First, love.

The embodiment of a person's quality lies not in how wide his knowledge level is, nor in how strong his ability is, but in the beauty of his soul!

The first is whether he has "love" That is, compassion, compassion. Generally speaking, it means caring for others and being able to detect their difficulties.

Understand the needs of others ... Such people are more willing to help others. At the same time, he will be more popular in society.

Caring children are very kind, friendly, tolerant, grateful, willing to help others, full of sunshine in their hearts, and always see the positive side.

There is love, energy and sunshine.

How to cultivate children's love and compassion?

Parents should set an example.

Parents should have love, help others, and have compassion, so as to provide a good example for their children and let them be affected.

2. Encourage children's friendly behavior.

When others need help, lend a helping hand, put yourself in their shoes and appreciate their difficult side.

Encourage children to know how to share: for example, a story they saw, a favorite book, happy things, their own good learning methods, learning results, their own snacks and so on. You can share it with people around you.

3. Guide children to discover the love around them.

When watching TV movies, there are some touching things in the story, or the spiritual quality of the protagonist, which can be shared with children and passed down bit by bit, and the love of children will continue to increase.

4. Encourage children to participate in social welfare activities.

For example: donate money to the disaster area, or donate some items to children in mountainous areas.

Second, empathy

Also known as: empathy, thinking for others.

Understand other people's feelings, think from other people's standpoint, and have strong inner endurance.

Can guide the child: What if I were him? How do I feel? What?

Third, honesty.

Honesty is very important to anyone. Because honesty is the most basic moral norm in dealing with people.

If a person loses his integrity, everyone no longer believes in him; If an enterprise loses its integrity, it will close down or lose money.

Therefore, it is very important to cultivate children's integrity.

Story: Ceng Zi taught his son to kill pigs.

Ceng Zi's wife went to the market, and his son cried to follow. His mother said to him, "Go home first, and I'll come back later to kill the pig for you."

No sooner had she returned from the fair than Ceng Zi was going to catch pigs and kill them. She stopped saying, "It's just a joke with the children." Ceng Zi said, "Wife, you can't joke with him!

Children have no ability to think and judge, so they should learn from their parents and follow their correct instructions. Now you lie to him, you are teaching your child to cheat!

If a mother cheats on her son, he will no longer trust his mother. This is not the way to realize education. "So Ceng Zi killed the pig and cooked the meat to feed the children.

As parents want to teach their children honesty, the first thing is honesty.

Discipline children's parents not to break their promises and respect what others and children have said. Only when parents do well can they transfer good energy to their children.

Parents should trust their children. When a child wants to do something, if it is within the child's ability, let the child try it, because he will have the power to believe.

When children feel the trust of their parents, their hearts will be full of confidence, happiness and vitality.

Fourth, the sense of responsibility.

A, do your own thing.

B encourage children to contribute to their families, classes and teams and enhance their sense of responsibility.

For example, doing housework at home, cleaning the class and doing some team activities are all cultivating children's sense of responsibility.

If you do something wrong, you should dare to bear the consequences.

For example, when a child breaks a glass, or when a child breaks a classmate's stationery ... there must be an apology and compensation. Let children know how to bear the consequences.

Five, frustration tolerance (children's inner strength in the face of setbacks)

The premise of cultivating children's resilience is to cultivate their self-confidence, positive and optimistic mentality.

A positive and optimistic child will be very happy in the face of setbacks and failures. He has a strong heart and will get up quickly and move on, while some children will feel uncomfortable, cry and even give up in the face of setbacks. So two kinds of mentality will lead to different consequences.

Three ways to cultivate children's sunshine mentality;

First, parents should face life calmly. It's not easy to face life, don't complain and blame. Be more tolerant and remember: don't speak ill of others in front of children.

Second, don't compare your children with other children. Comparing hurts children's self-esteem, which is an act of denying children. The child will feel that in the mother's heart, she always feels that other children are good, and she feels that she is not good. It is easy for the child to dislike another child for a long time.

Third, don't always say that children can't. In particular, don't say that children are not good in public, which will make children lose their sunshine mentality and become inactive and pessimistic. Remember: there is no responsibility in public.

Four steps to cultivate children's frustration tolerance:

1, face the facts

For example, if you take part in some activities, your child doesn't perform well, or loses the game, some parents will say: unfair referee, poor organization, and so on.

If things go on like this, children will accuse others of being bad when they are disappointed. Therefore, the correct way is to face the facts frankly.

Face the fact: it is telling children to find reasons from themselves.

We didn't get a good ranking in this competition, so we should sum it up well, don't argue about anything, and admit this fact.

Step 2 ease your mood

When children are frustrated, some children will get angry and blame others or themselves. Respect children's emotional catharsis.

Step 3 analyze the problem

When the child has vented his emotions and calmed down, he can ask the child: He didn't do well in this exam, or he didn't get a good ranking in the competition. What is the reason? Have you listened to the judges' comments?

What are our shortcomings for those award-winning children? How to work hard later?

4. encourage enterprising.

Say to the child: son, do you want to continue to vent your emotions, be unhappy, and keep your lost mood to study? Or can you summon up courage, continue to cheer in the face of setbacks and strive for good results in the next exam? I believe that most children will choose the latter. Then go on to say: son, I think you are brave and persistent, and you can continue to work hard in the face of failure. Mom believes in you: as long as you work hard, it will be better next time.

Conclusion:

Frustration sharpens a person's will, and adversity makes a person's life.

So when children encounter some difficulties, it is actually a good classroom. Enhance children's willpower and frustration tolerance.