There are 16 lectures in this book. After each lecture, there is content to interact with parents, so that parents can more clearly find suggestions and solutions for similar problems of their children.
The first lecture: Introduce the basic concept of family sex education, which is necessary to understand the specific sex education behind this book. Sex education is guided by theory, not by personal experience and enthusiasm. The focus of this lecture is to strengthen sex education. Empowering sex education is based on sexual physiology and knowledge, and it provides a comprehensive education for a person's personality growth.
Parents are children's first teachers, because the way parents get along with each other and the mode of intimate relationship are examples for children to learn to establish intimate relationships, so parents are also children's first teachers of willful education, and family sex education is also a part of family education.
? Our educational philosophy can be divided into two parts, one is supervision and the other is empowerment.
Regulation means that parents should impose their own values and views on right and wrong on their children, let them do what their parents think is right, punish them and prevent them from doing wrong things. Control is not education, but discipline, trying to train children like this. Control itself is the deprivation of children's rights. Children have no chance to experience storms, no chance to think, no chance to make their own decisions, no chance to grow. Therefore, parents who advocate standardized education do not love their children, but deprive them of the opportunity to "grow up". )
"Parents' love for their children is the hardest love in the world" because all love is to keep the person you love around, but parents' love for their children should keep them away from you!
Real education is to let children grow up, how to help them grow up? This requires empowerment. Empower children, empower them. We don't force them to do what we say, nor tell them what is right or wrong, but give them the right to choose.
? Authorization is to discuss with the child the possible consequences of each practice, discuss with him how to deal with the possibility of each consequence, and guide the child to self. Be responsible for your own choices and actions, similar to the heuristic questions we have learned! Only when children face problems and think independently can they grow up.
Sex education is never isolated, it is part of the whole person's education. Avoidance sex education is "sex education" that increases sexual shame and guilt. Such sex education will make children more curious about sex, and curiosity will lead to earlier and irresponsible sex! !
On the one hand, we should carry out sex education with an empowering attitude, on the other hand, we should talk about sex frankly with our children without creating mystery and shame. These two concepts are very important. If you really master these two concepts, you will have the basic qualifications for family sex education. Under the guidance of this concept, those specific sex education problems encountered in life will be handled with ease!
? The second lecture introduces some skills of family sex education: the first step of family sex education is for parents to invest some time and energy to think and grow by themselves! Spend a little time now, and you will avoid spending more time in the future;
The basis of sex education is values. We should have enlightened values and realize that sex is beautiful. We can talk about sex directly and frankly. The correct concept of sex education is empowerment. You can't simply prohibit children from doing this and that, but you should analyze the responsibilities, obligations and risks behind each behavior with him, and then help children grow up by themselves. Only by thinking for yourself can you digest it into your own things! Everyone's values must be formed in thinking and experience, and it is difficult to instill them.
The third lecture can be regarded as an extension of family sex education skills, which reminds us that sex education begins from birth, that the practice of intimate relationship between parents in daily life is a kind of sex education for children, and that fairy tales and movies that children have been exposed to since childhood are also sex education for them. Knowing and being good at these "sex education" is a part of promoting children's healthy growth.
The fourth to thirteenth lectures are the specific problems of sex education that almost all families will encounter. We put them in a general chronological order, from the question of "where am I from" to the love and sex in adolescence, from theory to practice, and give specific and detailed suggestions to parents. So this is a very practical book.
The fourteenth lecture focuses on sex education for disabled children. Disabled people are not "asexuals", they also have sexual needs, and their healthy growth also needs sex education. Therefore, sex education for disabled children should not only see the unique requirements for sex education brought by disability, but also see their commonness with non-disabled children, and face more challenges and problems.
The fifteenth lecture discusses sex education in special families, such as divorced families and single-parent families.
The sixteenth lecture "Unfinished Topics of Sex Education" is a reply to some parents' questions, which were not mentioned in the previous lecture 15, but will inevitably be encountered in family sex education.
If you really understand, understand and digest this book, you can do it: with a book in hand, family sex education is no longer difficult. Because the content of this book is based on the concept of empowerment, the goal is to promote children's growth and let them understand the "three principles of sex" of "autonomy, health and responsibility", rather than simply disciplining children. Although this book is Family Sex Education, teachers in kindergartens, primary schools and middle schools can also read it, because family and school are intertwined and influence each other!
May this book bring us a healthy "sexual concept"!