How to educate children is the right way. Children's growth is mostly influenced by family environment. Growth is a sweet and difficult process. The healthy growth of the baby can not be separated from the patient teaching of the parents. All parents must seize the opportunity. It is the right way to see how children are educated.

How to educate children is the right way. 1 1. Instill ideological education: After the child is born, we can give him ideological education slowly, teaching him what he can and cannot do, what he can and cannot see, and so on. In fact, shortly after the child was born, as a baby, he was not fully developed and completely ignorant. So I can only listen and watch. So we can tell him and show him. We should instill correct words and conduct correct ideological education from an early age. There is a saying like this, I have heard it too much, and I will know it after watching it too much.

2. Do a good job of benchmarking: The so-called benchmarking is the standard, that is, from the birth of a child, do a good job of benchmarking. Because children don't know anything, they don't know what to say and what not to say. Therefore, as parents, every move we make in front of our children will have a great impact on them. Because children are young, like imitation and curiosity, they will learn from adults. So we should set a good benchmark in front of children, don't do some bad habits in front of children, say something we shouldn't say, and avoid wrong guidance. For example: playing mobile phone, swearing, playing games and so on.

3. Learn to listen: When educating children, learn to listen to their thoughts. As children grow up, they will have their own ideas, doubts, curiosity and so on. Sometimes in study, school and society, we will face all kinds of problems, so we may do something wrong, we may get angry, hit him or scold him and so on. So when this happens, you must learn to listen to your children's ideas and don't impose your own ideas on others. As long as we listen, we can better understand children's thoughts and communicate better, thus avoiding the barriers and contradictions between children and parents.

4, children can not be spoiled, we should guide them correctly: don't spoil children from childhood, especially in this era, a family has only one child is not good, grandparents, parents and other relatives should be spoiled, it is easy to spoil children. Therefore, you must not spoil him. You must tell him what you can and can't do. You can't give anything you want. When the child cried, he was afraid. Be sure to stick to your own principles, otherwise the child will be easily spoiled and won't get it next time. Continue to use this crying and noisy method. But we can give correct guidance and education. For example, if a child wants to buy a toy, you don't want to buy it for him, and you can't kill the child's dream. Because once strangled, it will affect the child's mind. Once you give it to him, he doesn't know how to cherish it, thinking it's as simple as getting something without paying. But if it is strangled, he will think, unexpectedly, it is so difficult to get this thing, there will be no desire behind it. So you can use some good guidance methods, such as whether to buy this gift for you on your birthday, or whether to buy it for you when you get 80 points in the next exam. This can not only arouse the child's enthusiasm, but also tell him that it takes effort to get something, not immediately. In this way, children will cherish hard-won things and work hard for what they want.

Children should spend more time together: as a child, I have a lot of ideas in my heart. I was very ignorant when I was born and knew nothing about this society. So there will be a lot of curiosity and I don't know what I can and can't do. Especially after entering school from home, children's thoughts will change because of the change of environment. Therefore, it will affect the healthy growth of the child and make him deviate from the track. Especially now young people are working outside the home, leaving their children to the elderly. Or maybe you are too busy at work to take care of it. None of this is good. As parents, we should give our children more time and spend more time with them, so that when we are with our children, we may find out what problems they have, and we can communicate and solve them in time to avoid adverse consequences. Children will also communicate with their parents and express their ideas. If you are with the elderly, after all, the education methods and concepts are different, and you will be led in the wrong direction. So I must spend more time with you.

6. Give more encouragement and support to children: As parents, give children positive thoughts and inspiration. Don't beat and scold children, don't always talk about their achievements, and don't always compare children with others. Because this will affect the healthy development of children's thoughts, we should educate children in the right way and direction. You can't deal with children seriously because they don't do well in exams, or fall down, or fight at school and don't obey. These methods are not suitable. For these problems, it is necessary to guide, understand the child's heart and give more encouragement and support. Find out the reasons why children do badly in exams, because of those reasons. You can't always put pressure on your child because of your grades and punish your child. On the basis of understanding and communication, we should guide and encourage them through the right methods. For example, I didn't do well in this exam. It's okay. Try again later. Or because the teacher's education is not good, or the parents didn't give you homework guidance, and so on. Just like we used to study, we can get good grades without being forced by our parents. Therefore, we must pay attention to the correct method, otherwise the child is fragile inside, and sometimes it is serious to do bad things because of great pressure.

7. Take children outdoors more: A good way to educate children is not to keep them at home, but to keep them learning. We should understand the truth of Meng Mu's "Three Movements", and also know how to expose children to new environments and new things, let him see other better children's learning methods and ideas, let them communicate with children of the same age and outstanding children, and let them communicate in their hearts to promote their healthy development. It can also let children know and understand a lot, which is also very important for their development.

8. Know how to respect children: As children grow up day by day, they will gradually form their own ideas and have their own ideas. We shouldn't impose our ideas on our children, and we shouldn't let them help you realize our dreams and ideas. They can be responsible for their own future. Although parents want them to be better, this is caring, but if children don't understand, they will hate us more and more. We should respect children's ideas and let them do what they like and what they are interested in. After all, we can't stay with them for a lifetime, nor can we take care of them for a lifetime. We should know how to let go and not hold on too tightly, otherwise we will hurt our children and ourselves.

9. Know how to give children the space for independent thinking: As we all know, education is very important to children, so parents have always loved their children and taken special care of their families since childhood, so they always stare at their children, learn this and do that, and never give them independent space and ideas. This is also not acceptable. As a parent, you must stand in the child's perspective and think about it. Although many things children don't know or understand. But as parents, we need to give guidance and support, pay attention to and care for children's physical and mental health, pay attention to children's ideas, give children space for independent thinking, give children their own space, and let children grow up happily and healthily, just as we adults sometimes need our own personal space and ideas. This is a truth.

How to educate children is the right way. The first thing: cultivate a good parent-child relationship.

A good relationship is better than many educations. When parents have a good relationship with their children, the education of their children will be easy to succeed; When the relationship with children is not good, the education of children is easy to fail. The key to establishing a good parent-child relationship lies in "orientation";

1. Learn to be a lawyer instead of a "judge"

Some parents can't wait to become "judges" when they see that their children have problems, which is very dangerous. Children's inner world is rich and colorful, and parents should actively influence and educate their children. Without understanding their inner world, there is no way to talk about it. The first key to understanding children is to care about their self-esteem, safeguard their rights and become their trusted and respected friends.

That is, parents should treat their children like "lawyers", understand their inner needs, and always take safeguarding their legitimate rights and interests as their sole purpose.

2, improper "referee", learn to be a "cheerleader"

In the arena of life, children can only work hard on their own.

Parents should be the "cheerleaders" of their children, not only be good at discovering and praising their children, but also guide them to face failure correctly and be their comrades-in-arms before setbacks.

3, improper "animal trainer", learn to be a "mirror"

Children can only overcome themselves by knowing themselves, but usually they can only know themselves according to other people's feedback. At this time, the "feedback" role of parents, that is, the role of mirrors, is very important.

Learn to be a "mirror" instead of an "animal trainer". Only in this way can children improve their self-awareness and communicate with their parents instead of being afraid of their "authority".

Education is divided into three parts and seven parts. "Wait a minute" is very useful. For example, if we are bitten by mosquitoes, we will get well soon, but if we always scratch, it will take a long time to get well. The reason is that the human body has a certain self-healing function. Being bitten by mosquitoes will soon get better, and applying external force will only be counterproductive.

The same is true of education. Stop, wait, give the child a chance to speak, communicate effectively with the child, and solve the problem without education.

The second thing: cultivate children's good habits.

Habits determine the fate of children, and nothing is more important than habit formation. If parents don't pay attention to cultivate their children's good habits, they are undoubtedly ruining their children's bright future.

1, everything starts with habit formation.

Cultivating education is lifelong education. Intellectual education is a good habit of thinking, moral education is a small habit of behavior, and quality education is more reflected in people's small behaviors.

A large number of facts have proved that habit is a tenacious force that can dominate a person's life. Everything about children begins with the cultivation of habits.

2. Habits are not built in a day.

Habit is a big problem and great wisdom. The formation of good habits is not a day's work. Its main principles are: low starting point, strict requirements, small steps, fast pace, more activities, change, quick feedback and diligent reform.

The key to habit formation is decided in the first three days and one month. Parents should fully respect their children's rights and let them play the role of masters in habit formation.

3. Cultivate casting character through habit.

Education is like sailing on the sea, so we must follow the correct route, otherwise, the bigger the ship, the greater the danger of hitting the rocks and sinking.

People's quality determines the development direction of people. One of the core tasks of family education is to train children to become real people. However, the cultivation of personality is usually difficult to implement in specific operations. However, the researchers found that habit and personality are complementary, habit affects personality, and personality affects habit more. Decent, honest, responsible, caring, cooperative spirit, efficiency and other qualities can be cast through habit cultivation.

The third thing: guide children to learn to learn.

It is an important duty of parents to attract children to love learning and guide them to learn to learn, which is also the real charm of parents.

1, children are tired of learning for a reason.

Let it go, let it be chic; If you don't care, you will get beans; Nagging and cursing, beating and swearing at will; Don't arrange things, but create "machines" ... If parents take this unwise approach, they will only make their children less and less fond of learning.

2. It can stimulate children's curiosity and learning potential.

Children's lack of curiosity is usually not due to the influence of parents or the lack of strict requirements, but because their interest is hindered. Interest (curiosity), dreams, sense of accomplishment, questioning, gratitude, enthusiasm and anger are all channels to dredge and stimulate children's curiosity. For children, the so-called competitive advantage is the effective development of potential. Mood, enlightenment, suggestion, reverie, perseverance and planning are the six principles to stimulate children's learning potential.

Although there is no absolute "timetable" for potential development, it is important to have steps, such as setting goals, controlling emotions, sharpening the will and focusing on one point.

There is a way for children to be the first in the exam.

Love of learning is the premise of learning, and learning is the guarantee of love of learning. Only learning can "learn well".

If children want to be the first in the exam, they must master some decisive methods, such as completing the exam as planned, writing carefully, reading textbooks slowly, sorting out wrong questions, taking notes at will, helping their classmates selflessly, taking exams efficiently and writing freely.

Now many parents have entered a new misunderstanding in educating their children, that is, blindly following or even infatuating with the so-called successful parenting experience, but these experiences sound easier said than done. Because they are not "portable", if you just clone and imitate them blindly, you will not be able to implement them on your own children, but you will easily "learn to walk" and have the opposite effect.

The most useful and real things need to calm down and think about refining. Educating children is not as complicated as parents think. It is not a distant dream to grasp the three major events of parent-child relationship, habit formation and learning. Parents become excellent parents and children become excellent children.