Jason, mom has an idea.
September 16 Creator in the field of quality parenting
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Many parents have a general understanding of their children entering the first rebellious period at the age of 2, but they don't have a particularly clear understanding of what a 3-year-old baby looks like. The 3-year-old baby is about to start kindergarten, which is also the age when he officially moves towards social interaction.
Some people say that 3-year-old children are more and more difficult to discipline because of their enhanced self-awareness. In fact, it is not difficult for a 3-year-old child to teach as long as he grasps five key points.
Educating a 3-year-old baby may wish to start from the following five aspects.
First, train children's language ability and reading ability.
A 3-year-old baby can master about 300 language words. At this stage, it is necessary to chat with the baby more to promote the baby's language development ability.
Every day before going to bed, you can accompany your child to read a picture book of a short story, or you can play some science stories to your child before going to bed. When telling a story, you can deliberately not say your ending, but let the children make up their own stories. Even if you don't make it up, your mother should encourage you in time: I haven't thought of this yet. Your story is really good.
In the early childhood bible "karl witte Education", old Carl and his wife trained young Carl's language ability and imagination in this way.
Second, cultivate children's concentration.
Children's concentration also needs to be cultivated. Montessori education once described such a thing. A teacher saw a little girl building blocks very intently, constantly building blocks at all angles, then dismantling them, slowly building them, and then dismantling them. The teacher silently counted how many times the little girl built it, and finally found that the little girl actually built it 42 times. Until the last time, the little girl woke up like a dream and looked around with special satisfaction, showing a happy smile.
The 3-year-old baby is in a period of great concentration on what he is interested in. They can play with toys very intently. Although this toy may be boring in the eyes of adults, don't disturb him and let him immerse himself in his own world.
Note: at this time, don't let the child drink water for a while, let the child urinate for a while, and ask the child to play something else for a while. When a child is very focused on doing something, it is best to accompany him silently to protect his concentration.
Third, cultivate children's emotional intelligence.
"Look at the small at the age of three, and look at the old at the age of seven".
Professor Li Meijin once said: Children must cultivate emotional intelligence when they are young, otherwise it will be difficult to cultivate that kind of intimacy when they are older. From the baby's cognitive point of view, the 3-year-old baby is constantly exploring and absorbing the world. What he absorbed at this stage has a far-reaching influence on his later living habits and emotional expression habits.
The 3-year-old baby can't reach his own ability, but his cognition has reached a certain level. If he can't reach his goal, he can't say clearly, and it's easy to solve the problem by directly starting work or crying.
In view of this phenomenon:
Parents should teach their children how to express what they want in words. If they can't make it clear at the moment, teach their children to ask adults or parents for help.
Usually you can intentionally guide: Baby, do you want to play ball with Hanhan? Then you can say to Han Han: Can we play ball together? In all kinds of situations, it is advisable to guide children, and slowly, children can accurately tell their emotions and feelings.
When children cry because they can't reach their goals, they can temporarily avoid them and let them release their emotions. After children release their emotions, they can tell them that crying can't solve the problem. When encountering problems, you can say what you think and ask your mother to agree or disagree, but if you cry, the final result is that your mother will not agree.
Ps: Parents should implement the principle of consistency when facing their children's requirements, and don't have different standards or change constantly, so that children don't know who to listen to.
Physical education class for 4-and 3-year-olds.
According to the Regulations on Kindergarten Work newly revised by the Ministry of Education, 3-year-old children should exercise for 3 hours every day, including outdoor exercise for 2 hours and indoor exercise 1 hour.
Children's outdoor sports can choose different time periods according to different seasons, and choose cool places around 4 or 5 o'clock in the morning and afternoon in summer; In winter, you can choose to play football, ride a bike, fly a kite and interact with other children when the sun is fine at noon.
When children are indoors, they might as well buy some toys that need fine movements, such as beads and building blocks, to train their baby's fine movements.
Fifth, cultivate children's awareness of rules.
When a 3-year-old baby first goes to kindergarten, it is a social activity and the best time to make public rules. At this stage, you can make rules for your baby from his living habits, work and rest habits, emotional cultivation, interpersonal skills and other aspects, and consciously train him to abide by the rules. When he is 3 years old, you don't need to chase him to obey the rules when he is 13 years old, it will only make him impatient.
Appendix: Physiological Characteristics of 3-year-olds
① Height and weight of a 3-year-old baby
The following are the reference standards for the growth and development of children under 7 years old in China formulated by the Ministry of Health. The height and weight of a three-year-old baby are as follows:
The male treasure is 86.3- 109.4cm tall and weighs10.61-20.64kg;
The average height is 97.5cm and the average weight is14.65 kg. .
The female treasure is 85.4- 108. 1cm, and weighs 10.23-20. 10 kg.
The average height is 96.3cm, and the average weight is 14. 13 kg.
② Skills of 3-year-old infants
The 3-year-old baby's fine movements are further strengthened, and he can master scissors, beads, build blocks independently and distinguish sizes;
The exercise ability of big muscles is also greatly enhanced, and you can throw the ball to you accurately and run around obstacles at the same time; The balance ability is strengthened, and you can walk on the balance beam and ride a bike;
Self-care ability is further strengthened, and you can wash your hands, dress and button yourself;
Have gender awareness and begin to know all parts of the body;
The ability to imitate is strengthened, and it is easy to imitate characters and plots on TV, and likes to imitate rhythmic movements;
Language ability is strengthened, and I can sing simple children's songs with my mother; I began to understand "yours" and "mine", and the expression of self-awareness was strengthened. I will use "I" instead of my previous name or "baby" and simply describe what I saw.
Conclusion:
One of the top ten principals in China once told the story of her and her son. She said that now it is said that adolescence meets menopause, as if children and parents are always antagonistic, but I have never felt my son's so-called adolescent rebellion. When I was a child, I laid a good foundation for my children. The parent-child relationship has always been smooth, so there will be no adolescent rebellion.
In fact, the root of many adolescent rebellious children lies in the lack of education in childhood. Therefore, when the child is 3 years old, parents need to help the child establish more regular work and rest habits and living habits, guide the child to correctly express emotions, take the child outdoors to experience nature, and make the parent-child relationship more harmonious.
Rome was not formed in a day, nor was a child's character developed in a day. Cultivate your child's future from the age of 3.
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