Nowadays, many news about outstanding students' suicide in colleges and universities are searched again and again. Does this imply that we, our education and our love for our children are really so selfless and great?

Parents always impose their expectations on their children and name them "love". However, many parents have never thought about whether this kind of love can be called love in the eyes of children.

We always exaggerate our children's senior high school entrance examination infinitely, and even define it as their whole life. Yes! The senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination are really important in a child's life, but are we exaggerating the definition of senior high school entrance examination as a child's life?

In a child's life, there will be countless teachers, but only one parent. Even teachers, they preach and teach, but they can never teach. A child learns so much knowledge to become the person he wants to be, not the so-called Tsinghua Peking University. Teachers can never finish teaching. Children in Tsinghua and Peking University are only a process, not a result. However, these can be taught by parents. As the first or even the half-life or lifelong teacher of a child, it is self-evident how important it is for parents to educate their children, and the best way for parents to educate is to set an example.

We always scold our children for being addicted to mobile phones, but we never thought that we were addicted to mobile phones ourselves. It is wrong for children to play games, but when they think of playing mobile phones, do they really study with them?

How can we ask our children to do things that we can't do ourselves? As friends, why can't we tell our children what to do if you want to be what you want to be?

Are these questions really that difficult in this new era? In 2020, China has entered a well-off era in an all-round way. The whole society has become completely different from that of more than 20 years ago. What children need now is not what their parents gave us many years ago. Only dreams can stimulate children's thirst for knowledge, and only innovative ability can guarantee their bright future.

Teachers and parents should understand that the learning ability we teach children now is for their better creativity in the future, not for their future. Learning is just a process, and creation is the result. We should boldly tell our children that "we are also parents for the first time, and we all make mistakes." But we are happy to correct our mistakes. "We should set an example and tell our children that" failure is not terrible, but fear of failure. "As guides, we should guide children to be what they want to be, instead of turning them into our ideal passers-by.

Parents' love should be a run-up machine for children to realize their dreams, rather than saying, "I did it for you." People's identities.