Wrong method 1. The authority of parents was scared out.
In life, many parents use the authority of special professionals such as "police", "doctor" and "teacher" to "threaten" their children to eat, sleep and obey. Perhaps this method is effective for a while, but after a long time, children will not only be afraid of these occupations, but also have a strong sense of insecurity.
When children are disobedient, parents can't help showing the authority of adults, coercion, command and intimidation, which are not good communication methods. Why not explore some more sensible methods according to children's preferences? For example, by telling stories, reading books and other ways to tell children something, and communicating with children with more patience and childlike interest, children will be more receptive.
Wrong method 2. Make decisions for children blindly.
When children play with other children, there will be some disputes and problems. Parents often make decisions for their children without consulting their children, which will interfere with the independent communication between children and make them lose practical opportunities to communicate with their peers.
Smart parents always stand behind their children. When encountering the problem of communication between children and others, parents may wish to wait for a while, observe the child's own reaction and let him make up his mind independently. If there is inappropriate behavior, parents will join in at the right time to guide him to communicate correctly with his peers.
Wrong way three, think of the child as fragile.
If a group of children are playing and several older children suddenly join in, parents often worry that their children will suffer, so they take them away from the playground. This is to protect their health with their own expectations, but it destroys the environment for children to learn and communicate.
It is human nature to worry that one's children will be bullied by older children, but children's interaction is very simple, and it is mostly harmless to express their emotions directly. Mom and dad can watch it secretly, so as not to destroy the happy atmosphere at the scene and constantly interfere with the normal communication of children.
Wrong way 4. Always look at the world for children.
If when taking the baby out to play, the father will let the baby watch this for a while, and the mother will let the baby watch that for a while ... Parents can't wait for the child to find out for themselves, so they can't wait to point out what they see. On the surface, this practice is imparting knowledge to the baby, but in fact it limits the overall observation ability of the child and deprives the child of the fun of free exploration.
The correct way is that parents can wait for their children to pay special attention to something before opening their mouths. It is best to say it in a guiding way, such as asking more questions and guiding their children to observe together.
Wrong method five, can't be rational to children.
Now, the children are very smart and a geek. When they use "cleverness" and "tricks" to deal with adults, many parents know it is wrong, but they can't help but praise their children's cleverness. Inconsistencies in parents' expressions, tone and actions often make children unable to distinguish correctly, leading to false imitation.
Children's initial sense of order and rules often comes from the family environment they are exposed to, so parents' responsibilities are particularly important. In the face of children's incorrect "intelligence", parents need more rationality, and the attitude of the whole family is the same.