1, pay attention to cultivating children's independence, and let children independently undertake some things within their power. Let him do what he wants, as long as there is no danger. Parents should not do everything in detail and encourage their children's dependence. Give full play to children's subjective initiative and cultivate independent character and ability.
Create opportunities for children to work hard to get what they want. If the child's requirements are reasonable, parents can create opportunities for the child, share some housework that the child can do, and then give appropriate rewards. Evaluate your children objectively. Don't exaggerate the advantages of children, and don't cover up their shortcomings.
2. Parents should pay attention to self-cultivation and establish authority. If parents don't like learning and know how to eat, drink and be merry, bad behavior, vulgar behavior, selfish and unfilial behavior will have a very far-reaching impact on their children. The role of authority in the family is to maintain order and rules. Therefore, in daily life, parents should always check their words and deeds everywhere.
Every child has his own advantages and disadvantages. If parents and teachers often evaluate their children through horizontal comparison, or even teach them in a reproachful tone, saying that children are not as good as this or that, children will easily feel inferior, and their nature and creativity may be suppressed. Especially for those children who are introverted and have little desire to express themselves, it is more important to give more encouragement.
Typical family education model
1, authoritarian family education
This is the most serious parenting tendency, with a high degree of control over children and low acceptance. Parents will impose many rules and expect their children to strictly abide by them, but there is little open dialogue between parents and children. Parents seldom explain to their children why they need to obey those rules.
2. Authoritative family education
Authoritative parents are also called democratic parents. This type of counseling is widely regarded as the most effective and helpful way. This kind of parents are more flexible, they will have requirements and control over their children, but they will also accept their children's ideas and respond positively.
They will make clear rules and constantly strengthen them, which in turn will explain the meaning behind the rules to children. When the whole family makes a decision, they will include the children. Treat children in a rational and democratic way. This way can often create a healthy family environment for children's growth and promote a more positive relationship between parents and children.
3. Indulge family education
Pampering with family education is considered as a way of family education that will hurt children. This kind of parents will respond positively to their children, but rarely ask for it. They encourage children to express their feelings, but rarely control their behavior. In this way, the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. Parents make few rules and there is no continuity.