What should parents do after taking their children into trouble?
First, if the child is in trouble, if it is a small contradiction between peers, let the child solve it himself. But if it involves unequal strength, especially if the other person is an adult, don't simply let the children face it themselves. Filling a hole for a child does not mean sheltering and accommodating the child.
Second, don't reason with your child when you and your child are not calm, even if you speak, don't talk more. Leave time and space for children to reflect on themselves.
Third, if possible, try to turn one-way teaching into two-way parent-child communication. Adjust your wording at any time according to your child's reaction. Don't think about what you are going to say in your head yet. Whether the child is ready or not, you have to force it, and even ask the child to make a commitment.
Fourth, don't blindly believe in the effect of on-site education. We usually want children to have the ability to "delay gratification", so whether we can temporarily keep this matter in mind and wait patiently for a better educational opportunity, instead of criticizing and educating children in a hurry, may reflect whether our expected ability to "delay gratification" can be realized in children.
Finally, don't treat trouble as a problem that must be avoided. Even quiet and peaceful children, don't ask them to "stay out of trouble". Think of it as a wrestling process that children must go through when they learn to walk. If you fall, get up and continue. There is no need to exhort or even hold the child's hand, just to prevent him or her from falling down again.
On the one hand, we verbally claim that we can make mistakes for our children, but on the other hand, we are eager to give them a "political lesson" after they get into trouble. On the contrary, it is easy to turn a good educational starting point into a disaster against education. It is not surprising that the more children teach, the worse they teach.