primary school, but they still hope to get the attention and love of teachers. Students at this stage no longer blindly accept the authority of the teacher, and they may criticize the teacher behind his back. They are very concerned about whether the rules and penalties are clear. If the rules and punishments are slightly inconsistent or unfair, they will complain and be dissatisfied.
Primary school students like to play in groups, and the number of this "group" will change with age. In the lower grades, it is usually a small group of 2-3 people. They often play games or do their homework together. The formation of this "group" is often due to the proximity of residence or some accidental combination, which is naturally unstable and easy to split. At this stage, if a pupil is rejected by a small group, he will obviously feel pain, but the psychological impact on him will not be too great. Because for other accidental reasons, children will join other small groups. In the middle grade, the number of groups increased to about 7; In the sixth grade, the number of group members is reduced to 3-4. At this time, the formation of small groups is based on mutual sympathy, resonance, love and respect, so the stability of the combination is enhanced and the influence of friends on individuals is also increased. At this time, if a student is rejected by the group, he will feel very painful and even don't want to go to school.
On the whole. The sixth-grade primary school students are in a period of physical and mental development, which is the foundation of life development, and the educational foundation laid at this time will affect every student's life. The personality of sixth-grade pupils has not yet been finalized, and there is still great plasticity. Due to the limitation of education level or the influence of bad family and social environment, sixth-grade pupils will have such deviations or even retrogression in their personality development, so the psychological problems of sixth-grade pupils can not be ignored.
Second, the psychological characteristics of senior two students:
Senior two students have entered adolescence, and their psychological development is rapid, and their psychological characteristics are particularly obvious, mainly in the following aspects:
(1). Sexual consciousness suddenly increased, sexual intention germinated, and she was confused and anxious.
Due to the acceleration of physical sexual development, teenagers are particularly interested in sexual knowledge, have a strong desire to communicate with the opposite sex, and their curiosity and mystery about sex are increasing day by day. From ignoring gender to attaching importance to gender, from rejecting the opposite sex to being close to the opposite sex. Eager to be accepted, looking for a partner
(2) Rapid improvement of intelligence:
The accuracy and generality of the problem developed rapidly, and gradually changed from thinking in images to thinking in abstract logic. Thinking ability is greatly improved, and ideals and ambitions are more ambitious.
(3) Strong but unstable self-awareness:
Self-esteem is more rebellious, emotional turmoil, self-isolation, and the desire for independence is enhanced. They can make their own judgments and opinions on things, but they are often troubled by some contradictions, such as the contradiction between independent desire and lack of independent ability, and the contradiction between "adult feeling" in their hearts and "childish" in the eyes of adults. From respecting teachers to despising teachers, from living in real life to living in virtual world.
(4). The emotional world is full of storms:
Often manifested as childish emotional impulses and temporary instability, loneliness, sadness, excitement, joy and anger are subtly intertwined, forming a strong, shaken and uncoordinated emotional world. From undivided attention to concentration, from pursuing nothing to idolize.
(5). Interests and hobbies are increasingly extensive:
Strong thirst for knowledge and curiosity, full of ideals, love life, positive, willing to participate in various creative activities, especially competitive, adventurous and interesting activities. From bland habits to love of color.
(6). Strong desire for interpersonal communication:
On the one hand, I strongly hope to make close friends with similar interests and similar age, so that we can understand each other and share our life experiences. On the other hand, I try my best to keep good relations with people around me, especially the group I belong to. I have a strong sense of belonging and dependence. I would rather be wronged than keep the balance and coordination of my life circle.
(7) weariness of learning is more intense, and self-management is more difficult.
In view of the above characteristics, parents need to pay attention to:
1. On the one hand, it fully affirms students' desire for independence, and at the same time, it points out that parents, teachers and elders have more knowledge and experience after all, and they should also look at problems comprehensively at ordinary times. Parents and teachers should be consulted as much as possible.
2. Parents should cultivate the good quality of democratic stewardship and democratic governance, update the traditional concept of family education, treat children equally, avoid rough beatings and abuse, and fully respect their opinions; Guide children to start from small things, step by step, and gradually cultivate their ability to do things independently and enhance their self-confidence. If there is a mistake, you should take the initiative to admit it to your child and try to let your child do some small things. You can quietly observe and protect children, so that children have the opportunity to display their talents and exercise. Gradually relax the scope of children's independent homework and deepen the difficulty of independent homework.
3. Fully affirm the psychological development characteristics of middle school students who are eager to be accepted and seek partners. Guide children to establish a correct concept of making friends, including "the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" and "it is rare to have a bosom friend in life".
4. Guide children to establish a correct concept of making friends, including "the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" and "it is rare to have a bosom friend in life". On the one hand, seek to accept your partner, on the other hand, cultivate your strong will and self-control ability, and don't easily confide your inner pain and unhappiness to your friends.
5, guide children to make friends with the opposite sex should pay attention to discretion, make friends with the same sex should also pay attention to discretion to prevent homosexuality.
Third, the psychological characteristics of senior one students
(1) The intelligence level is close to the peak of adults. Attention has a certain stability, and can pay attention to things related to one's own interests for a long time, and can allocate attention. Observation is purposeful, systematic and comprehensive, but inaccurate. Initially complete the transition from concrete thinking to abstract thinking and start rational thinking, but it often needs the support of intuition and perceptual experience. I am active in thinking, I often ask questions, I can judge right and wrong, good and evil independently, I don't believe other people's conclusions, I like to comment and argue, and I hope to solve problems independently, but I have a tendency to be extreme and extreme.
(2) Emotional experience is stronger than junior high school, and emotional content is extensive and has certain continuity, forming various emotions. Looking forward to the future, I am often full of enthusiasm for activities, easily excited, easily fluctuating and emotional, and sometimes blindly fanatical and impatient, resulting in reckless impulses; There will be all kinds of negative emotions when encountering setbacks. Due to the independence of thinking and the further development of self-awareness, his feelings are decorative, his inner world is active, and the external expression of his feelings is often inconsistent with his inner experience.
(3) the initiative and purpose of the will motivation are enhanced, and you can master your own behavior. In terms of self-confidence, decisiveness and self-control, the adjustment ability has improved compared with junior high school.
(4) The interest range is further expanded and has certain stability, and the personality characteristics tend to be stable and mature, with obvious extroversion and introversion. However, the plasticity of personality is still great, the old bad personality characteristics may be remolded, and new bad personality characteristics may be produced.
(5) With the improvement of motivation level, they pay more attention to all aspects of society, and have certain evaluation ability, which is gradually transformed into the motivation to decide their own behavior, reflecting their respective value orientations. But the demand for rights is more than the demand for their own obligations, responsibilities and practical actions.
Third, the function of family education.
First, the sense of responsibility in family education education
(1), a child who has no sense of responsibility and value will be confused and lose creativity because he can't find the position and importance of his life in society! Pay more attention to some material and trivial things, become confused, and have no sense of responsibility for themselves, their families and society! Therefore, the sense of responsibility should become an important part of family education.
There are several common phenomena: 1. Parents have to go to work in the morning and are in a hurry, but the children are slow and absent-minded; I used to think that boys are careless and girls are careful, but now girls are also careless; 3. Children are careless when doing their homework; They will never take the initiative to do housework. I feel that studying is useless and uninterested.
These situations happen a lot, and parents seem to have no way to solve them. Some parents prefer to be a little bitter and tired in order to talk less, so they do stupid things. For more than ten years, children have grown up, but they were eliminated by society early because of their lack of ability. A famous education expert told us that schools and families should not only pay attention to students' academic performance in further education, but also cultivate their sense of responsibility.
(2) Sense of responsibility refers to a student's sense of responsibility and mission to the country and society. In addition, students should have specific and corresponding responsibilities in getting up, eating, reading, doing homework, doing housework, honoring the elderly, respecting their elders and treating their classmates.
The sense of responsibility is innate.
When children are young, we often see such things: just get up and look for clothes; Try to play when you see adults brushing their teeth; I have to turn on the tap to wash my dirty hands. ...
But what will we do as parents?
Fix it for them right away and say no ... but have you ever thought about the consequences of doing so? With this kind of help, children will feel incompetent, gradually shrink their initiative and become dependent. Don't forget: responsibility is innate. When children want to do something, what we should do is to actively guide them, give them advice and let them know the lesson.
Parents should let their children realize from an early age that they are responsible for the consequences of their actions. For example, some children don't eat well and run around. Parents should not chase after them. When children are hungry and want to eat, tell them that they won't be hungry until they eat well. Another example is that a child always forgets to bring homework or school supplies. Parents should not give it to him immediately, let him criticize it several times. Later, he will get into the habit of checking his schoolbag. The same is true for children who stay in bed in the morning, so that they miss classes or do not participate in spring outing. It will help him gradually realize that bad behavior will bring bad consequences and gradually develop the concepts and habits of punctuality and positive self-discipline. On the contrary, blindly accommodating and arranging will only lead children to ignore the rules and lack responsibility and binding force.
(3) For this, the "prescription" prescribed by education experts is: from the child's slow action to the parents trying their best to save time for him, my feeling is that parents take their children too seriously for being late. If your child is late, let him be late, whether he is locked out of the school gate or punished in the classroom, it is his own business. Why not let him taste the pressure? When the child is crying and ashamed, he feels that he can't say it. If you tell him a sense of responsibility, will he still have so many problems when he gets up?
Experts believe that children don't care about being late and doing homework, while parents are afraid. In this way, children will have an illusion that they are going to school to do homework for their parents. Otherwise, why are they in such a hurry? Parents should return the responsibility to their children. If the child grows up and has no sense of responsibility for everything, what future does the child have in the future? Some parents also regard their children's lateness and homework mistakes as "losing face", which is not only unnecessary, but also has a negative impact on their children. If the child is responsible, let the child be responsible. Parents don't have to take responsibility for their children. There is no difference between "taking responsibility" and "deprivation".
Note: Only when children see the consequences of their actions will they know whether what they are doing is right or wrong, and they will be responsible for their words and deeds.
Second, moral education in family education
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If you ask parents now, is ideology and morality important in the process of children's growth? Probably few people can't recognize their role. However, in real life, especially in today's increasingly competitive environment, as parents, we often unconsciously emphasize the importance of developing intelligence and studying with children, and put moral education in a secondary position.
Wang Baoxiang, executive director of China Family Education Association, once conducted a nationwide survey. The survey results show that on average, 85% of parents think that moral education is the most important thing for their children in family education, but in a series of selective topics, parents' answers show that the top three have no moral education. Parents are most concerned about, and actually think that the most important thing is the intellectual education of their children's studies and achievements. This result clearly tells us that parents' cognition and behavior are seriously out of line on this issue. It takes a long and arduous process for parents to change their ideas, but it is also an urgent task.
Family is the first environment for children's life and plays an extremely important role in the cultivation of children's good moral behavior. In China, a vast country with 320 million families, this huge educational resource should play an advantage in the process of children's growth.
In order to make family education more targeted and targeted, let's discuss the contents and methods of family moral education:
Family is the cell of society, and the society in Qian Qian is made up of thousands of families. Family moral construction is an important aspect of socialist spiritual civilization construction. To improve the national quality, we must start with teenagers and families. Family is the source of talent growth, and the moral status of family is not only related to the harmony within the family and the healthy growth of teenagers, but also related to the formation of good social customs and habits and the stability and unity of the country.
In order to adjust the relationship between family members and form a United, civilized, harmonious and happy family, we must abide by the common code of conduct, which is family morality. Family morality is a code of conduct formed under certain social and historical conditions to deal with the relationship between family members. Under different economic conditions, different family ethics will be formed. The family not only has the functions of production, reproduction and consumption, but also has the function of education. Family is the first place for individuals to receive education, and parents are their children's first teachers, long-term or even lifelong teachers. Children have been educated by their families since childhood. Parents will instill their own ideas and moral standards into their children according to their own understanding of political relations, concepts and moral norms, educate and guide their children how to behave and evaluate people, and hope that their children will become the embodiment of their ideal personality. The moral condition of the family, especially the moral cultivation of parents, has a great influence on the healthy growth of their children.
First of all, parents' own moral cultivation plays an important role in teenagers.
Parents are the earliest idols in the minds of teenagers, and they are the children's first enlightenment teachers. Parents' thoughts, morality, personality, interests and even living habits have an important influence on children. As the saying goes, "those who are close to ink are black", and the power of example is endless. Imitation is a child's nature. Parents and children get along day and night, every word and deed, every move is a child's imitation. Parents lead by example, be strict with themselves, have a decent style and good conduct, and it is easy for children to develop good behavior habits and moral sentiments; On the other hand, parents' disorderly behavior and bad behavior, smoking, drinking and playing mahjong all day, will have a bad influence on children. Many surveys show that many primary and middle school students smoke and drink too much, which was originally learned from their parents.
Secondly, the harmony of family interpersonal relationship plays a subtle role in teenagers.
Family is the haven of life and the cradle of teenagers' growth. Good and harmonious interpersonal relationships can cultivate and purify people's minds. Under the influence of harmonious family relationships, teenagers will form a good mood, an optimistic attitude and a positive outlook on life; The tense family interpersonal relationship will cause teenagers' psychological stress, negative pessimism, loss of trust in their families, and even serious mental illness. An American couple once compared 500 criminal teenagers with 500 non-criminal teenagers and found that half of these non-criminal teenagers came from harmonious families. In real life, we often find that some families have quarrels, and small quarrels occur every day. They often blush and even fight because of trivial things in life, which has a very bad influence on children's young minds. Over time, they will be emotionally alienated from their parents, have a rebellious attitude towards their families, and sometimes run away from home because their families are restless all day. It is not difficult to imagine how children can grow up healthily if they live in a family atmosphere where bickering is common and mahjong can be heard every day.
Third, family rules and customs have a binding and exemplary role in the healthy growth of teenagers.
Family rules refer to the code of conduct that family members must abide by together in family life, and family style refers to family traditional habits, lifestyles, mental outlook and lifestyles. Strict family rules have played a role in promoting good and restraining evil for family members. It is like an invisible commandment, which helps teenagers "choose their goodness and follow it, choose their badness and change it". A good family image plays an exemplary role in children's behavior. Parents carry forward democracy, get along with their children on an equal footing, discuss things with everyone and respect their children's opinions, so that children will feel comfortable and give full play to their personality and intelligence; On the other hand, parents are paternalistic, insisting that children can only listen to their parents' words, but not resist, so children will have depression, which will form an unhealthy psychology of loneliness and depression in the long run.
Finally, the environmental atmosphere of the family plays a role in purifying and cultivating the minds of teenagers.
Teenagers have strong plasticity and imitation. Because they are young and ignorant, have not yet contacted the society, have poor ability to distinguish right from wrong, simple consciousness, uncertain behavior habits, and are full of curiosity and doubt about the world around them. Due to the natural attachment to parents, parents' hobbies, personality cultivation, words and deeds, and even clothing habits have become the center of children's attention, and at the same time, an unconscious family atmosphere has been formed for demonstration and suggestion. The ancients said: "Being kind to others is like entering the room of Lan Zhi, and the fragrance will last for a long time; Poor living, such as abalone, long time no smell. "What kind of family atmosphere children live in will unconsciously accept the subtle influence.
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Since the reform and opening up, especially with the development of social economy and the improvement of living standards of urban and rural people, China's family material civilization and spiritual civilization have made great progress, the feudal traditional family concept is gradually weakening, the family consciousness of democracy and equality is gradually strengthening, parents' ideological and moral and cultural qualities are constantly improving, family interpersonal relationships are gradually harmonious, and the healthy growth of children is constantly being valued. However, due to various reasons, there are still many problems in the construction of family ethics, and there are many family factors that are not conducive to the healthy growth of teenagers, which are embodied in the following aspects:
1. Parents' own quality is poor, they expect too much from their children, and their discipline is too strict.
Due to the lack of high cultural quality and good moral cultivation, some parents mistakenly believe that educating children "produces talents under the stick" and "there is no democracy in front of children". They are eager for success. In order to make children become talents as soon as possible, they often take high-handed measures, and some set their children's goals too high-get a score of 100, get into a key school, and be a "home" when they grow up. Once it is found that the distance from the target is too large, it will immediately "hit". A girl in a certain place cut her finger with a kitchen knife because she didn't want to learn the piano, and a girl in a middle school in Beijing committed suicide by jumping off a building because of the psychological pressure of the college entrance examination. These tragedies are largely caused by parents' improper educational methods and poor quality.
2. Some parents misbehave and have a poor image, and let their children go with the flow.
Some parents either dance, eat, drink and gamble in their spare time and take a "square city" all day, which has a very bad influence on their children. A pair of parents played mahjong all night, and the couple took turns playing mahjong. In order not to affect children's study, they specially rented a quiet and undisturbed house outside. However, because of their superior behavior and no one to discipline them, every night after ten o'clock, the children invited some malicious people to play mahjong with him, often staying up all night, and their grades plummeted. Finally, because of lack of money, I embarked on the road of theft, and my parents were still in the dark. These lessons are thought-provoking.
3. The influence of the fission of family structure on the healthy growth of teenagers.
The family structure has split, the divorce rate has risen, and family reorganization has become more prominent. Teenagers are most affected by family disintegration, which has caused serious trauma to children's minds. Many teenagers have gone astray and embarked on the road of crime because of their divorced parents and lax discipline. Because of family disharmony, children lack fatherly love and maternal love, which leads to their distorted personality, emotional fragility, irritability and anxiety, and reticence. Incomplete families also tend to make children feel lonely, afraid and lie, resulting in a life attitude of being world-weary, tired of learning, not striving for progress and giving up on themselves.
4. Pursue academic achievements blindly, ignoring the cultivation of non-intellectual factors for teenagers.
Some parents unilaterally think that educating their children means developing intelligence and learning knowledge. Learning knowledge means getting high marks in exams and getting good grades. In order to ensure that children concentrate on their studies, all housework is contracted by parents, and what children can do by themselves is done by parents. Make children develop the lazy habit of getting something for nothing from childhood, and pay no attention to the cultivation of their own labor outlook, habits and skills. Some parents only pay attention to their children's scores, but not their children's ideological and moral education, and show their thoughts in words and deeds.