My children are introverted and timid, and they don't take the initiative to do anything. This may also have genetic factors. My wife and I were like this when we were young. Because I don't have too many constraints in his learning process from grade one to grade four, he only relies on his own consciousness, so he doesn't have his own learning methods and good study habits, and his interest in learning is average. In view of the child's personality and his current situation, I have made my own educational goals and children's learning plans. The goal is to cultivate children's interest in learning and develop good study habits. This goal will be achieved before graduation from primary school. The plan is: use 1 hour to do homework, write calligraphy for half an hour, read extracurricular books for half an hour, watch TV for half an hour, and control the rest of the time by yourself, but you must go to bed before 9 o'clock (except in special circumstances). As for me, I accompany him every day, reading books and magazines related to work, reading books I like to read, such as Reader, practicing calligraphy and writing excerpts. His excerpts were poor, so I excerpted them with him. I recommend articles suitable for him to read and provide them to her. He wrote a weekly diary, so did I. He practices calligraphy, so do I. In short, I tried my best to learn the same knowledge with him and cultivate his interest, and I also benefited from it. We work together and make progress together. I have also worked out reward measures: 5 points for each big progress, 2 points for each small progress, gifts worth 20 yuan for every 50 points, and gifts worth 50 yuan for every 100 points. I specially prepared a notebook for him to record his progress and divide his progress into two parts, one is the progress in study and the other is the progress in life. And every progress is recorded, with large and small stickers attached. The child developed a strong interest the second time. Within a few days of the implementation of the plan, he was praised by the teacher and got due marks and stickers. I also lost no time to communicate with the teacher and explain my ideas to him, hoping to get his support. The teacher also left me a message on the feedback book, telling me the progress of the child, the problems still existing in the child and the aspects that need parents' cooperation.
When my plan was implemented for two months, my child passed the mid-term exam and his math performance was not satisfactory, so I called my child's class teacher to ask why. The teacher said that he didn't learn some questions in this exam. Don't blame the child, don't blame him. He also said that the biggest progress of children recently is self-confidence, which is more important than anything else. Of course, I won't be blamed, but I want to know the reasons why my children failed in the exam and the effect of my educational methods. After listening to the teacher, I strengthened my confidence and continued to implement my plan. I believe my goal will be achieved. Besides, I didn't value grades. I have always believed that as long as I am interested in learning, I will not worry about my grades! It is my greatest hope that he can study happily and form good study habits. If the goal is achieved, it will lay a good foundation for him to go to junior high school. I also firmly believe that my children are not rotten wood. As long as the method is correct, he will have a good future.
After a semester, I saw my child's progress: he could read some extracurricular books independently. Before that, he paid little attention to my excellent composition for primary school students, Snowflake, Story King. He has basically developed good study habits. When I am not at home, I can finish the plan on my own initiative without being urged by my grandparents, which was impossible in the past. He has been weak in reading texts, and he has been praised by teachers many times this semester and recognized by his classmates. In his composition, he can give full play to his imagination and his typos have been greatly improved. Excerpts are also his weakness. With my encouragement, his excerpts won several "excellent". He has made a lot of progress. The score reached 100, and he got the gift he wanted. He tasted the sweetness of hard work and became more motivated in his studies. I know he is making progress, but these are unstable. I must stick to it and consolidate these good habits in order to achieve my expected goal. I will continue to work hard!
Although the education of children is mainly appreciation, when children make mistakes, they must not be accommodated, but they must never be beaten and scolded. That will not only disrespect children, but also hurt their self-esteem, thus creating rebellious psychology. My method is: let him tell his mistakes and how to correct them in the future. If he doesn't fully understand, reason with her and tell him how to correct it. Once, the child didn't attend class in the afternoon and made an appointment with his classmates to go skating. Mother-in-law urged him to meet him at the stadium at half past two and told him not to go anywhere. However, when her mother-in-law went to pick him up, she found him gone. Her mother-in-law looked everywhere, but she couldn't find him. She was afraid that he couldn't get into the house at home, so she hurried home and waited for him. But he didn't come back until after 4 o'clock to say that he had lost his skates. Mother-in-law scolded him in a rage. After I came back, my mother-in-law told me what happened. I immediately called the child to my side and asked him to tell me what was wrong. The child said, I lost my skates and cried. I realized that he didn't realize his problem. So I said, son, what you said is not the main reason. The main reason why grandma is angry is not because you lost your skates. She is afraid that the bad guys will cheat you away. How worried she is. Besides, grandma said yes to you, but you broke your word. That's your fault, you know? The child listened to my words and nodded. Mom, I know what to do in the future, as I wrote in my composition, to be an honest and trustworthy person. I stroked his head and said, yes.
In the process of implementing the plan, words and deeds are indispensable. You should set an example for your children, make them trust you and convince you, so that your words can be strong and your children can follow your plan. We should not only teach children how to study, but also teach them how to be human. I have always told them to help each other, be a kind person and have a tolerant heart. So every time a child tells me about being bullied, I tell him to be patient. However, children are often bullied by girls. They once told me, Mom, one day, as soon as I raised my hand at the same table, I got under the table. She asked me what I was doing. I don't think she wanted to hit me, so she said, I, I picked up an eraser. I was really angry and distressed when I heard that. A similar situation has happened several times. The most exasperating time was when her deskmate insisted that my child pushed her and called her mother. His mother actually called my child to the corridor to reprimand him, and even asked for her home phone number.
The child returned to his seat crying. When I got home, I was told not to answer the phone calls of strangers. She also said that she didn't remember anything except that her mother said that I pushed her daughter and had the face to laugh! Obviously, the child was frightened. This time, I was really angry. When the child was talking to me, his deskmate's mother called to denounce me and kept asking me to discipline the child. You're welcome. I believe that my children will not lie. I asked her what qualifications she had to reprimand my children. If the child is ill, I will hold her accountable! Knowing that she was wrong, she hung up. Put the phone down, the child looked at me in surprise, mom, I have never seen you lose such a big temper. The child found that my performance today was inconsistent with the sermon I usually gave him. Then I said to him, don't be afraid of them, son. Tomorrow, mom will go to school to find a teacher. I will remember my mother's words in the future: if people don't attack me, I won't attack. If people attack me, I will attack! Do you understand what I mean? I also told him that this was the words of the great leader Chairman Mao. The child nodded his head. The next day, I took my children to school. As soon as the children entered the classroom, they said to me, mom, stop arguing and make up! I said yes. I went to the head teacher and told her that if the child really did something wrong, I didn't object to the teacher reprimanding the child, but I couldn't accept the parents' lessons. And euphemistically said that the teacher should be responsible for this! The teacher agreed and understood what I said and asked my forgiveness for my dereliction of duty. Nothing like this happened after that. At this point, I understand that appropriate resistance is necessary, and blind tolerance and accommodation can only encourage the arrogance of parents and their children who love bullying!