First of all, lying
Generally speaking, lying is formed in this way. The child did something wrong. The first time they told their parents, they beat their children around. When they do something wrong for the second time, they don't tell their parents or admit it. At this time, parents don't blame their children, and children will lie in the future.
The rule of lying is simple: if you tell the truth, you will be beaten, but if you tell lies, you will not be beaten.
So lying became a habit.
Second, spend money indiscriminately.
This question is relatively simple. When a child was young, she was not allowed to develop the habit of managing money.
When your niece was young, there should be two possibilities for money. What she wants, her parents will give it to her unconditionally, without any rejection. Her parents have never given her pocket money since she was a child.
Both extreme situations will make her have money problems when she grows up.
As for puppy love, she is 18 years old. Is it too early to fall in love?
"Every time I ask for money, my sister is soft-hearted, afraid that if I don't give money, she will go bad."
Your niece is really getting worse and worse. The people who make her worse and worse are her parents (you won't tell me this, but that's the truth). Her parents' repeated misconduct is to teach their children to learn bad things, which began at an early age.
"The two of them are too used to the result of this child."
On the surface, this is criticizing her parents' unqualified behavior, but in fact it is shirking responsibility for them. In fact, her parents' problems are more serious than this.
Have you ever wondered why this happened?
Many parents in China have this problem. They lack respect and equality for children, are possessive and controlling, and love to preach. Parents and children are in an unequal position, and parents are above each other. When children reach puberty, they are unwilling to listen to their parents' sermons when they have a sense of independence. This is why many parents say that "the bigger the child, the more difficult it is to manage", which is the root cause. Many parents blame this problem on their children, but it is actually a parent's problem. The root of children's "fever and cold" lies in their parents' "illness".
"Children's problems are ultimately parents' problems!"
Now her three problems, lying and spending money indiscriminately, can hardly be solved, because the problems appeared many years ago.
And the question of love, I am afraid, can be more.
In short, "the more parents oppose their children, the more persistent they are." Do you know why?
In children's eyes, parents are not only against love, but against the children themselves, her independent personality and her choices. As mentioned above, parents possess and control their children from an early age.