Safety has now become a concern of the whole society, but nowadays children have poor self-protection ability, poor self-care ability and lack the courage to cope with difficulties and setbacks, so they often give up on themselves and commit suicide. How to understand this problem and how to deal with this phenomenon?
With the continuous development of modern education and teaching, the concept of education is constantly updated, from strict teacher to intimate friend, from strict to appreciation. Nowadays, praise has become another way to motivate education. Praise does play an important role in motivating students, but some people exaggerate the role of praise, so there is a subtle point that we should see the true meaning, find the extraordinary in the ordinary, and tap the inconspicuous advantages to praise it. Praise students even when they least expect it. Accompanied by a variety of praise methods: list praise, report praise, thumb praise, smile praise and so on. It has also been suggested that one sentence of praise is worth a hundred sentences of criticism, and students can only praise but not criticize. I think this view goes to the other extreme.
To err is human, let alone a student who wants to receive education. Making mistakes is the right of students, and everyone grows up in the forging of mistakes and failures. Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory. How many people can be smooth sailing? How do today's children face the challenges of the future and the bleak life? I think students should be allowed to enjoy setbacks and grow up gradually in setbacks.
After the serious traffic accident in Shanxi, the safety problem was gradually put on the agenda. Paying attention to traffic safety, food hygiene and personal safety can avoid mass casualties, but suicide and running away from home are repeatedly prohibited. Suicide has become the first cause of death among people aged 15-40. It is found that in China, about 6.5438+0.5 million people suffer from long-term severe psychological trauma due to family members or relatives and friends committing suicide every year, which has become a serious social burden. According to the international standards set by the World Health Organization, the annual suicide rate exceeds 65,438+20/10,000, which is a country with high suicide rate, and China has become a country with high suicide rate. Recently, some media interviewed some students in a university randomly, and more than half of them admitted that they had suicidal thoughts or impulses. What a serious situation! Being blamed by parents, being criticized by teachers, being lovelorn, having conflicts with classmates, failing to improve academic performance, being accused by others, and even losing weight can all be reasons for suicide. Once they are in adversity, they will be pessimistic and desperate, and often impulsively end their lives by committing suicide, regardless of their parents' upbringing. Reports in this regard can be described as endless. People shouldn't just ask: What's wrong with today's students? Why so fragile? The suicide rate can be counted, but how many people lose confidence in their study and work because of a little setback? How can this figure be counted? What are the reasons for various situations? It is worth pondering by each of us.
Obviously, what students do is just a phenomenon, the essence of which is that there must be omissions in our education system and social form. If we pay a little attention, we can easily find the increasingly prominent drawbacks of the current education system: only intellectual education is emphasized, moral education is not emphasized, and even intellectual education is emphasized. Although there is still some superficial moral education, who will believe it when schools are generally crazy about collecting money and only pay attention to the enrollment rate? So parents and students have long scoffed. The social form is the intensification of competition and the inevitable decrease of the endurance of the only child generation. It is the excessive love of the only child at home that makes it a flower in the greenhouse, and some storms are hard to see. Perhaps the focus of the contradiction lies in the increasingly fierce social competition and the increasingly fragile psychology of teenagers. Nowadays, children are rarely baptized by setbacks and failures, and their self-care ability is too poor. How do high school students who have to wash socks with their parents face life, take responsibility and get along with others? Every child thinks that he should be the core, 100% of this family, and they are really cared for by their parents. However, he is only a quarter in the classroom, a thousandth in the school and a billion in the society. How should he adapt to this contrast? As the saying goes, "If God wants to perform magical powers on Si Da Ren, he must first suffer his mind, work hard on his bones and muscles, starve his husband, empty his body and do whatever he wants." Is there any celebrity in history who didn't grow up in frustration and adversity? Sima Qian of the Western Han Dynasty was convicted of corruption for defending Li Ling who surrendered to the Huns. He suffered the great humiliation that life was worse than death in the eyes of the literati class at that time. The Historical Records he wrote was praised by Lu Xun as "a historian's swan song, leaving Sao without rhyme". It left a famous philosophical sentence that "people are inherently mortal, or they are heavier than Mount Tai or lighter than a feather". Sima Qian smiled proudly at life and death, struggled with tenacious will and gained the sublimation of life. "Xibo detention, playing Zhouyi; Confucius, Cai Chen, wrote Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan was exiled and wrote Li Sao. Zuo Qiu is blind and has "Mandarin"; Sun Tzu's Art of War, Foot Theory (2). It can be said that the idea of frustration education has existed for a long time in ancient China. Not only people, but also animals. In Alaska Nature Reserve, managers here killed wolves to protect wild deer. Since then, deer no longer have to run to avoid natural enemies, so the number of sick and disabled people is increasing day by day, and finally they are on the verge of extinction. At this time, the manager woke up and led several fierce wolves back to Luyuan. Under the threat of natural enemies, the deer ran for their lives frequently and quickly recovered their former vitality. It can be seen that frustration is not only the need of our career, but also the need of our survival. Imagine a person who has never experienced the smallest setbacks and some minor storms since he was a child in Dalian. If he encounters a slightly bigger storm in his later life, can he not panic and improvise? The essence of frustration education is like giving students an immune vaccine to stimulate the establishment of their own immune function with a small infection.
In daily life, people find that people who often have minor illnesses such as colds and fever often have a short life span; On the contrary, those who usually look as strong as cattle and never get sick are often malignant diseases such as malignant tumors once they get sick. This phenomenon has been explained in medicine: the occurrence of tumor is the result of excessive cell proliferation caused by the disorder of immune monitoring system. People who suffer from minor illnesses from time to time, their immune systems are often activated, and they remain quite vigilant. At the first sign of trouble, they immediately went into battle. However, due to strong resistance, the immune monitoring system is in a state of "putting the sword in the warehouse and releasing the horse south", and it is too late to react when it encounters malignant cell proliferation, and the result is out of control.
Human physiology is like this, and so is psychology. Frustration is an inevitable event in everyone's growth process. A person's ability to resist setbacks has a certain relationship with the growth of age, but what is more important is his experience in dealing with setbacks. Overcoming small setbacks can leave valuable experience for frustrated people and enhance their psychological endurance to deal with setbacks. Therefore, people who often deal with small setbacks can often persist in the face of big setbacks, while those who have not experienced setbacks may be crushed by a big setback.
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Life is a process from birth to death. Difficulties and puzzles are innate, even lifelong, so life is a process of coping with difficulties. There will always be moments in life when people forget their precious talents as human beings, and forget that no matter where they go, no matter what difficulties they are in, they must let these talents shine brilliantly. There will always be moments in life: people who are always confident begin to hesitate, potential geniuses look worse than mediocre people, and men who are originally powerful look weak when they are in danger.
Please write a composition on the topic of "frustration". Ask to write your own topic, your own style, have something to say, not less than 800 words, and you must not copy.
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A person always has a definite goal, and maybe he has been running to achieve it all his life. However, the running road is not smooth, even if you expect to live in peace, sometimes you will fall and get hurt. Maybe, you will get hurt-this is frustration. Adversity is painful, but setbacks and failures can increase the "wealth" of life, and hardships are also tempering. A life without setbacks is a life that seems lucky but actually poor. When setbacks come, the key is how to deal with them. As the saying goes: frustration is like a spring, and weakness is strong. Face or run away? Is it brave to overcome, or meaningless to sink? Different attitudes, different lives. The article should get to the point and organize the materials from here. The theme is easy to grasp, and it seems to compete for literary talent and structure.
Materials:
Train of thought hint
Setbacks on the road of life are inevitable, so don't be discouraged as soon as you encounter setbacks.
Frustration itself is not terrible, but it is terrible to be devastated after suffering setbacks.
We should keep an optimistic spirit when dealing with setbacks, so that we can move from failure to success.
Even in good times, be prepared for setbacks in times of peace.
well-known saying
The seeds fell not in fertile soil, but in ruins. The seeds with vitality will never sigh pessimistically, because only with resistance can they be tempered. Xia Yan
There is no reef in the sea that can't stimulate the waves, and life can't stand setbacks and become strong. -Proverbs.
Suffering is a stepping stone to genius, the wealth of the able and the abyss of the weak.
-[France] Balzac
Life is full of thorns, and the only way we can think of is to cross them quickly.
-[France] Voltaire
Failure is what I need, and it is as valuable to me as success. -[America] Emerson
Failure is the mother of success. -Proverbs
Suffering is the teacher of life. Through suffering, we move towards happiness. -[Germany] Beethoven
Classic material
Frustration can't stop the strong (Zhang Haidi is determined to become a talent)
Zhang Haidi was severely paraplegic since he was a child, dying several times and weak. However, over the past 20 years, she has learned four foreign languages, translated more than 654.38+06,000 words of foreign language works, obtained a master's degree in philosophy, taught herself acupuncture techniques, and treated more than 654.38+00,000 people, making great contributions. Compared with Zhang Haidi, what are we able-bodied people doing?
Courageously driven by setbacks (Verne 16 submission)
Jules,/kloc-a famous French science fiction writer in the 0/9th century. Verne's first work, Five Weeks in a Balloon, was successively submitted to 15 publishing houses, but none of them was appreciated. 16 was not accepted until it was submitted. American writer Jack. London first submitted the manuscript, and no publishing house was willing to publish it, so that he had to work as a coolie. Later, his "Northern Story" was taken a fancy to by a western monthly with a unique vision and became famous in one fell swoop. The famous Danish fairy tale writer Andersen made his debut. Some people know that he is the shoemaker's son, that is, they attack his works for "incoherence", "ignorance of grammar" and "ignorance of rhetoric" However, he was not discouraged, never stopped writing, and finally became famous. After the publication of Idle Time written by British poet Byron 19 years old, some people called him "dog blood drenched his head" and said that he "expressed his feelings in a dead swamp". However, Byron did not flinch, but responded to the detractors with better poems.
Struggle in adversity and find happiness in suffering (Gao Shiqi struggles with disease)
Gao Shiqi is a popular science writer in China. When I was studying abroad, I did an experiment. The glass bottle containing viral encephalitis was broken and the virus invaded his cerebellum. Since then, it has left a curse of physical disability. He endured the virus and completed all doctoral courses in bacteriology at the University of Chicago. After returning home, he dragged himself to work in Yan 'an. After liberation, his condition deteriorated and it was very difficult to speak and act. Even he needs help to open and close his eyes. But he still works with amazing suffering spirit, and has written more than ten thousand words 1. Someone asked him if he was bitter, and he smiled and said, "No! Because I struggle every day, and struggle is endless fun. "
Suffering is also a fortune ("the father of western folk songs" Wang)
The musician Wang, known as the "father of western folk songs" in China, was imprisoned for a long time, separated from his wife and children, and suffered great psychological pressure for a long time. However, with the attitude of "it is better to walk around", he devoted himself to the lonely smoke in the northwest desert and created many western folk songs such as "In that faraway place".
Frustration makes you angrier (Bailey and the reporter)
After Bailey became famous, a reporter interviewed him. "Will your son be the king of the ball like you in the future?" Bailey replied, "No, because his living environment is different from mine. When I was a child, my living environment was very poor, but it was in this harsh environment that I honed my strong fighting spirit and qualified me to be the king of the ball. However, he lived comfortably and didn't go through difficult trials. He can't be the king of the ball. "
Never be discouraged in the face of setbacks (Edison is not afraid of fire)
A fire destroyed the laboratory. All the materials and samples of Edison's research on talking movies were burned to ashes. His wife was heartbroken and burst into tears: "What a teenager's heart was burned by a fire. Now you are old and weak, what can you do? " Edison is also very sad, but he will never be disappointed. When he invented the electric light, he experimented with more than 7,600 materials and failed more than 8,000 times. He was still not discouraged and finally succeeded. Now the fire can't bring him back. Edison said to his wife, "Never mind, although I am 67 years old, I am not old. From tomorrow morning, everything will start again. "
Flexibility is a hero (Gou Jian, eat his bread and drink his intestines)
In 494 BC, the State of Yue defeated the State of Wu. Gou Jian, the King of Yue, had to use "careful words and gifts" to make peace with Wu, waiting for a comeback. Gou Jian first bribed the prince of Wu and his ministers with beautiful women, gold, silver and jewels, and also held his wife hostage to be a groom for the prince himself. Gou Jian also sent tea and rice to the king of Wu, and finally won the trust of the king of Wu and was released. After Gou Jian's narrow escape, he continued to pay tribute to Wu and assembled troops for training. In the end, he led tens of thousands of elite soldiers, completely defeated the State of Wu, and realized his desire to wash away the humiliation and revitalize the country.
Overcome setbacks with optimism (Newton and others faced setbacks)
At all times and all over the world, because of extremely strong and effective optimism, many people have overcome all kinds of difficulties and obstacles and won. When Newton invented the theory of gravity, people all over the world opposed him; When Harvey invented the theory of blood circulation, people all over the world opposed him. When Darwin announced the theory of evolution, people all over the world opposed him; When Dambert first made the telephone, people all over the world laughed at him. When Wrigt first made an airplane with coolies, people all over the world laughed at him. Speaking of Dr. Sun Yat-sen, when he gave a speech on saving the nation by revolution in Nanyang for the first time, only three people listened at a time. Many people are praised by the world for their optimism.
Extremely strong and effective optimism can make people overcome the confusion, blindness, ruthlessness, terror, resentment and resistance all over the world. Moreover, the greater the work, the more fierce the resistance, which has become a law. The most important weapon to deal with this fierce resistance is optimism. Without optimism, one is bound to be defeated in front of all kinds of demons.
Example: Life needs setbacks.
Everyone pursues happiness and happiness, but avoids disaster and sadness. We are always sad for setbacks and unhappiness. Imagine, if there were no setbacks and frustrations in our life, would we cherish the happiness we have, be moved, and get the joy we haven't seen for a long time after liberation? no
I often caught a cold and had a fever when I was a child. Just before the exam, I fell down with a high fever, reaching 40 degrees. I'm going crazy, as if something is struggling in my head. At that time, I was just sleepy and surrounded by obscurity, and I could never escape from this trembling circle.
I took the medicine and hung up the water, and my condition didn't get much better. I'm worried, I'm angry, I complain, why is there such a thing as disease in this world, why is it so painful, and why is it me who suffers? A hundred, a thousand, why are you spinning around in my heart? All I can do is lie in bed, unable to sleep or laugh. When I stood up, my head was spinning, and people seemed to lose their center of gravity. I yearn for the outside world and hate this disease that bothers me. At this moment, it seems that my whole body and even my soul are burning. I struggled desperately in the fire, that's all. I didn't recover until a week later.
When I went back to school, I was in the warm sunshine. How I long for this splendid and beautiful world. I found that my world had a long-lost clear sky and a long-lost smile. Everything is so lovely, it's good to have life! I have long been intoxicated with the excitement and joy of meeting my classmates again. I can shout again and run away freely! I am experiencing happiness that I have never experienced before.
This kind of life is colorful. It is precisely because of setbacks that I have a heartfelt love for life and will be grateful to all the people and things that have given me happiness. We should be grateful for the power of setbacks and the happiness after suffering, which we will never experience in a quiet life because we need setbacks.
Remember: life is incomplete without setbacks.