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"Sandwich Criticism" in Praise and Criticism
Then how can we blame ourselves and benefit others? The author gives a method called "sandwich criticism".

This method is often used when educating children. Simply put, sandwich criticism means "praise first, then restrain", giving praise first, then passing on negative criticism. For example, if children are found not to clean the stove after washing dishes, some parents may criticize their children as soon as they come up: "Son, you are always careless. I told you to do things seriously and leave one thing alone. Look at you. You forgot to clean the dirty stove. I think you have really grown up. " If you say this, the child will definitely resist: "Since you have sentenced your son to grow up and there is no possibility of progress, can't I quit?" This is the general accusation we talked about earlier.

You should say to your son, "honey, dad always thinks you are different and excellent." Yesterday, you volunteered to help your mother clean. I think you are grown up, sensible and know how to maintain family hygiene with your parents. I was not as good as you when I was your age. I can't even wash chopsticks. However, I found that you forgot to clean the pot and stove together. You should pay attention next time. Dad believes you can do better. " You see, this is also an insult. The first step is to praise the child for growing up, being sensible and doing housework. The second step is to blame-but forget to clean the stove; Finally, it is very important to give children constructive suggestions and believe that children can do better next time. In this way, children can accept it.

The author of this book tells us that sandwich criticism is practical because it focuses on the future. Criticism should not be completely negative condemnation, but constructive, providing valuable guidance for the next step, so that criticism can benefit others.

Praise requires generosity, while blame requires us to be more cautious, because it depends on the psychological endurance of different age groups, different scenes, different positions and different people. Let's talk about age first. For children, I think we must be gentle, praise-oriented, warm, show the care of our elders, let love touch our children, and let them feel warm directly. But is it necessary to spoil adults like this? I don't think it's necessary, because adults have enough knowledge and experience to support them to digest some straightforward opinions, I mean accusations. For example, in a meeting, in a company, the president may need to seek truth from facts, put clear facts on the table, and then point out that there is indeed room for improvement and progress in this matter today. Adults are better to be straightforward.