So, what is the sign of children growing up all the way? We should find out. It is the ability of children to live independently, and it is the ability of children to learn independently. It is the child's ability to work independently, the child's ability to undertake family responsibilities, and the child's ability to shoulder the construction of the motherland ... These skills require children to practice themselves, be down-to-earth, and master them again and again. If parents blindly try their best to deprive their children of their rights, it will really harm their children and themselves. It not only deprives children of the opportunity to grow up, but also sacrifices their free life.
Before, a first-year student in our class said something that shocked me: the student has good academic performance, strong comprehensive ability and strong opinion. The way parents discipline their children is democratic, and they once demanded too much of his academic performance. The child actually said: I know, our children are just your accessories. When his mother communicated with me here, I was as shocked as his parents, shocked at how a first-grade child could say such a thing. I was shocked and communicated for a long time.
Children must first become what they want to be. We are just helping them become the people they want to be all their lives. Before that, we should also help them lay a good foundation in knowledge and habits, so that they can become the people they want to be. Neither parents nor teachers can make decisions for them, but they can only guide them to be good people like guides.
Then I think education in the new era can do this:
1. Warm family environment. Parents should first create a harmonious family environment for their children. Parents' influence on their children is very important. When everything goes well and the family is harmonious, children will feel safe and feel the feeling of love.
2. Correct values. Parents should set a good example for their children, have correct values, don't talk about others in front of their children, don't gossip, and don't do things that affect their physical and mental health.
3. Good academic atmosphere. Changing a person is inseparable from the role of reading. Parents lead by example, take the lead in reading, nourish children's hearts with knowledge, and cultivate children's concepts with scholarly atmosphere.
4. Sufficient company time. Children are our future, and everything we strive to create is for children to have a better future. It is better to grow up with children than to leave them with material things. Children's physical and mental health should be more important than money.
5. Communicate with children more, be good at discovering and observing children's behavior habits and emotional reactions, and provide reasonable guidance and comfort in time.
6. Take more children to participate in labor practice. Labor can exercise children's perseverance and intelligence. Through labor, we can learn a lot of traditional wisdom and culture in China, which is precious for children's life growth.
7. Blame and complain less and learn more from children. In fact, the process of educating children is also the process of educating yourself. We should be good at discovering the bright spots in children, learn from them and encourage them to keep moving in the right direction. Blame is not love, complaining will only kill children's spirituality.
I think parents should let go of their children at the right time, let them have their own independent thoughts, let them grow up freely, give them some space, give them some time, and then what we expect to see is that children grow up healthily and live a colorful and perfect life!