This is a typical irresponsible and extremely selfish and ignorant mother's behavior, trying to explain to the people present that "my daughter stole the toy, not me, and it has nothing to do with me", in order to try to shirk and wash away her educational responsibility and put all the responsibility on the innocent daughter. You know, when a person enters the public security bureau because of one thing, his psychological shadow and public opinion pressure are hard to get rid of, and can even affect his life.
The seven-year-old girl is innocent and curious about everything in the world, especially the toys she likes for a long time. She suddenly found her favorite toy in the mall, and it was normal to play. As we all know, parents are children's first teachers, and their words and deeds directly affect their children's life.
In this case, if a responsible mother finds that her child has stolen toys in the shopping mall, there are several ways to deal with it: First, if she does not leave the door of the shopping mall, she should take her child to the checkout counter in time and educate her child on the spot that she must pay before she can take it out; Second, if you have left the gate of the mall, you should come back with your children in time, explain the situation to the cashier in the mall, review your educational responsibility for your children, and pay the payment in full; Third, if the mother herself is a greedy person, if she finds the child stealing toys, she may call the police in order to get rid of the embarrassing situation.
I don't think my mother shirked her responsibility. I admire her courage! What many people don't understand is that the child is only 7 years old and ignorant, and the mother makes a mountain out of a molehill Waste police force ...
I remember making similar mistakes when I was a child. I was six years old, and I went to my grandmother's orchard with a little friend to steal apricots. I was caught by my grandfather who looked after the garden. Uncle said that we. We were bold enough to say that the apricot tree didn't write your name. ...
Uncle was so angry that he dragged us to find our parents.
My uncle not only asked me to apologize, but also I was punished by him. Grandma quarreled with her uncle and said that she was just a child. Forget it, it won't be endless.
Uncle said: I was careless when I was a child, and it was too late to be a crooked tree when I grew up! Since then, I have never touched anyone else's things.
Nowadays, children are educated early and start kindergarten at the age of 3. By the age of seven, they already knew a lot. There should be a basic concept of stealing. The mother also wants to let the child take the initiative to admit it through her own teaching, but the child does not cooperate, so this is the best policy.
Do you think she wants to embarrass her daughter? But I just don't want my daughter to be lucky!
Although emotionally outspoken, it is not unreasonable?
Netizens spit out that she is wasting police force? But if you were an adult, would you still say that?
Parents have a responsibility. But parents are sometimes helpless. Education is not a problem, there is a fixed answer for reference. Or practice while groping. This mother is also attentive, much better than those who think that children are too young to care.
It takes three generations to make a gentleman. Mom's pushing too hard is completely understandable. A seven-year-old girl steals toys in a shopping mall. This is a very bad behavior, and parents should of course educate and persuade their children. But you can't call the police and ask the police to question a seven-year-old child repeatedly. How does this affect the child's young mind? As a mother's daughter, she stole toys from the shopping mall. First, she should review that she didn't educate her children well, and then she told them softly. This behavior is extremely bad. Then let the children apologize to the merchants. I pay for this project myself. In this case, children will be educated, there is no need to call the police so ostentatiously, and it is also an interrogation of children. This has hurt the hearts of seven-year-old children, so I say this is an extremely admirable result.
Think about it from another angle. If an adult supermarket steals a small item and the supermarket calls the police, should the police call the police?
If you call the police, no matter how much money you have, the police should call the police and have the obligation to call the police. This mother did the right thing. How can she be called a waste of police force? There was a theft. Someone called the police. The police called the police. This is a responsibility or a job.
If the amount of theft is small, according to the regulations, the police can not call the police, so even if the mother in question calls the police, she should not call the police. There are rules on whether to call the police.
I agree with the mother's practice in the question, telling children that stealing requires police intervention, which is illegal. If they break the law to a certain age, they will be punished, so that children can understand the constraints of the rule of law.
At the same time, I was surprised that many netizens said it was a waste of police force. What do you want the police to do? They should call the police, but they shouldn't. If you call the police, they won't. Only when all citizens can report problems, disputes and lawsuits to the police can the rule of law really begin.
It is the responsibility to educate children, parents and society. Can only say that the mother's behavior is quite unexpected. The mother treated her child with a vicious medicine. The disease is cured, but will it leave sequelae?
The mother's alarm is also out of helplessness. She can't educate her children well, so she has to resort to the police. This is a unique way of education for mothers, and it can't be said that it is shirking responsibility.
But is mother's education suitable for a seven-year-old daughter?
First of all, in public, girls refuse to admit that stealing is common sense out of fear. Putting yourself in others' shoes, no one wants to be criticized in public, and self-protection psychology will naturally resist this accusation. At this time, if the mother pays compensation first and then educates her daughter after returning home, it can not only safeguard her daughter's self-esteem in public, but also make her realize that some things can't be done. I believe that my daughter will trust her mother more and the affection between mother and daughter will be further deepened.
It's a pity that my mother used the majesty of the law to forcibly break the armor of girls' self-protection in such public places. Of course, she achieved what she wanted, and the child admitted her mistake in public, but the torn armor will always stand between her daughter and her mother's heart.
In the heart of her 7-year-old daughter, her mother is her own day. To tell the truth, my daughter has this kind of stealing behavior, which shows that her mother's educational methods are not in place and she does not pay close attention to her daughter's growth. This alarm exposed the improper way of mother's education.
Poor wind, but the hearts of children all over the world, who knows?
A mother's attitude cannot be said to be incorrect, but the method is speechless.
17 year old children can't control it. I see. Can't 7-year-olds control it? If we follow this line of thinking, will it be difficult to trouble the people's court to adjust the mother-daughter relationship when the child enters the rebellious period of adolescence?
Children may have a weak sense of property rights, but they will never argue about right and wrong. The reason is clear. I believe that most children will not force things that are not their own.
I remember when my daughter was young, when we were still studying in Japan, we once went to the local aquarium. Then the daughter ran to the souvenir shop, grabbed a favorite plush toy and walked out. At that time, my husband and I were standing at the door of the store, at a distance from her, and it was too late to stop.
My heart thumped for fear that the clerk would scream and scare the children. But the clerk watched my daughter take the toy without saying a word. Then the husband brought his daughter in, put the toy back and apologized to the humanity in the shop. The clerk smiled and said that it doesn't matter.
The shop assistant simply doesn't believe that a child can take the toy away without his parents' permission, so there is no need to scare the child.
So in view of this incident in Guangdong, I think it may be that the child mentioned to his mother that he wanted this toy. Because my mother didn't agree, I reached for it myself. And the mother can't convince the child and is unwilling to compromise. At this time, the police were called.
Of course, this is my wild guess. Because I can't believe a 7-year-old child can have such a good psychological quality. Stealing can also be against the mother and the clerk at the same time.
If so, I think mother should also consider it. If toys are what her daughter really wants, it's no problem to satisfy her children's wishes.
If the price of toys is beyond the family's affordability, explain to your child why you can't buy them for her. Instead of simply putting on a stolen hat rudely. Otherwise, even if the little girl has to give up this toy because of the appearance of the police, the problem has not been solved, and there may be other contradictions and troubles in the future.
Anyway, this mother should have a good communication with her children.
In short, only communication and understanding can completely solve the contradiction, otherwise, in the process of educating children, it is too exaggerated to call the police whenever there is a problem.
How to treat a 7-year-old girl stealing toys and calling the police?
At first glance, I think this mother has done something inappropriate. The child stole toys from the shopping center. A mother can ask her children to return them and apologize to the shopkeeper. Calling the police is a storm in a teacup. But when I read the description of the whole incident, especially the sentence "No matter what the girl's mother and the shop assistant ask, the little girl just won't admit it." ,
After all, it takes a lot of courage to call the police, which involves the emotional problems of mother and son, but if she doesn't call the police, the adverse consequences will be even greater, because from the description in the article, the child is not willful, and the hidden danger of not calling the police is quite great. If she leads the police, it may cause estrangement between mother and daughter, but because she is only 7 years old, she has enough time to communicate with her children and get their understanding.
So the right to hurt each other is smaller.
Because the alarm can give children the following education, it should be instructive to life.
First of all, honesty
An important and excellent quality of a person.
Second, the cost
Everything has a price, willfulness needs a sense of boundary, and everything must consider the consequences.
Third, the concept of right and wrong
What is right and what is wrong. Must be clear.
Fourth, the awareness of rules
There are rules in society, and it is impossible to do whatever you want.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) principle
The wrong things must be corrected. Being a man and doing things with principles is a compulsory course in life.
It is a very bad thing for children to steal, but if they are guided well, they will be given an important life lesson in advance. Should be of great benefit to children.
Seeing this behind the scenes, I admire the mother's courage.
The mother's choice of calling the police is a mother's sense of rules and morality in guarding her children, and calling the police is a way.
Imagine that if the mother chooses to compromise this time, the child will think that the mother believes her lies.
Then there will be another time for such deceptive words and deeds, the next time ... until watching the child step into the abyss.
Combining Piaget and Kohlberg s research on children s moral development;
At the age of 0 -4, 5,
Children tend to be based on the concrete results of their actions.
Judge whether your behavior is accepted and reasonable;
At the age of 4, 5, 8 or 9,
Children usually obey important people or other authoritative roles,
I will also abide by the morality and rules that some society expects of people, and think that these are fixed;
/kloc-after 0/0 years old,
Children can gradually make their own explanations according to their own internalized morality and rules.
Manage your own behavior.
So what we can see is,
The establishment and development of children's sense of rules or morality,
It's similar to the process when we help our children learn bicycles.
At first, parents helped their children hold the back seat to control their balance.
Then, when the children gradually learn, the parents will take care of them.
Until the child can ride a bike independently, it becomes more and more stable.
So,
In the critical period of children's growth and development,
Our guidance and feedback to children is very important.
This is related to what kind of world the child's heart will build.
Mothers should have the greatest influence on their children. I don't think it is necessary to use the police. You can return the toys first and take the children home to educate them slowly. Children who refuse to admit their mistakes are mostly embarrassed or stubborn. Calling the police will bring excessive shock to children, but it is not easy to do ideological work at home.
I think it is more suitable for adult children to put righteousness above family interests, and it is a felony. The mother made a mountain out of a molehill.
This question sucks, and it's not good to use a choice. At first glance, this choice is more or less biased. My daughter stole a supermarket toy and my mother called the police. If it is such a simple question, there will be more room for discussion and we can express our opinions, but the following details are much smaller. The 7-year-old girl said, big or small. There should be and should be a concept of right and wrong in stealing. She stole a toy in the supermarket and refused to admit it in front of the supermarket staff and her mother. My mother had no choice but to call the police to educate her. This mother is a responsible and good mother. The subject sets a trap and uses the word shirking responsibility to induce it. This kind of induction really played a misleading role.