Fan Wenkexin, a kindergarten middle class, is a very cute and clever child, always ready to help others. Both parents are senior intellectuals, and they attach great importance to the education of caring and have high requirements. But the wishes of adults are not well realized in children. Kexin's mother was brought up by her aunt because of her busy work since she was a child. Auntie is very careful with her children, but she is very helpful in taking care of herself, such as eating. In order to make kexin eat well, aunt cooked according to the recipe provided by her father, and then kept feeding her. However, when she went to kindergarten, we attached great importance to cultivating children's self-care ability, and parents quickly changed their ideas and felt that they should cooperate with teachers to strengthen their children's ability in this respect.
Especially when eating, let the aunt put down her hand and let the children eat by themselves. After a period of observation, the problem of children eating has not been well solved from time to time. At home, they are always urged by their parents to finish their meals. Adults don't eat when they are gone, and sometimes they just sit still. Adults criticize if they love it, but don't respond if they are urged too much. So I think for this child, how to make her eat actively and happily will be something we need to reflect on and make a solution.
Description 1:
At the airport pick-up time in the afternoon, Aunt Kexin stepped into the classroom and saw me. She asked, "Teacher, did Kexin eat all the meals and vegetables in the kindergarten today?" Because my father is a doctor, he is very concerned about children's health, so he is also very concerned about their diet in kindergarten. Every day my parents will ask my aunt when they come home, so when they come to pick up the children every day, they will ask us about our dinner today.
"Oh, I'm glad I ate a little slowly today. I haven't eaten all the rice and vegetables. " I answered the children's eating questions truthfully.
"Hey, the child is like this. I feed her at home. I feed her before eating. If I don't feed her, I won't eat a bite. " Aunt answered helplessly. "It is best to encourage children to eat by themselves, so that she will take the initiative to eat in kindergarten." I told my aunt sincerely. Ok, try it at home today. Aunt nodded and went home with Kexin.
Description 2:
The next day, Aunt Kexin came to pick up the children. I asked her, "Aunt, how did Kexin eat at home yesterday?" I care about the investigation.
I let Kexin eat by herself yesterday. At first, I didn't eat. Later, his father came over and he ate when he was angry.
"Is it too early for their family to eat, but I'm glad I'm not hungry?"
"I don't know. As soon as we got home, we gave our child some snacks for fear that she would be hungry. At night, we all have a bad appetite. When we eat, it is the most distressing time at home. " Aunt replied.
"Then you should try to give your child some fruit when she comes home from kindergarten today, and don't eat that indigestible snack," I suggested.
Description 3:
Because of work, our parents seldom go to the kindergarten to pick up their children, so we have little direct communication with them. Therefore, I think it is necessary to discuss the children's diet with their lovely parents more deeply and make them fall in love with eating. In my spare time, I called Kexin's mother. Through understanding, I found that parents attach great importance to their children's food intake. In order to balance their children's nutrition, they require their children to eat all the food provided by their parents.
"It's really a headache for children to eat now," but my mother said helplessly.
"The most important thing now is to let children like to eat and take the initiative to eat. At the beginning, we asked not to be too high, the quantity should be less first, and not enough to add, so as to create a good dining atmosphere. We should work together more, and children should not have a problem eating. " I said encouragingly. Case study:
Children's lack of food has become the biggest headache for many parents at present, and many parents are worried about it. They have really tried their best to feed their children. Under normal circumstances, if the child develops normally and is healthy, parents may need to put a question mark on what they think is "not eating well". I think the main reasons for children's eating problems now are as follows:
First, some parents' ideas have not changed. Many parents, especially the elderly, like to keep their children fat so that they can feel healthy. The thinness of children is caused by poor eating. Generally speaking, every child has a different appetite. Some children eat more naturally, while others eat less naturally. As long as you are healthy, it is not good for your child's health to blindly pursue a little fat. Of course, if the child eats very little and is thin, he should take the child to see a doctor, and then go to see the parents' parenting problems on the basis of confirming that the child has no gastrointestinal problems.
Second, the constant attention of parents. Dr. Ricks believes that when we know that the psychological reason for children not to eat is to unreasonably ask parents to "keep their attention", then when parents avoid their children's improper requirements and take the initiative to ignore their embarrassing behavior when eating, children can change their bad habit of not eating. But eating at home is eaten by three adults around a child. Constantly urging children and suggesting that children eat this and that will cause children's disgust.
Third, children eat irregularly and casually. In real life, we find that the most intolerable thing for parents is to let their children taste the taste of hunger, which is often that children can eat whatever they want. Therefore, as soon as school is over, they will give their children some snacks and snacks before dinner time. When it's time to eat, children will feel hungry and have a bad appetite, and then they won't eat well.
Fourth, the dining atmosphere is too serious, affecting children's appetite. Every child pursues freedom at heart. If parents criticize their children before or during meals or after their children are full, they always think that their children are not full and force them to continue eating. In this way, children will suffer from anorexia for a long time. Reflection:
First, change the way you eat. Parents changed from "management" to "no matter".
Eating or not eating, hungry or not, this is the child's own choice. Eating more and eating less will be controlled by the child himself. If the child is full, parents will insist that the child finish the prescribed food, which will stimulate the child's bad mood. Benjamin spock, a famous American pediatrician and psychologist, explained this question very clearly. He said, "Why are so many children unable to eat? Mainly because many parents like to urge their children to eat-this sentence explains things clearly. The main reason why children don't like eating is that parents care too much about their children's meals. Parents' long-term urging will also lead to children's anorexia, and normal appetite will be destroyed by the kindness of adults who have abundant material and time at present. Therefore, if the child is full, the child has the right to refuse. In the case, we found that the lovely parents paid too much attention to their children's meals and interfered too much. Children who are independent and rebellious are prone to conflicts. If they are not satisfied with what they eat, they will hate it next time. Lead to negative psychology about eating.
Second, create a good dining atmosphere and enhance children's appetite.
Children like to eat in a relaxed and harmonious environment, so parents should try their best to create a good dining atmosphere at the dinner table, with less scolding and dissatisfaction, and discuss their favorite topics. Slowly, children will feel that meal time is a happy time for the whole family, and they will like to sit at the dinner table and eat with adults.
Third, reasonably adjust children's diet time and diet structure.
Check whether children eat too much, the interval between meals and snacks is too short, or there are too many snacks and sweets. Then adjust the diet time and diet structure according to the characteristics of children. If your child eats too many snacks, you can reduce or even cancel them to give your child time to empty his stomach. In addition, parents should provide their children with colorful and varied diets to stimulate their appetite and improve their dining behavior. In this case, the parents were worried that their children were hungry and gave them food before the meal time. The interval between dinner and snacks is too short, so children can't eat well at mealtimes. Therefore, I suggest that if the children don't eat well at dinner, parents can reduce the amount of snacks according to the situation, or they can not eat them.
Fourth, children should eat by themselves, and don't feed them.
Children can feed themselves from about one and a half years old, so there is absolutely no need for parents in kindergarten to feed their children so hard. Regular feeding will affect children's appetite, but also affect the development of children's hand skills and physical skills. If you are used to feeding before, parents should immediately change their ways and tell their children to eat by themselves when they grow up. If you are not used to eating at first, you will be hungry after a few meals, and you will definitely not be hungry. Only by starting from the root causes will they really let their children take the initiative to eat.
5. Don't turn the dining table into a negotiating table.
Some parents want their children to eat well and eat more. They always like to negotiate with their children with some material conditions. For example, if you eat well, your mother will buy you toys or go out to play. The child is very clever. The next time he wants something, he will always talk to his parents about the conditions and exchange unreasonable demands for dinner. Eating became the object or task of negotiation, which had a negative impact on his children. In the case, parents like to exchange their children's favorite toys for their children's good meals to promote their children's better meals. It may make children eat faster at first, but this method will make children utilitarian and turn eating into a task.
Sixth, use language hints to help children develop a good habit of not picky eaters and partial eclipse.
Some children don't like vegetables, so parents should never say anything, let alone teach them face to face, and don't rush to find substitutes.
Just pretend that you don't know what to let him eat, and just take out something. Parents can eat such things with relish in front of their children, and then tell them in a very attractive tone to arouse their appetite: "Today's food is really delicious!" Some foods that can be guided, such as carrots, can be eaten first, tasted carefully and then expressed their feelings, and then let the baby try. Tasting delicious food together is much better than feeding the baby hard.
Seven, lead by example, imperceptibly.
The baby is eager to grow up by himself. One of the manifestations of this desire is to learn from adults, and he will try everything that adults often do. So if you want your baby to have a good eating habit, then adults must first have a correct eating habit.
Eating is a human nature. "Let the children eat well" is actually not difficult. After two weeks of adjustment. Fortunately, children can eat independently at home, and lack of food has become a headache for their families. From the relaxed smiles of my parents, I know that they have found the right way.
I recommend it carefully.