Tell your child how much you love him and how well he behaves, but the child needs to accept his special behavior further to be appreciated, such as: "Baby, it's great that you put the book back on the shelf. Thank you very much. " Pay more attention to children's positive behavior, rather than staring at children's bad places. For example, children often get to the front of the queue, but this time, don't forget to give your child a smile and hug.

2. Pay more attention to children's efforts and don't be cynical.

When the child's behavior, especially kind actions and ideas have achieved certain results, we should praise the child in time and pay attention to the way of speaking when praising. For example, children make beautiful cards in the school craft class, so maybe you will say, "Wow! Beautiful card, you are a little genius! " We can't help saying, "Baby, it's really beautiful. Mom is so happy to receive the card you made. "

Never say sarcastic words when praising, such as "You really packed everything this time." This tone sounds irritating and makes people feel particularly uncomfortable. Now that you have affirmed that the child did the right thing, why do you talk like this?

3. Silent body language encouragement

Although body language plays an auxiliary role with audio language, its habituation and authenticity are far higher than that of audio language. Roman, a famous French writer. Roland said: "Facial expression is a language that has been successfully cultivated for centuries. It is hundreds of times more complicated than the language spoken in the mouth." Some foreign researchers put forward a communication effect formula: the total communication effect =7% spoken language +38% tone +55% facial expression.

Therefore, our parents can not only encourage their children with words, but also affirm their behavior by giving thumbs up, clapping their hands and smiling. Maybe this simple action is even more effective than a thousand words.