Different differences:
Raising one's mouth means being by one's parents' side, having no worries about food and clothing, and raising one's heart means making a name for oneself and giving parents face. When you are young, you may think it is more important to "cultivate your mind", which not only makes your family face, but also enriches your life and improves your ability. Both are indispensable, and modern people should learn to practice both. These two areas need us to do. Whether we take good care of our parents or make them proud of us, we must take care of both, and we can't lose sight of one thing and lose sight of another.
Historical sources:
The original creator was Mencius. The original client of Nourishing Heart and Nourishing Mouth was not Zhou Bingkun's brother, but Zeng Shen, a student of Confucius. In a class, Mr. Meng discussed filial piety with his students. Before entering the theme, Mr. Meng made a foreshadowing. As a life mentor, talk about life and pour chicken soup: there are two major events in life, one is "being close to family" and the other is "keeping fit". The so-called "pro-things" means filial piety to parents; The so-called "keeping fit" means taking care of yourself, developing your career and expanding your life. Simply put, these two major events can be understood as filial piety and loyalty. Loyalty and filial piety are hard to tolerate since ancient times. Teacher Meng first throws out this topic that can naturally produce contradictions and instantly captures the students' hearts. The lecture level is very high. After throwing out the topic and attracting attention, Mr. Meng has a high status and can serve his relatives without losing his status. I've heard of it; I've never heard of people who can serve their loved ones without their bodies. It means that I have heard of people who "protect themselves" and then honor their parents; I've never heard of anyone who can honor his parents even if he can't lead an honest and clean life. Teacher Meng left us a riddle, which means "keep fit". ? It is generally believed that keeping in good health means sticking to moral integrity and guarding your initial heart and kindness. However, if it is literally interpreted as "keeping good", the logical relationship with later "keeping your mouth shut" and "keeping your mouth shut" is not solid. I am more inclined to extend "keeping the body" to loyalty and business. The original meaning of "keeping fit" is to cultivate self-cultivation, lead an honest and clean life and be kind. But the ultimate goal of self-cultivation is to "rule the country and level the world." The so-called "health" is to lay a good foundation for the "loyalty" of "ruling the country and leveling the world". From this perspective, we can sum up "health" as two points: first, the body and material, and the body is the capital of the revolution; One is spiritual, we should keep moral integrity and keep our initial heart. I've heard of people who take good care of their health and career and can be filial to their parents. I have never heard of anyone who can be filial to his parents even if he can't take care of himself and accomplish nothing. In other words, filial piety is the premise. As a child, we must first have the capital of filial piety. I am young, but I am very ill. How should I be filial? Maybe your parents will take care of you. Of course, if you are in good health and rich, but you lose your heart and kindness, it is naturally impossible to be filial. ?
Network source:
From the TV series "Human Life".
Filial piety on the material level, raising the mouth
In the world, Zhou Bingkun, the third son of the Zhou family, is a typical "oral feeding body". My brother Zhou went to the Corps and began his long escape. Zhou Rong, the eldest sister, went to the mountainous area of Guizhou without telling her family, and didn't go home for many years in pursuit of love. For a long time, everything at home was carried by Bing Kun alone. Even if Zhou's mother had a sudden cerebral thrombosis and was in a coma for two years, Bing Kun and he quietly paid attention to them and wiped their urine until Zhou's mother recovered. Such plots abound in life. There is a video on the Internet of a post-1995 girl who gave up her high-paying job and went back to her hometown in Heilongjiang to take care of her sick father, which won millions of praises. He Xiao, who works abroad, resolutely chose to return to China in order to take care of her mother. Although after returning to China, the treatment of joining the company is not as good as that of foreign countries, He Xiao said, "No matter how much money you earn, it is useless to take care of your mother." In fact, many people don't know that what their parents want most is that they can have a solid support in the eyes of Zhou Mu in their old age. It was Bingkun who gave her a sense of security and practical dependence in her later years. Imagine that without Bing Kun's care at home, Zhou's life would be endless loneliness and desolation. Just like the old lady in the play, the old couple usually go in and out. During the Chinese New Year, the son who was not at home also found an excuse not to go home, leaving the old couple alone, which was tasteless. ? In fact, the older parents are, the more they want their children to stay with them. Although you don't talk, there is a saying in the Book of Filial Piety: "Filial piety is also a family matter. You are born with respect, you are happy when you are raised, and you are worried when you are sick." Parents give us life, bring us up, serve our parents when they are old, and ensure that they have no worries about food and clothing. This is material filial piety and the minimum requirement for children. ?
? Filial piety at the spiritual level, nurturing the heart.
In The World on Earth, the eldest brother and the second child of the Zhou family are typical "heart-nourishing people". Both of them graduated from Peking University. Zhou married the daughter of the governor and later became the mayor. Zhou Rong became an associate professor in a provincial key university at an early age and married a famous poet. Although I didn't take care of my parents' food, clothing, housing and transportation at home, I gave them face and made them look good. The Book of Filial Piety says, "Stand on the street and leave your name in the future generations to show your parents that you are filial to the end." It probably means that children should live up to expectations, honor their ancestors, make a name for themselves and let their parents enjoy a good name. Glorifying ancestors has always been the expectation of parents for their children. There is a plot in "Human World": Zhou Fu takes his family to pay a New Year call to his neighbors. Before that, Zhou Fu never took his children out to pay New Year greetings. This time, I went out to pay New Year's greetings because the Zhou family has two Peking University (Zhouhe). In the process of New Year's greetings, Zhou's father is very modest on the surface, but in fact he is very satisfied inside. Zhou He left home as a teenager and hardly took care of his parents, but this did not affect their pride in their parents' hearts. Father Zhou has high hopes for Zhou. Zhou Fu said that Zhou has surpassed him, and he is stronger from generation to generation. The hope of the Zhou family is pinned on him. Like Zhou's father, Li Bo, 60, wants his children to honor their ancestors. My son's family lives in a big city, and he is the only one living in the country. Seeing that relatives and friends are surrounded by children, Li Bo will be annoyed when he retires: I also want my son to accompany me, but seeing that children have better development in big cities cannot affect his future. Rip said that he prefers his son's career to his pension. This is the wish of all parents. In any case, they all hope that their children are stronger than themselves and can honor their ancestors. It is also for this reason that parents nowadays are crazy about "involution" education. When children are promising, parents will feel that there is light on their faces, and they will be praised and respected by neighbors and relatives, thus making children feel happy. In fact, it is also a filial piety to make parents feel happy and spiritually satisfied. Success means having a happy family, with healthy children, good education, healthy, happy and happy family. Surrounded by a group of sincere friends. After the difficulties, it is to fulfill your dreams, challenge yourself, change yourself and improve yourself every time.
As children, we should be filial in time.
In fact, for Zhou's parents, they are happy. After all, their children have both "spiritual support" and "mouth support", and they are satisfied both materially and spiritually.
Back to real life, more and more young people leave their hometown to work outside, especially some one-child families. Although they have gone a long way, they have accomplished nothing.
Just because you can't serve your parents, take care of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and make your parents look good, doesn't mean that your parents are unfilial.
In fact, many people leave home to let their parents live a better life.
Whenever Li Jun thinks of his mother staying at home alone, eating alone and chatting with himself, he feels very sad.
After wandering for so many years, Li Jun had the idea of returning to his hometown for the first time. He wants to go back to his hometown to work. He can have breakfast and dinner with his mother every day, and he can also go to the market with his mother on weekends ... He feels very happy when he thinks about it.
But before going back, Li Jun made an assumption: after returning to his hometown, he might lead a simple life, then get married and have children, and the children would go to primary school in the town. If you get good grades, you can also go to the county to study in middle school, then take the college entrance examination and leave your hometown to study in university. ......
Li Jun suddenly realized that this was the same as his current life track. He just walked step by step from the mountains to the county seat and the big city. If he chooses to go back to his hometown, the child will go back the same way.
More importantly, the income in my hometown is relatively low, and once my mother is ill, it is difficult for me to bear the medical expenses.
In the end, Li Jun chose to stay in the big city, work hard, settle down in the big city, and live in the big city with his mother.
My mother, who has never left the countryside, flew for the first time, watched movies for the first time and went shopping for the first time. ......
Once, Li Junhe's mother visited the park together, and her mother suddenly said, "I never dreamed that I could live like this in my life. How happy I would be if your father were still here ... "
At that moment, Li Jun realized that all the efforts were worthwhile. ? For most young people, only by working hard to make money, taking care of their parents' lives and making their parents live decently, can they be truly filial.
However, whether it is "keeping mouth" or "keeping heart", it is the filial piety of children for parents, and the weight is the same. Zhou Bingkun asked as Zhou Fu lay dying:
"Dad, let me ask you something! Who do you think is the best of us sisters in your heart? " Dad Zhou replied, "You three are the best in dad's heart." Every child is the concern and pride of his parents. As children, there are many ways to be filial. But in reality, not everyone can be as lucky as Li Jun. If your efforts can't keep up with the aging of your parents, then I still suggest that you honor your parents as soon as possible. When I was young, I always thought that there was still a long way to go. I always thought that I would be filial to my parents if I achieved something, but I underestimated the cruelty and ruthlessness of time.
Waiting and waiting, in the end, there is only "children to raise, relatives not to wait." Zhang Xi also thought that when he saved enough money, bought a house in a big city and took his parents over, he could see them every day and take them to play at any time.
To this end, she works day and night every day, and her contact with her parents has decreased, and the number of times she goes home to visit her parents has also decreased. Sometimes she doesn't go home for the New Year because of work.
However, before Zhang Xi saved enough money to buy a house in a big city, his parents were sick and couldn't go anywhere.
In real life, many parents have worked hard for their children all their lives, but in the end they have not enjoyed happiness for a few days. They are willing to give everything for their children, but they don't want to add a little trouble to them.
Although Zhang Xi's parents were ill, they never told their daughter that they were afraid that they would disturb her life and bring her trouble.
Korean drama "Dear? Mine? There is an old man named Xi in Friends. She suffers from Alzheimer's disease and her memory is getting worse, but she still insists on living alone and doesn't want to bring trouble to her children.