I think parents like to compare their children with other people's children. There is only one reason, and that is inferiority. In the case that they are inferior to others, they place their hopes on their next generation and hope that their children will become excellent. Some parents hope to encourage their children to become better through self-denial and beating, but this gives them more pain. They only pin their hopes on the next generation. You may never have heard her say that children are always better than their parents. When you go further, there will be better children waiting, and so on.

When I was studying, especially in junior high school and senior high school, my parents often compared my good grades and began to educate me not to play with those poor students, but to study with children with good grades. Now that I think about it, maybe my parents want me to realize the gap with others and then let me study hard, but at that time I will feel bored, because whenever I study hard and make greater progress, I will never be praised again, but continue to work hard with better children. At that time, there was a child whose English score was better than mine, but everything else was worse than mine. But my mother often uses this as an excuse to say, you see that child is not as good as you, and his English score is better than yours, so you still don't study hard.

Now, I think China's parents didn't give their children a clear position. They always ask their children to develop in an all-round way, but are there really people in this world who are proficient in everything? All saints have shortcomings, not to mention ordinary children. Comparison will make parents selectively ignore the advantages of their children. One emphasizes his own shortcomings, but at the same time, he should set a few examples for his children and ask them to gather the strengths of a hundred schools, but all children are not geniuses. Your child may not be able to do such a thing, but your parents will not think that they will only criticize their children in comparison, which will eventually lead to their inferiority complex and wisdom will lead to their strong self-doubt. You may live in the shadow of life. When parents emphasize that you only play with children who study well, and don't play with children who don't study well, you will be divided into classes, layer by layer. Will this be your child's innocent childhood? Could it be that children have pure friendship?

Other children's academic performance is good, and their own children play the piano well, but parents will only see the advantages of other children, praise others infinitely, and belittle their own children, which invisibly puts pressure and restrictions on their own children, but everyone's talents are different. Li Bai said I was born useful. You can ask fish to swim, but you can't ask to climb trees. Maybe your own children are not outstanding in this respect, but you should also see that your own children are also outstanding in another respect.