? As one of the treasures of China's traditional culture, Disciple Rules has been handed down from generation to generation. Unfortunately, it is regarded as dross in modern times, for nothing else, because many people think that the disciple rule is a legacy of feudalism and is cultivating people's servility.
? The most easily misunderstood statement "Parents should call, not be slow, parents should give orders, not be lazy." Let's take a look at the literal meaning first: children should respond to their parents' calls immediately, and don't keep their parents waiting. Parents' orders should be carried out immediately, and they should not be lazy. If understood in this way, then these two sentences are really cultivating children who have no personality and only know how to execute orders.
? Let's take an example first: there are two children, and one of them hears his parents shouting and reacts immediately. Another child, the parents shouted for a long time before agreeing, or pretended not to hear. Which child is popular? Obviously, children who respond positively are more likable. A positive answer is not only because he is obedient, but mainly because he responds positively to others.
? As we all know, family is the training ground of the future society. The education we received from childhood comes from our family, and the habits and rules we developed at home will be reflected in us. The way to enter society and behavior in the future comes from the family. There is an old saying in China: "Three years old means three years old, and seven years old means old." Many behavior patterns when a person grows up have been formed when he was a child. It is difficult to change your personality when you grow up.
? "Parents call, not slow down" to cultivate a positive and interactive character. Our world is a whole, how you treat others, others will treat you. What you send, the world will respond to you. If you respond positively, others will respond positively to you. If you neglect others, others will neglect you. In a team. Everyone responds positively, so the work will go more smoothly. For example, at work, after you send someone a message asking for cooperation, will others cooperate? Much depends on your reaction when others need your cooperation. If you usually interact with your colleagues very well and everyone feels harmonious and smooth with each other, then when you send out the request information, others will naturally come with pleasure.
? "Parents should not be slow" is to cultivate children to form a habit, and others have the habit of asking you to react quickly. This is the beginning of benign interaction with others. If you have such a benign interaction with your close family, then it will be an exercise. When it becomes a habit, it will be of great help to your work as an adult and will allow you to better enter the benign interaction with the people around you. Positive response reflects the attitude of caring, helping and respecting each other. Therefore, in such a circle, if you want to live happily, you must establish a benign and interactive relationship with everyone.
? "Parents, don't be lazy." For parents' requirements, children should do it seriously and don't delay or not do it because of their laziness. Most people have resistance to this sentence: parents' orders are not necessarily right. This requires parents. Parents should first improve their self-cultivation level and study more, so as to give their children more reasonable and helpful suggestions or requirements.
"Not lazy" means not lazy, but "diligent". Diligence and diligence are qualities that every teenager needs to cultivate. A child who can do well what his parents tell him can do well in school, unit and society. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's habit of "diligence" from an early age.
Parents' "fate", that is, instructions, what kind of instructions parents give, we also need to know something. For example, ask children to learn to do things by themselves, and don't rely on their parents. Finish homework on time, parents want their children to master a certain skill and so on.
Parents, don't be lazy. Don't be lazy about what your parents ask you to do, but do it diligently, which will improve yourself, because these are not for your parents, but for your own growth.
If you can form this habit in childhood and step into the society as an adult, you will be much more relaxed and happy.
Let's look at "the responsibilities of parents need to be inherited. "On the surface, when parents scold you, you should follow their wishes and don't contradict them. Is this to train children to be Nuo Nuo-only, with no opinions?
No, when parents blame them, if they are right, they promise to correct them immediately. If your parents blame you for being wrong, don't refute it on the spot. Accept it respectfully first, then find the right opportunity, and then communicate with your parents. Shuncheng is not about right or wrong, but about gratitude and love. On the one hand, we should take care of our parents' feelings. On the other hand, when parents are angry, they will also be angry, which will affect their health, so we can't refute it. "Disciples' Rules is followed by" Pro-Hade, Advise Many Ambassadors "."Yi Wu changed color and her voice was soft. " "It can be seen that the Disciples Rules does not require children to obey their parents.
? Li Xiaoyi's What is Emotional Intelligence? "Don't argue with leaders" mentioned in the book is a truth. The book also mentioned that in The Legend of the Condor Heroes, Guo Jing had many masters, and each master gave him everything. It is precisely because of the assistance of so many masters that martial artist Guo Jing has achieved great success. Most people who can walk with the strong have their own advantages. The advantage of Guo Jing is that he never argues with his master about right and wrong. This is a manifestation of high emotional intelligence and a rare quality.
"Parents' responsibilities need to be obeyed" conveys three educational concepts: respecting parents; Treat criticism modestly; Beautify the precipitation of life accomplishment.
Dr. Luo Dalun's "Disciples Say" analyzes disciples from a psychological point of view, combines China's traditional culture with modern civilization, and tells us what to inherit and what to abandon, rather than mechanically copying. This book is full of wisdom and worth studying and practicing.
At the same time, the author has a profound understanding of Tao Te Ching. When explaining Disciples' Rules, he will mention the content of "Heaven". The combination of the two can not only better understand the Disciples' Rules, but also make the Tao Te Ching concrete, and the "Heaven Way" that was difficult to understand in the past will be solved.