In fact, while I am strong, I also spoil it. In the final analysis, this is not to love children, but to satisfy my desire for control. "Strong" means forcing the other party to do it in their own way. "Petting" is to love each other in your own way, no matter what is the best way for each other.

But anyway, it's not the child's fault. Because this is the choice of parents, children themselves do not have to choose to be treated like this.

Children who grow up like this will have a certain rebellious mentality. Recently, Di Ying's son is the best example. However, the child's heart itself is not bad, but it is suppressed and will be distorted to a certain extent. More importantly, children will doubt themselves and feel that they are incapable of loving others. I don't know how to deal with emotional problems, and I don't know how to treat people I really want to cherish.

This situation can only be taken slowly. First of all, relax and re-establish your own cognition. Because parents' "strong" and "doting" education methods have seriously affected children's cognition of themselves, many things are judged by parents' compulsion, but their hearts are subconsciously opposed. Therefore, it is necessary to start a little bit of establishment again, look at it from the heart, understand it, and get rid of the mandatory influence exerted by parents in the process of growing up.

So read more books. Psychological aspects can be read, historical aspects. For example, you can learn how to be optimistic (learn optimism, this book is very good) and slowly correct your mentality. When the normal cognition of oneself is established, the foundation of communication with others can be gradually established.