(1) Cross over and do what children should do.
(2) not dealing with things but venting emotions.
(3) completely child-centered.
(4) Be a teacher by example and be self-righteous.
(5) Always like to guide, teach, intervene, interrupt, stop, criticize and reprimand children.
Improper educational methods may bring problems to children.
1, delay
Step 2 bite your nails
Step 3 make a hullabaloo about
4. Lack of motivation
5. Separation anxiety
6. Love to lose your temper
7. Game addiction
8, illegal crime
9. Sleep problems
10, social disorder
1 1, running away from home
12, tired of studying and playing truant
Do you have many doubts in your heart? Why do children have these problems? Are these behaviors my fault or the children's fault? What significant impact will these industries have on children's future? What can parents do to change their children's problem behaviors? ........
Example: Zou Mama: It took a single mother 29 years to send a child with severe cerebral palsy to Harvard.
"Blind education" is not as good as "intelligent education"
Systematically master the contents and methods of family education guidance.
To solve the problem of family education in one stop!
Family education content
(1) Health education: Promote family members to become healthy people with healthy body and personality, and make everyone physically and mentally healthy and live a happy life.
# Perfect personality
# Healthy body
# Health Psychology
Healthy body, abundant energy and physical strength are the most important conditions to perceive the world with vigor, optimism and ready to overcome difficulties.
(2) Moral education: encourage family members to develop noble moral feelings, aesthetic feeling, sense of reason and sense of practice, and become people with noble moral character, rich feelings, willing to communicate and accepted by society.
# Social morality education: cultivate children's public morality and follow the basic moral norms and public life norms.
# Professional Ethics Education: Have correct code of conduct within the profession, between occupations and between occupations and society, and establish correct views on occupation, job selection and entrepreneurship.
# Emotional education: it mainly includes family education, life education, friendship education, marriage education, sex education, national conditions education and family outlook education.
(3) Social education: help family members master the basic skills of social survival, cultivate children's ability to adapt to the environment and society, and better survive and develop in society.
# Life ability training
# Behavior habit cultivation
# Language ability training
# Cultivation of interpersonal skills
# Information Literacy Training
# Social practice ability training
(4) Personality education: an educational activity that makes children's personality fully developed and publicized purposefully and consciously in family education.
# Ability: Ability is the psychological condition for successfully realizing an activity, which can be embodied and developed.
# Temperament: Temperament is mainly manifested in the intensity, speed, stability, flexibility and directionality of psychological process.
# Personality: Personality is a combination of a person's basic attitude towards people, himself and things and his relatively stable and unique psychological characteristics in adaptive habitual behavior.
Parent pyramid, which level do you belong to?
Level 1: Money level: Willing to spend money for children.
The second level: time level: willing to spend time for children
Level 3: direction level: parents will think about the goals and planning of education.
The fourth level: promotion: constantly improve and improve yourself and change your parenting behavior.
The fifth level: excellent level: parents unconditionally support their children to become the best themselves and the truest themselves.
Learning golden sentences:
If good parents want to cultivate excellent children, what they want is not to spend more money and work harder, but to upgrade the "cognition" and "method" of educating their children!
Method 1: Advantage Education Method
One view: Advantage education is a positive reinforcement. Turn on the advantage switch and create opportunities for practical advantages, so that children's thinking can change from negative to positive, and things can change from disgust to liking.
A formula: advantage development = ability * effort.
A training method:
(1) is used in a relatively relaxed and positive situation.
(2) Deal with minor issues that may escalate into major disputes and use the advantage switch.
(3) When you feel that your negative thoughts are out of control, take three deep breaths.
(4) Imagine yourself seeing the advantage switch and turn it on.
(5) Find out the advantages of the child from the incident and write down this moment.
Think back to when or when you can use the advantage switch when you get along with children.
Give full play to your talents, then strengthen your advantages and encourage them constantly.
Method 2: example effect
One reason: imitation is an instinct of human beings. Because minors are flexible and good at imitation, setting an example can guide children to develop in the right direction.
Two operations:
Example method: Parents use the noble thoughts, exemplary behaviors and outstanding achievements of role models to influence children's thoughts, emotions and behaviors, and guide children to learn and grow from role models.
Model law: Parents set an example by example and set an example and exemplary role for their children.
Method 3: Positive language.
Language is magical. Use more positive language to express, less to strengthen children's unwanted behavior, and use the magic of positive language to enhance children's overall energy.
Step one: h? Looking forward to, looking forward to? Good expectations and expectations (brain language)
Step two: a? Action? Language Ways to Promote Children's "Want to Do"
Step three: p? The key point? Grasp the balance between parents' expectations and children's needs.
Step four: p? A process of how to speak.
Step 5: y? Earn good behavior, good habits and good quality.
Method 4: Environmental edification
A concept: to create a warm, harmonious and loving family life and living environment, so that children can grow and develop happily.
The implementation process of environmental edification:
Conscious attention
Create an environment
Family mobilization
Advance with times
Refine and sublimate
carry forward
Method 5: Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude.
An idea: There are no two identical leaves in the world, and there are no two identical people in the world. Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is the best.
Four principles:
(1) Genius should have Bole's vision and mind.
(2) It is the key to success to have "ordinary talents" at home to ignite their dreams.
(3) "partial talent" education is an effective education.
(4) there are "disabled talents" at home, and they don't give up if they have love.
Every child is a genius.
Method 6: Positive response
An idea: Only a positive response can improve people's happiness and develop a more friendly relationship.
Implementation process:
1, keep eye contact.
Step 2 express positive emotions
Step 3 say something nice
Step 4 explore the details in depth
5. Put forward positive ideas
Method 7: Resilience education
One idea: children who can't afford to lose can't win, and frustration education is a compulsory course for children's life.
Implementation conditions:
(1) unconditionally believe that your children will take care of themselves.
(2) Give children the opportunity to experience failure and create conditions for children to deal with problems independently.
(3) Give up at the right time and let the children do what they can.
(4) Weaken the protective role of parents and teach children the necessary survival skills.
(5) Understand and relieve children's frustration and encourage them to overcome difficulties with their children.
Through theoretical narration, think about it:
What family education methods can be practiced?